Anyone understand women?? Please read this and help...!??!?

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I live with my ex gf and since we split i have not been around much while things calmed down, now i have come back i feel ok but am confused by the way she is acting.

I cooked dinner and left 1 plate on the side i said i would clean up after tv. she then proceeded to go on about how washin wasnt an issue before and how everyone else does theirs. i told her i would do it later but she went on and on. (not in a nasty way but half smerking but said she was serious.)

She then told me to turn the tv prog over cos everyone wanted to watch her prog too so i did and she spent the hour cooking andmade me turn it over for no reason. she used to get her own way when we were together but she still seems to try and get it now.

i know this is very petty but im wondering if there may be an underlying reason she would be acting this way. i mean i dont wanna argue with people but its frustrating.
i asked this just now but she moans about me being in my room too!?
help!?

Answer 1

I used to argue with my Ex to get attention from him. Then i realised what i was doing and stoped... Could it be that she wants your attention?

Answer 2

i could be wrong, but I think it has to do with the control. First off, who's idea wha it to break up? By you turning the T.V and her not watching it was jsut a sign of control for her. Even thought you two are over, she still feels that she can control you. Her doing the dishes, (sith a smirk) could have been a way of trying to make you feel guilt or bad about not doing them right then, which is maybe a reason the reason that you changed the channel and watched it the whole hour that she wasnt. that is just my opinion from what I gatherd from what was said, but there are two sides to every story.

Answer 3

She could still be bitter about the break-up, even if she says she's not. If she was acting this way before the break-up, then maybe she's just a naturally bossy person. You can try asking her why she's acting the way she is, but it probably won't solve anything. Some people just can't be reasoned with. I know someone who sounds like her, and anytime I bring up one of their faults or bad habits they end up in a hissy fit. My advice is that you move out and get your own apartment or move in with a friend. Hope I helped, good luck!

Answer 4

First of all why in the world are people still living with their ex's??? I see this all the time on the board and I just do not understand it.

If I were you, I would get my own place and get out of her way, she sounds like she is tense with the idea of you being around and she wants her own life!

If you have children with her, then get your own place and arrange with her what would be a good time for you to have visitation for the kids, are you living with her just so you will not have to pay child support????

If that is the case and you are miserable, I would ask myself what is better, being ordered to pay child support, or being miserable living with her!

I think having your own freedom sounds wonderful and you can do what you want whenever you want and be happy, you do not sound happy, and that is what you have to be.

Answer 5

Man, anybody that would even try to live with an ex has gotta just take what you get and not expect anything to make sense. She is punishing you, and will continue to do so unless you speak up and try to come to some understanding. It ain't over until you make it over.

Answer 6

Even though she is your ex girlfriend, old habits die hard.
Best thing to do is make it clear to her that you are not her boyfriend anymore, and she worries about her things and you worry about your own.
As for the TV who ever owns it should have the say so on what he/she wants to watch. if they have a problem with that then tell them to get their own TV.
If its her house, you need to move out. And move on with your life. If its a house full of room mates, then theres got to be some compromising.

Answer 7

My advice would be that you need to move out. She is probably still very hurt by what has happened and is trying to get over it by being mean to you. If you are angry at a person and they cant ever do anything right it is easier to get over them. I believe this is what she is doing.

Answer 8

Living with an ex is not always good unless you know you can still be friends. You should have a talk with her and let her know that you are friends and she should treat as thought she would treat all of her friends.

Answer 9

dont ever let your ex hear about male chastity devices.... youll be in one!! show a little assertiveness in return. its give and take ask her to make you a cup of tea and iron a shirt tomorro for you ( as you cant iron it properly ) if you know what i mean dont let her get on top of you and remember...please and thankyou maybe this doesnt make sence to you??? have you got back with her?? if not why are you living there??

Answer 10

my Friend, you are very confuse.women are a present from god,all warming have a lot to give,you do not have to underspent them,just be nice to them.women learn to survive thou the years by using her charm and get every thing from the man,to mack it more simple,a woman survive Evin is the weakest,but always manage to get enough food to fed the children's and her self.how they don it?by manipulate the man to variety of things,and get things her whey,man will never understand a woman,just tread her nice and she will give you everything

Answer 11

Move Out!!!! You guys broke up and she wants to still own you, she is bossing you around so you will listen and she knows that she still has an effect on you. Move Out!