Boyfriend of 1 1/2 years tells me he's going on a weekend trip to a lake w/ the boys from his dorm hall.
I really want to go but figure it's just guys so that's why i'm not invite.
Find out today from someone other than my boyfriend (day before they leave) that there are girls going.
2007-05-17 11:06:03 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's says he doesn't really know the other girls and that it wasn't his place to invite me
2007-05-17 11:13:31 · update #1
He also says he wouldn't be mad if I went somewhere with guys and "forgot" to tell him they were coming
2007-05-17 11:19:03 · update #2
Don't be annoyed,be single!
2007-05-17 11:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by Rueben E 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no.
Just because girls are going doesn't mean you should be invited. These might not be some of the guys girlfriends, just friends from the dorms. If is the case, then having you go wouldn't be right. You were the one who assumed that no girls were going, so you can only be mad that he said "boys" when he should have said "friends". That he said what he did is because he knew you would get mad. That you are now mad proves he was right. The only real question now is do you want him to know he was right?
2007-05-17 11:12:35 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have the right to be annoyed after finding out there will be other girls there. I would first try to find out if these other girls are girlfriends to the other guys going. If they are find out why you weren't asked to go, maybe he didn't know girl fiends were invited. If they were not girl fiends then find out what that is about. Try to keep an open mind when asking questions and discussing this and don't jump to conclusions. You do need to find out what is going on and why you weren't invited and other girls were. You seem to realize that the two of you need time with your friends without having the other up your backside, but there are limits as to what should and should not be done-allowed-or put up with.
2007-05-17 11:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that must hurt. I think that if he wanted you to go, he would have asked. I think it's terribly inconsiderate of him, and you have a right to feel annoyed and left out! I would talk to him about it when he gets back. Tell him how you feel, and give him an opportunity to tell you why he did that. Did he feel like he needed some time away from you? If so why?
I have had a lot of friends that have had the same situation happen, don't worry and don't get down on yourself.
2007-05-17 11:31:25 · answer #4 · answered by Lenka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have a right to be annoyed. If it was just him and guys, then you should give him his space and let him hang with his friends. But since other girls are going, you should be able to go too. That sounds suspicious and he probably had some other plans in mind for his weekend get away. There probably is a girl that he likes or is talking to going on that trip. And he didn't want his girlfriend to come and ruin his little plans.
2007-05-17 11:09:43 · answer #5 · answered by Babylesley 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you can be a little annoyed, but at some point you have to determine if he is trustworthy or not. Keep your ears and eyes open and follow your gut feeling. I would also ask why he didn't tell you other girls were going.
Notice how all the girls say he is cheating and the guys say it's no big deal. TOOOOO FUNNY!
2007-05-17 11:11:02 · answer #6 · answered by BigD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why you weren't invited. Depending on his answer, and whether he know other girls were invited, you may have the right to be annoyed (or just sad).
Maybe he just wants a break. People sometimes do, without this meaning that they have a problem in their relationship.
2007-05-17 11:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by lakelounger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has another date honey. Wake up and smell the roses. He is your boy friend, not your husband. There is a difference.as long as your relationship has been should let you know he will probably choose someone else when he wants a wife. Good Luck!
2007-05-17 11:12:26 · answer #8 · answered by MS Williams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I figured that much! Never trust an "all guy trip". A bunch of guys never want to go anywhere there are no girls. Tell your bf if he goes it's OVER!!!!
2007-05-17 11:09:44 · answer #9 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have the right to be annoyed and a little more than that. Confront him about it and tell him you know there are girls going so why can't you go?
2007-05-17 11:10:03 · answer #10 · answered by Marlo M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the other guys are bringin gals, then yup! But maybe not if you have ever said that you aren't into the whole camping boating cabin thing. Then he just figures that you wouldn't enjoy yourself anyway, so why ask.
2007-05-17 11:10:10 · answer #11 · answered by cynder66 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋