To ask or not to ask? That is my question.?

Question

Theres a girl i know, a definate looker and great personality, but i've had trouble approaching because most of my mates say shes out of my league. I know im not the best looking 14 year old in the world, but should i go for it anyway, or just let it burn away and save me from rejection?

Answer 1

In life, as you grow older, you will realize you regret not the thinsg you did the most but themoments of opportunity you let slip away because of fear and self doubt...go for it..the worst she can say is "no" and the best she can say is "yes" and you will never have a answer if you don't ask the question...besides, here's an isndiers tip, a lot of thoses beautiful girls do not date much at at ll because no one asks them because thyey assume they will say, "no". Give it a shot, you have nothing to loss and everything to gain. And, if she says no , at least you can tell your mates, you were man enough to even try get into the game, while they sat on the benches, watching their lives pass away in front of them. Good luck!

Answer 2

First of all your friends aren’t very good ones, they should be encouraging you not telling you that you aren’t not good enough for her. Everyone has different opinions of what good looks are and your friends don’t have any idea of what this girl’s opinion on that is. If you really like her then go for it. The most she can do it tell you know, but you aren’t going to get what you want all the time. In life you have to learn to deal with rejection as well as success. If you don’t take the chance then you will never know.

Good Luck

Answer 3

Well, is the rejection going to hurt too much, or will you just let it slide knowing that you didn't lose anything? If it's no big deal to be rejected, then you can go for it, and maybe you'll be accepted.

Face it. Every guy is rejected far more often than he hits it off with a girl. That's life.

Answer 4

You'll learn in time that the most drop dead gorgeous "Nice" girls don't get asked out near as much as you'd think they would and are more times than not lonely as hell. But I have a real Barbie Doll that is my wife and I'm lucky as heck to have her but know that it can be a double edge sword. Getting that girl is not even half the battle once you get her keeping her becomes damn near impossible. Case in point just look at Brittney Spears so beautiful so lonely and I had one just like her. Lust and love get so confused of course you lust her you're 14 just be yourself if she smiles at you when you look at her that's all you need to smile back and say "Hi" nature will do the rest good luck Lil bro.

Answer 5

Unless your friends are going to be in the relationship with you, their opinion should NOT matter. What goes on in your life is solely your business, and what they think of what you do is none of theirs.

As for asking the girl out, go ahead and ask her! There are many times I find myself wondering why men are so hesitant about asking me out, and when I get a "Because I thought you'd say no." response, I reply with "You miss 100% of the chances you don't take." and the only person hurting will be you!

You win some, you loose some, but at least you won't be wondering "What if?"

Answer 6

Noone is out of anyones league because noone is better than anyone else. I think it is horrible to say something like that. You never know the outcome of anything til you try and if you don't try you could have regrets in the future. NO REGRETS! DO IT! Besides...look at the positive side, if she does say no then maybe you still gained a friend ya know?

Answer 7

ok hey hun listen if u like the girl you should go for it because ok lets say shes gonna say no
1.u know the truth
2.u talked to her
3.she knows how u feel
4.u let it out
5.she cant really do anything


but i say talk to her first tell her about yourself and tell her u like her if she says no dont ever say i was just kidding cuz we girls also use that trick and we knnow ur just trying to get out of it so just be like alright no problem and with the time trust me shes gonna start looking at u more and shell know u like her so shell be like oh so he also has a great personality and wow hes smart and wow he has really cute eyes and wow hes so fun just go for ir before i give u a book(i wrote too much lol)

Answer 8

Is the rejection any worse than the torment of liking and wondering? I think at that age girls are not as mature and she might base it all on looks but she might not......I think knowing would be even worth the rejection, because she might just give you a chance!!

Answer 9

never doubt yourself. it's YOUR life.. not theirs.. they are probably just jealous.. cuz if you did get her you would leave them to be with her more, and They don't have the balls to do it themselves. TALK TO HER... Never live with Regret.. it's the Worst feeling in the world. Always take your chances.. even if you do get rejected.. it doesn't mean anything, just that she's not the girl for you and it's her loss for not even wanting to have a chance to see that. rejection is small in comparison to regret. you don't want to live your life out wondering What if... get up the courage and do it, and you'll be a bigger man than Any of your lame friends who don't know what they are talking about.

Answer 10

you should ask her to hang out, just casual. Your only 14. you have plenty of growing up to do. It won't be the end of the world if she says no. You have plenty of time to find the girl of your dreams.