Marrying someone on the complete opposite end of your beliefs. . . .of course for example Christian and Atheist. Is it possible to work. How would you feel about the following things:
1. Do you get married in a church?
2. Do you get married by a pastor?
3. How do you feel when your spouse is gone to church?
4. When your spouse wants to pray over the meals?
5. When your spouse feels a part of the income should go toward tithing?
~Those are just a few things I can think of as I am getting ready to run out. Marriage is not easy . . .and there can not be one winner. . .and when you set yourself up into a tug of war someone is going to try to win.
~Is it not "better" to marry someone with common goals and beliefs. . .someone who encourages you. . .someone you can go to higher levels "WITH" in your beliefs, whatever those may be?
2007-05-17 09:51:56 · 6 answers · asked by sparkles9 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yes. The Bible says don't be unequally yoked together. It means that if you're going to marry someone, their beliefs should not conflict with yours. It will cause many problems. That's a no-brainer. You want kids, they don't. You want to remain exclusive, they don't. You want to pursue a career. They want you to stay at home and produce babies. Obvious in natural things. Why not in the supernatural things?
2007-05-17 09:57:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Scripture says to "NOT be Un-equally Yoked." Not an "Egg Yoke", but an agrarian metaphor referring to putting together a "Plow Team" consisting of an Ox with a Mule as they pull at different speeds & go different ways, which is NOT what a Marriage is about! Marriage IS NOT A PROBLEM SOLVING DEVICE!!! So for example; U just have to marry that guy to get away from Ur Parents, Ur a Loser!!! Or U want to have a Child,Ur a Loser!!! Or U just want to do whatever U want to do, Ur a Loser!!! Scripture should be at the Center of ANY Marriage!!! Without God FIRST U will have NO BASIS upon which to build a Marriage!!! Oh yes, then there are the Children who will learn to play the 2 of U like a Stradivarius!!! I think U already have a "Handle" on this, but I'm happy to support U. John
2007-05-17 17:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by moosemose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is much better to marry one with common goals and beliefs. It would be exceedingly hard to marry one without at least some common ground. It's a sure recipe for disaster, fighting, judgement of the other person and ultimately a possible divorce unless the other person comes around. And even at that, the other person may have felt forced unless there is divine intervention and harmony is restored. In my first marriage, I went thru something like that. I had to conform and it was miserable and everytime I wanted to act on a belief (even without asking him to particiapte) I was made fun of and put down. In my second marriage, we are on the same page and I expect it to last for life.
2007-05-17 16:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by LaDonnaMarie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Christians are not supposed to marry non-Christians. The belief is that the non-Christian person will cause the Christian to lose his/her faith. Getting married in a church and by a pastor, that really depends on who "wears the pants" in the relationship. But really all these issues should be avoided by not marrying someone out of your religion
2007-05-17 16:58:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I dont believe it would work, unless that atheist got saved. For Jesus Christ is our rock and He should be the foundation in a marriage-- that is what holds it together, no matter how bad things get, God is faithful!
If both are not seeking God's will in their marriage and living to please Him and follow Him, I cannot see that marriage working....
It would be a great struggle for them--- and I can even see the one who is a christian falling away.....
And their children, oh my goodness....I could not imagine my husband not wanting my kids to grow up ungodly and worldly.
Marriage IS NOT easy, even for christian couples! But with God, when they are making Him the center, it does work. When they are both willing to do His will! And He also gives us a desire to do His will.
But yes, I cannot imagine what it would be like for someone who says they are saved, to be married to an atheist, first of all, I cannot see a born again christian marrying someone who does not even believe in God.
For even God says in His word to not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever.
2007-05-17 17:01:08 · answer #5 · answered by Mandolyn Monkey Munch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course there would be problems to overcome and it would take great love and understanding, but also who knows if God would not use the believer to bring the other to faith and therefore eternal salvation, after all Gods ways are not our ways.
2007-05-17 16:58:27 · answer #6 · answered by Sentinel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋