i just don't understand God at all?

Question

Honor thy mother and thy father? People like me being physically ,mentally, sexually and emotionally abused by their parents? how can you honor them?
if you don't God will be against you so you will have ur parents against you and god. You can't honor someone who abuses you. Is it my fault i'm like this?

Answer 1

by not speaking out in public against them ... even if they are bad ...

Answer 2

No, it's not your fault that you are like this. Your parents screwed you up, and (unfairly) it's more or less up to you to straighten yourself up.

Honoring your parents maybe sounds like more to us today than it really meant when written. God doesn't mean for you to organize a parade for them, or give them some public award or acclaim.

Were you basically a good kid, doing what your parents asked and not being too big a pain in the backside? Good, that's honoring them. Did you publicly humiliate your parents and air out all their dirty little secrets? No? Good, that's honoring them. Would you acknowledge the things they did right for you (whatever they may be)? Another up-check for honoring them.

Congrats on meeting the spirit and intent of the commandment. God knows your suffering, and you will see justice for what they have done. I'm sorry that your life hasn't been better thus far. Hope things get better.

Answer 3

it comes with a promise. and it's more for you: if you will love your parents, no matter how wicked, then it's easier to love people who are insultery, once you've gotten over the parental issues. God calls us to be the "bigger-man"; the rotten apples around you don't have to spoil your core.

and it is not true that you CAN't honor someone who abuses you. God doesn't ask us to do the impossible. that's His job, and you know how He feels about laziness....

you want some ways you can "honor" your parents?
1- don't swear about or speak ill of them
2- if they want you to do something immoral, don't, but don't disrespect them. just respectfully say "no" and walk away if you have to
3- turn the other cheek. even if they don't appreciate it, atleast you know that you're not the immoral one. going down to their level would be a lose-lose situation
4- try leading them to Christ if they're not saved.

also, think about this: goodness is like an empire; you secure what is close to you before you secure what is far from you; a hug cannot exceed your grasp; if you cannot hug your parents who are a few feet away, then how can you hug those far far away, such as those in 3rd world countries who are worse off than you?

"if you cannot love your brother whom you do see, how can you love your father whom you cannot see?"

Answer 4

No its not your fault. You can't affect your parents any more than your Dad can change his brain.

There is God the father, and God the mother (the masculine and feminine aspects of God). If you honor God, you honor all created beings. If you are less ignorant than your parents, it is a blessing for you. If you can treat your parents as you wish to be treated yourself, despite their abuses towards you, then you will become like their father.

Answer 5

When your parents are abusive, you don't have to honor them the same way you would if they were not.

There are duties that go along with being a parent, too. Parents who do not act to meet these duties and who don't work for the wellbeing of their children are not entitled to all of the respect of a parent.

You are not obligated to "honor" their abusive un-parentlike behavior just because you are their offspring.

Answer 6

By honoring your mother and your father, you don't talk bad about them even when they are extremely bad. You pray for them that God will intervene and change their wicked heart.
You forgive them for what they've done to you because if you don't forgive them bitterness can cause many diseases. Bitterness has a way of making the body attack the body. The Lord tells us to pray for those that spitefully use us.

No, it is not your fault that they abuse you. Next time it happens scream out - Jesus protect me. If they are demon possessed the demon will tremble at the name of Jesus and the demon will turn on your parents and not you. If you have a Bible read it. Just reading the Bible may keep them away from you until a teacher or neighbor can get you out of the situation.

The reason you honor your father and mother is so your days on this earth will be long - not theirs. Forgive them. Pray for them. Pray that God will send someone to stop them from abusing you and tell a neighbor what they are doing. Tell the teacher at school what they are doing.

Answer 7

I am so sorry you went through this! The bible also says to obey the law of the land, and they clearly are not obedient. Real honor in this case means confronting them for their sins through the authorities so that they can get help, jail if it is needed, and can repent. They might avoid hell in this way, and you can begin healing and not have to live as a victim any longer.

Get help right away.

Tom

Answer 8

I will not honor a parent that does not honor me.

Plain and simple.

Why?

because when God put down the rule of honoring life, he made it for everyone, and my parents are under the law too.

I suggest you refrain from going down to their level, and just ignore them, and try to mend your own bruises.

Answer 9

my parents abused me too, but to some point i think i still honored them anyway by listening to them even though it was out of fear. God doesn't mean honor them if they are abusing you. Honor yourself and turn them into the authorities. I've been through and seen it all and they weren't the typed who believed in God. By the grace of God I came to believe in Him as an adult. I let go of the past and forgave my parents. Just let it go. Give it to God.

Answer 10

I guess you came from a religiously-abusive background.
Most people who are religiously abused don't have your stength to put it out in public.
I congratulate you.
There are still kids today being taught that noah took the animals two-by-two and all sorts of lies.
It's great of you to make a stand. It does a little bit to save future generations from this superstitious nonsense.
Reality Loves You!

Answer 11

Honor only those who are worthy of it. That parents are worthy is a rebuttable presumption.