I have been divorced to several years. My daughters are 8 and 11. I started dating a new guy a month ago and things are going well. My daughters know I am dating someone new. I met him through mutual friends at their house one night when my kids where around (he even was playing with all the kids). My kids don't know that he is the guy I am dating. How long do I wait to introduce him to my kids.
If it helps my older daughter has told me she wants me to be happy and hopes that he is nice.
2007-05-17 11:44:39 · 29 answers · asked by wanabe30 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would see if maybe he could call the house one day when you and the girls are there and invite all of you to be his date out. Then all of you can go out and have a night of fun, Dinner then maybe some mini golf, bowling or arcade (make sure its something the girls like) This way they will feel included and know that he is nice and wants to do fun stuff with them. I dont think you should wait anylonger to indroduce them.
My mom waited a long time to introduce her new bf and I never liked him, I always felt deep down that he didnt like kids and thats why he never wanted to meet us (he didnt have kids). They ended up breaking up (thank god)
I dont think your girls will have negitive feelings towards him if you introduce them and then spend time with the girls and him, making sure not to ditch your girls for a night out with him :) (you do need your (him &you) alone time but just make sure not to leave the girls home all the time)
Good Luck & I hope i have helped in some way :)
2007-05-17 11:53:01 · answer #1 · answered by KT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a daughter of divorce - the longer the better! I hope the best for you, but the relationship is still too new, and you don't want to get into a habit of bringing men around your kids. The time is right when you both decide the relationship is getting serious, and you see a possible future with one another. It will show respect to you daughters and when/ if you need to explain this to them, they'll be happy that you're thinking of thier best interest!
2007-05-17 11:50:52 · answer #2 · answered by mmcmahonoakley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Daughters and boyfriends don't really go well together, you say Bf ! does he have children ?, is he estranged from them ?, is there a reason ? Best thing to do is sign him up as responsible for the kids, then just go to court get a TRO, and there is nothing he can do but pay. Don't delude yourself girl, women need to make a new future, without men. Thank god you have girls, just teach them what men are, sperm donors, and certainly don't ever leave him alone with your kids. You have an 86% chance of not being happy with a male, try a female instead you will be much happier, and your kids will be much better for it.
2007-05-17 12:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by Not so cool 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how YOU feel about it. Are you comfortable with it? If you are then do it. What I would suggest is having him come over and everyone go out together to a park or somewhere kinda fun for the kids. That way you can pretty much judge how the kids are doing with it as well as how he is coping with the situation as well. I'm 48 and have been in many instances where I would be introduced to the kids. This has always worked for me. I wish you luck.
2007-05-17 11:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a caring daughter you have. Take your time! Your daughters want you to be happy - If you feel that he is the person who makes you happy, then do what your heart tells you. Maybe, you should introduce them, after all, he will part of the family so to speak. If he gets on with your daughters, well, things will be even better all round - A happy mother makes a happy home!
2007-05-17 11:57:14 · answer #5 · answered by Elia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sure that your relationship is really going to last for a long time, then that is when you should introduce him to your children. If you introduce him before that you are setting yourself up for problems because if you break up it could have an impact on how your children feel. I can't tell you specifically how long it would take though because relationships move at different speeds. You are a step ahead of the game though because you seam to have very understanding daughters who will be supportive of you.
2007-05-17 11:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by ══♡══ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very risky business! I've been in very simular situations and me being the kid it really takes a toll. It can be different though. If your children don't like when you go out and hate when you date then you might wanna pick your timming when you know u and your boy are serious. But if they really don't care and they're just not used to you dating then tell them soon. If he's a real nice guy then they might even thik he's fun to hang out with! But from what you said your daughter said... just go for it!
2007-05-17 11:51:11 · answer #7 · answered by Sexi Lexi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait a few months before introducing him just because if things dont go well and u end up not being together, and your kids met him ,that might confuse them a bit
2007-05-17 11:47:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until u r for real serious about this man 1 month is to soon, cuz when u bring a new man into the situation to soon the kids may get attached, and it may nt wrk outfor u two. then the kids r left asking wheres so and so. and not only when its over ur upset but ur kids r hurting as well
2007-05-17 11:49:35 · answer #9 · answered by sunfiregirlnc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's actually a good sign. Your boyfriend likes your kids and your kids wants you to be happy at the same time. Introduce it as soon as you get a chance, take them all out one weekend and spend time with them.
2007-05-17 11:48:56 · answer #10 · answered by C A M S ™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋