OK, my mom hates my brother's girlfriend. She is very upset that I invited her to the wedding. My brother should be sitting with my mom at the parents table. However, my mom says that his girlfriend is not allowed up there because she does not want to look at her and she would rather sit at a table by herself. She also said she paided for everything so she should be able to say who is sitting with her. My brother said he will not sit without his girlfriend. I want them all to sit together, I think it will look dumb if they do not. So do I give into my mom or my brother. On another note, my brother is the one walking me down the isle. Won't it look dumb if he is not sitting with mom?
2007-05-17 10:16:58 · 24 answers · asked by Va princess 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Also, my mom hates my brothers girlfriend because they broke up last year and she had him arrested for saying "S***" to her on a vm. Very childish. And her parents will not let my brother within 100 feet of their house.
2007-05-17 10:28:08 · update #1
This is YOUR wedding, not your mom's and it doesnt matter whether she paid for it or not. She is being childish. Tell her its your wedding and you dont want to be stressed on that day and you want your brother and his girlfriend to sit at the table with her. If she chooses not to do that then think about have all of them sit at the wedding party table on opposite ends. Or tell her to just suck it up and help make your day perfect.
2007-05-17 10:29:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
ask your mom if she is trying to ruin your wedding day because she will succeed if you allow it. Have the brother attend with his girlfriend and sit at another table. Anyone that matters probably knows that their is a feud between them and will understand. It won't look dumb if he is sitting at another table but it will be embarrassing if your mom makes a scene because of the girl sitting at her table or sitting alone. Let her be a bit** about it and just have the bro sit with his girl at another table. Good luck at the wedding enjoy your day and ignore their pettiness.
2007-05-17 16:10:38 · answer #2 · answered by bubbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can get Mom to back off and let all the "family" sit together that would be best. You don't say why Mom hates the GF, but it would be nice if she could set her feelings aside for your sake on your day, especially since your brother is walking down the aisle. If she doesn't agree to back off, sit your brother and the GF together somewhere else, with other family. I doubt anyone will notice where people sit- they will likely too involved with the fun of the reception, so I won't even think about that, but for family harmony it would be nice to all sit at one table. Good luck.
2007-05-17 10:28:33 · answer #3 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you're having a Jerry Springer moment. I see your mom's point. I wouldn't want the skank sitting at my table either. Think about this from your Mom's point of view - The girl had her son arrested and now you want her to be nice? I don't think so. Seat your brother and his girlfriend at another table.
2007-05-17 14:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you seat siblings at the parent's table? Parents and the officiant belong there.
It will be much better if you separate people who can't get along. You can even eliminate the parents' table, or even eliminate the head table! There are lots of possibilities. I'm sure you can find a creative solution.
Also, it is AISLE. An isle is an ISLAND.
2007-05-17 15:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, Just to piss your mom off I'd sit them at the head table with you and your husband so she HAD to look at them.
Yes, he should be sitting at your mothers table, it would only be proper, but since she is pitching such a fit and is the funder of the event you will have to bow to her wishes and place your brother and his girlfriend at another table. Can you set it up so that they sit with all the younger cousins (the ones in their 20's) it wont look as strange if they are sitting with their peers, it will look like you didnt want them to get bored with all the old people at the parents table.
2007-05-17 10:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you have any friends comming to the wedding that your brother might know? He could sit with them without it looking too weird, so long as they aren't too far from the head table
2007-05-17 17:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to sit them both down and tell them to grow the heck up esp. your Mom. They should both sit at the table and your Mom should smile and be nice- it is your wedding after all!!! Many of us have sat at a table at a wedding with someone we didnt care for but did it because you just don't act that way at a wedding!
2007-05-17 10:25:28 · answer #8 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mom's being selfish and using the fact that she's footing the bill to strong-arm you into doing what she wants. Bro and girlfriend should be sitting with Mom by the head table, especially is bro means enough to you to be walking you down the aisle. It's your day, not Mom's whether she's footing the bill or not.
2007-05-17 10:25:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay your family sounds a lot like mine in the fact that this one doesn't like that one, and so on. Well to tell you the truth let them both know that for one its YOUR wedding day. If they care for YOU at all they can handle sitting in a spot for a few hours. If they really can't seem to handle that maturity then you can separate them. I will not look bad. Good luck on YOUR day.
2007-05-17 14:56:52 · answer #10 · answered by TK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋