My girlfriend broke up with me over the phone after 6 yrs of being together..is this right?

Question

Ok here it goes..its been 3 week since I got the phone call for a "break", do you really think this was the right thing to do? Sure there were problems in the relationship..but who doesnt have problems in theirs? Im not too sure what i should do? She said to be patient, and maybe wait till the Summer is over and we can see then. But I feel like I'm in limbo..with answers that I need answered. Belive me I love this girl, and I'd do anything to have her back with me again. I dont want to do the wrong thing and put more pressure on the situation. I'm 33 she is 28. She say we weren't a good couple. Now all I want to do is make things right. I know she loves and she knows I love her. What should I do? Should I be upset about her over the phone deal? Or did I really deserve it, which I dont think I did. Can you enlighten me a bit? My heart is broken. I really care about us, and her. Thank you

Answer 1

nawww that aint right , but i don think you should wait around for the summer to be over for her to make up her mind either that only says she needs time to go out and screw around and when she is done come back to you when the summer is over. I would let her know how you feel and that the phone thing was wrong you deserve a convo face to face if she says its completely over dude let it be and move on she prob dont deserve you

Answer 2

Aww....Poor baby. I wanna give you a big hug. It's gonna be OK. Trust me and more importantly, trust yourself. You should DEFINITELY be mad over her decision to tell you about the "break" over the phone. To me, this exhibits her lack of respect for the relationship and her lack of respect for you. Or maybe she's just too into herself. I don't know.

Please, PLEASE do not wait around on her. When it's time for the relationship to resume, let her be the one who tells you she wants you back. Not the other way around. In fact, if I were you, I wouldn't give her ANY indication that you want her back. You may not feel this way, but the ball is entirely in your court now. She just gave you the upper hand and despite how much you are in love with her right now, you need to do things on your terms. Don't wait for summer to be over so she can call the shots.

I think you should go out and have a little fun doing something you like spending time with people you love. Whether you get back together with her or not, just remember that in order for one chapter to begin, the last one has to end.

You sound like a great dude. You'll be fine. bK.

Answer 3

Is it right to continue pursuing a relationship with this girl after her breaking up with you? NO. Doesn't matter if it's over the phone, email, text, fax, or message in a bottle. The one and ONLY way for you to make it work is to let it go and start dating other girls immediately. You don't even consider getting back together with her until she's on her hands and knees BEGGING to have you back, to which you will say no because you're having too much fun with your new little pop-tarts.

Answer 4

I'm sorry that you are hurt. You should really just try to move on, because it sounds like she has. Most likely, she has found someone new. There might be a day when she comes back and will try to get back together with you... but by then you shouldnt take her back. Dont let her mess with your head and heart!!! You might just keep getting hurt again if you take her back. And you are right, almost every relationship that has lasted that long has its ups and downs... but to have a serious discussion over the phone like that wasn't right.

It will be hard... but try to move on and forget about her.

Answer 5

dear i feel sorry for you because if i were in this sotuation i would probably cry my eyess out .. because i am a girl its not that i am weak but its just i can not bare him getting apart from me.. we were together for five years.. we are married now.. my relationship was not easy too but we got married finally.. you dont have to worry if she says its over well call her and talk to her without stalking or disturbing her too much. tell her whatever you feel about her. and that you love her more than anything .. also tell her that you want to spent the rest of the life wiyh her .. if she really loves you she will come back.. give her time.. and pray to god that your love comes back .. if she loved you before the love will not die .. dont worry i will pray for you two to get back together.. another thing if she is involved with someone then thats a different case.. you should movbe on and live a better life.. show her that you are worthered and thatyou should not be treated like dirt sice you have been together for 6 years. live a better and happeir life .. dont worry .. but if you believe that she is not betraying you and that she only needs a break then talk to each other soo no other delays can be encounterd

Answer 6

Perhaps it's not fault, but she wants to move on because of different reasons.She wants a break, there's nothing you can do but let her have it.You can't make anyone that doesn't want to be with you, to be with you.
You must feel very heartbroken, but only thing you can do is move on.Because it's like a wound, tempted to touch but if you do, all you do is hurt yourself more.
I do have to say that breaking up over the phone wasn't the most appropriate thing to do.She should have talked to you, especially since you have six years together.
Yeah, it must easy to say but you have to give her the space she wants.Whatever is going to be will be.Meaning, if you're meant to be together somehow you will end up together.If you're not,you won't.

Answer 7

If you aren't a violent boyfriend, then she could have broken up with you in person. Over the phone may have been easier for her. The summer is a long time to be broken up as a trial separation. She probably found another guy to talk to or she just wants to have fun over the summer. Don't sit around and wait for her to come back. Continue to leave the single life. If it is meant to be, then she will come back.

Answer 8

My advice. Let it go. If she didn't have the courage to break up with you in person, do you really (I'm not being mean) think she is worth waiting for? She has to learn that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. That and I had a guy break up with me over the phone, and even thou it was a "break" we never got back together and I felt like a fool waiting for him, then he went and started dating and eventually married someone else. It might be hard but let her go.

Answer 9

Check yourself real good. Some habit are something you did bought this about. It's more to it than she just quit you. it was not for nothing. She probably has complained to you for six years about something. People get tired and finally go on with life. If you have been going together for six years why aren't you married? could that be the answer? maybe she is tired of being your"WOMAN" and feel like it's time to be a wife are nothing at all. "Gotcha didn"t I"?

Answer 10

ok well first of all it was real immature of her to do it by phone, i mean after six years the least she could of done is told u in person. and a "Break" usually means its over, maybe she moved on, maybe she found someone else. but someone who comes out of nowhere saying they wanna break up, is for a reason. you should definitely not wait around for her to decide if she wants to get back with you. you should have a serious adult conversation about this situation and let her know how u feel. ok u love her but if it's over then it's over. you should move on and find someone who can appreciate you and love you. everyone deserves to be happy. don't worry your heart is broken, but will heal with time. promise.