why can't i get a girlfriend?

Question

i need your help... I have everything in my life, im in good shape, i have money, im young (19) , im smart and i have a fun personality. But i dont get out that often. I've already bought my own house and car WITH my own money but i feel like i missed out on the whole college experience because i didnt live on campus and just moved to a city where i know nobody. Its really rare that i'll meet a girl that i find attractive, and i have standards too. I try spending more time on campus, but most of the time im alone. I'm all alone in this city, with nothing to do but work out and study. i want a girlfriend but i dont want to settle... what do i do?

Answer 1

First off, be careful that you don't brag when you meet girls. We really don't care about your car or other possessions. Really. Don't care.

Secondly, get involved with groups on campus. Even if it's a study group for a class, a volunteer group, join an intramural team (you don't have to be very good at sports for that.)

Answer 2

Aw...date me! I'm kidding, but from the sounds of it you sound like you just need to expand your horizon of friends. While it may be hard to be in a city by yourself and not know too many people, you are going to have to get out there and meet new people. Have you tried doing some of the activities on campus? Joining a club? Think about what you'd like to try but haven't then check your local newspaper and see if there is something available. You don't necessarily NEED a girlfriend, but finding someone who you can relate to is very important. You are also very young, so don't be in a hurry to find a girl just yet. Enjoy your singledom for as long as you can, just BE SAFE. Oh, and if all else fails, hit up your local pub or bar and mingle! Good luck!

Answer 3

What city are you in? Email me....

First off, congratulations on having/saving money and being responsible & fit. That's the hard part!!

It is certainly one thing to hang out on campus and be alone. It is quite another to be out going to try making friends and actually talking to people. They aren't always going to come straight up to you and be like, "can we be friends?". You have to anty up on that part. You have to show people you're smart and have a fun personality. If you don't interact, how could they ever know??

Next time you're say...in Borders or Barnes & Nobles looking at some book....maybe there will be a pretty girl in your section and you glance over and see what she's got. Maybe it's something you read before and can offer an opinion.

Just try to get the ball rolling on being sociable to people. Talk to random people you don't know and start conversations. Nex thing you know, one of those people might be a girl. Or better yet, you make friends, and then a group of friends, and then one of those friends knows a girl...or something. Catch me?

Answer 4

calm the **** down buddy and chill for a moment.
first thing you need to do is in fact chill, calm the **** down and go to the mall/movies/club.
pick out some random cuties and start talking...ABOUT ANYTHING.
dont get sweaty and confused and worried just CHILL.
get a couple numbers and call the ones you think u might like the best up the next day,

oh and once ur at the mall/movies/club follow the 3 second rule. u got 3 seconds frmo the time u spot a hottie to the time you meet her. if u dont do it in 3 sec. u'll get instantly worried.

bro if u got the money and muscle to back up your personality no girl will resist u bro seriously get out there and dont be a geek, be ur self.

Answer 5

well if u live in portland ill b up there next year for college and ill show u around, and make sure u hook up. all in exchange for rides to the mountain to go boarding.

if not, then find a couple dudes in some classes and make some friends. first step is making friends that are guys. once uve done that, let them show u some girls and get u hooked up. its easier to go meet girls if ur in a group, that way they dont see u as the loser of the party just looking for some action. and dont b anxious. when u dont have a gf, enjoy the time you have to yourself. cause u wont have much once u get a gf

Answer 6

Not to be mean or rude...But the Yahoo!Q&A board isn't going to help you get a girlfriend;)...
Try asking some personal female AND male friends their input. They know what kind of person you are. Maybe you are looking for the wrong type.
That "perfect" person in your head doesn't exsist. You need to decide what is truly important to you and what you are willing to bend on. Relationships are about comprimise, and from what you have written here, it sounds like you are ready to do that.
Your only 19...Don't give up on finding your special person:)

best of luck:)

Answer 7

k well...you sound like a stud so whats wrong? Maybe you are going for the wrong type of girls. Like the materialistic bathces. Try avoiding louis vuitton bags and dior glasses. You will find a good girl. I dont know maybe you are a jerk, or rude, smoker? Dirty finger nails? I dont know dont stress it love just find yourself some guy friends and live it up with them. You are too young to have a girlfriend anyways. good luck :)

Answer 8

You said so yourself, "I have everything in my life, im in good shape, i have money, im young (19) , im smart and i have a fun personality." If you have all of that, a girlfriend shouldn't be all that hard to find. Just be friendly, and don't worry about it too much. You'll find somebody. =]

Answer 9

You've pretty much put yourself in solitude as you said by buying your own house... because you don't get to hang out as much as you would by being in the dorms. You need to get out more. You may be a little shy? If so... talk to people. Ask girls out. Some girls could even like you but are too scared to say anything just as you guys do the same thing. If we see a guy that looks out of our leage we will not approach him. You have several options that maybe you aren't willing to take. They have dating sites, even phone numbers to call that you can sit and talk with the person and yes you'd have to pay but I mean... you can always give them your real number. Yes you take risks dating that way but you always have the options of going out and HAVING FUN. Go to a bar... hang out with friends at school. Invite a couple of guys over to study, or whatever you like to do... maybe sooner or later they'll bring over more people or you could even have a small "party" at your house. You could meet the woman of your dreams just by knowing her brother...and If you see someone in class that looks out of your leage, don't be afraid to approach them. The worse thing that could happen is they could reject you. It causes much more pain to always be alone, believe me. You start feeling more sorry for yourself and the lack of confidence turns into low self esteem.
Go to school early and sit outside, sit in the classroom... whatever you can do to be around people. If you see someone you want to talk to, start the conversation with "So and so and I used to _______ on perfect days like this" instead of "It's a gorgeous day, isn't it?" That way, if they're interested they get to say "Really?" or make another comment, other than just replying "yes" to your one question. Word it to where the person gets interested and talks back to you instead of a quick yes or no.

Answer 10

go to the local clubs for a couple of weeks. let the girls get used to you. during this time scout out any potential girls and flirt a little. (put your name and status out there and let it get around by word of mouth) Soon the girls will come at you faster than you know what to do with and there is certain to be one you like. Also go to any on campus social events and mingle.