I purchased 2 baseball tickets @ $150 for my bf's birthday.
I showed up late for the game because I had to take a shower.
He got really mad at me, saying that I should have known better not to take a shower and be late. I said I know how long the game is going to be so we don't have to show up that early. He says, he likes to watch the game from the begining, so it is important to him to be on time...so it's like giving him a "half gift" by being late. I said, I went to so much trouble to get the tickets, drove through traffic for an hour to meet up with you, and now I have to go watch a game that I don't even care about. Not only do you not appreciate my gift, I get a some kind of bad attitude from you. I still went to the game with him but we both didn't have fun. We are still not talking to each other because of this. So if you had to decide who's more on the right side....who would it be?
2007-05-17
10:23:22
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desperatehousewife
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There is no right and wrong in a relationship. Only a long series of compromises, trying to get the best results.
You should not be late. But he should be grateful you did anything.
In this situation, there is no real right or wrong. In the future, if you give him tickets for an event you will not be interested in, give him 2, to instruct him to take a buddy (preferably male). Then he can take YOU out for dinner after the game.
A Good boyfriend would have made the best out of it.
a GREAT boyfriend would have been thrilled to be anywhere with you, and would have been happy to have a girlfriend who made the effort.
Don't worry about the past, move to better stuff in the future.
If you are going to keep 'score' about who was right and who was wrong? you need a new boyfreind.
2007-05-17 10:30:50
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answered by cstatman 3
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Wow! I would say if you knew you didn't want to be on time then you should've given him his ticket so that he could see the game from the beginning. I can't believe I'm about to say this and I don't usually side with the men, but if you knew you didn't want to see the game from the beginning then I think it was selfish of you to keep him waiting. I understand that you went through a lot to get the tickets. Just because you wwent through so much and paid so much money you should've been there on time in order to get your money's worth.
He is also wrong for acting ungrateful but he has every right too. I think the both of you should apologize to each other.
2007-05-17 17:30:54
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answered by Heaven26 3
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I am sorry I know I should stick to my girls but he is right. First you should have got him tickets for either A: something you both liked or B: let him go with a guy friend if you don't care about the game. Secondly it was rude of you to put yourself first by making him late to his gift from you. Thought it was his day? I would have been mad if I was him too!
2007-05-17 17:30:09
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answered by Anonymous
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Part of the gift was for you to be there on time for the event and he is angry because you ruined it for him. Although I do feel he is being a little overly angry for something that could have been just a minor spat, especially after you did go through all the trouble of purchasing those tickets. Why don't you just be the bigger person and call him and apologise for your part. I bet he also will apologise for carrying his anger too far. Best of luck!
2007-05-17 17:29:26
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answered by pictureshygirl 7
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Sorry honey but he is right. You obviously knew how important baseball was to him since you went to all that trouble to get him the tickets. You should have been on time. I am not into sports but I know part of the experience is the "pre game" part of it. Get rid of your pride and go ask his forgiveness, this is such a small thing to end a relationship over.
2007-05-17 17:28:42
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answered by Anonymous
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Let's say your boyfriend buys tickets for the theater for your birthday. You arrive and take your seat expecting him to be there before it begins ... but he doesn't. He comes in half hour late because he doesn't care for the theater and figures he will have time to be there for part of it. How would you feel?
The purpose of giving a gift to someone is to enjoy it with them ~ by your being late, you were disrespectful to him and making him happy that day (which was supposed to be your purpose) so how was he going to enjoy it since he wanted to spend that time with you?
You need to apologize to him and let him know you are sorry for spoiling "HIS" gift/day and that you will try to do better in the future.
2007-05-17 17:32:13
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answered by KittyKat 6
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Probably not going to be picked as best answer....lol.....You were BOTH wrong...Him for not appreciating the things you did to get the present, and you because you were kinda insensitive to the fact that he likes to see the game from the start. You knew when the game started, so is there any reason that you couldn't have showered 30 minutes earlier?
2007-05-17 17:33:41
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answered by Anonymous
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What you did was only half-hearted. Why spoil his fun by not being on time? If you wanted to give him a good time you should have done it all his way. Obviously, you just don't know what that game meant to him. Why should he appreciate your gift if you made it seem like such a big sacrifice? I think he's right to be mad at you!
2007-05-17 17:29:47
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answered by Joan79 3
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Please! What a baby. You were thoughtful enough to purchase tickets to and endure an event that you aren't really into. Would he do the same, like a ballet or something? Sounds like he's too selfish for that.
On the bright side maybe that was his way of letting you know you look great the way you are and that it's unnecessary for you to shower and get dressed up to see him and enjoy a game together.
2007-05-17 17:30:59
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answered by octavia 2
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I hope you read your own question, your answer lies within it.
Errors were made by both of you. A real gift has no strings attached, maybe he should have gone with a buddy and then he could have controlled the whole event. A gift should be appreciated, not used as a justification to pick apart someone's (your) effort and priorities. I'd call it a draw, you both share the fault.
2007-05-17 17:32:52
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answered by MJ 3
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