19 years old, no girlfriend yet, and not sure what's wrong?!?

Question

I'm 19 years old, second year student in university.
I've never have a girlfriend. Nor am I seeing myself with one anytime in the future.

I'm confident, I look okay, I'm an A+ student, and I'm usually nice and have a good personality. I have good friends, and I'm not shy at all. I have female friends as well.

WTH is wrong with me?! I seem to never be able to attract a girl, I always get friended. In fact, in the past two semesters I've been rejected by 5 girls, it's not like I don't ask girls out.

So after 2 years of really thinking about it, and remaining "friends" with the girls who rejected me, I started asking 'Please tell me what's wrong with me, because I can't figure it out'. And I always get the same reply: that there is NOTHING wrong with me and I just haven't met the right person/been unlucky.

I don't show I'm depressed/desperate outside. In fact, I'm pretty normal and I and the girls I hang out with have a good time laughing.

Help? What can I do?

Answer 1

hehe LOL im twelve and i have a bf LOL loserrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Answer 2

Stop being so nice. You have to be funny and cocky. You have to tease girls but without being a total A**. Sounds like you are just stuck in the nice guy rut. Be a little dangerous. If you think you are an attractive guy maybe you need a new look. Try going to a picture rating website and submit 3 or 4 pics in different style clothes or different hairstyles. See which one gets the best ratings and you've found the look that best suits you. Dont be intimidated by any girl ever. The more powerful she is, the mosre she'll enjoy you teasing her and picking on her. If you meet a group of girls get her friends trust first. This is her line of defense. Dont even try to win the one you want without breaking down her defenses.

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Answer 3

The best and first thing you should do is RELAX.

Desperation is the first things chic's run from, even a hint that you are desperate is enough to cause them alarm, so relax, especially around women.

Another thing you might want to try, is getting involved in groups that share your interests. Book clubs, Hiking clubs, etc, these are easily found at any university or college with dorms. Get involved with something your interested in, anime, chess, whatever. As you are exposed to the group's members (yikes! double entandre), you will be widening your experience with new people, some of them female.

Using this method you will make new friends (who you have a common interest with), who will have female friends (that may share your interest), that you can meet/get to know/possibly date.

Make sure you are clean (showered, deodorized, etc), kind, respectful, and most importantly RELAXed!

Happy hunting brother.

Answer 4

No...don't be an asshole!
Ok so for some reason...whether you think so or not...girls know when a guy is desperate. Whether the guys show it or not. For some reason, girls can tell. I always can. And that's a huge turn off! Honestly, when your time comes, it'll come. Don't fixate on it. It's the worst thing you can do cuz then you'll never get one. Honestly man, just have fun! You don't need a girlfriend, though it's nice to have one, you don't NEED one. You'll be fine and you'll get one soon enough. JUST HAVE FUN!!! Enjoy college and the whole experience!

Answer 5

Start going out to parties, meetings, church etc. Put yourself out there and just be nice. Girls don't go for the needy thing and it will run them off. The people who are telling that you just haven't met the right girl are telling you the right story. Sometimes it just takes awhile for a guy to mature enough to attract a woman. I'm not saying you're immature, but you don't have much experience with women and it probably shows. Be patient and do the things that will get you out there and be seen by women. Eventually, there will be one who finds you attractive and she'll let you know

Answer 6

You should never be friends with a girl that you are not related to. Havent you ever heard of the dreaded "friend zone". Basically any girls you hang out with should be someone you want to sleep with anything else is unacceptable. I think thats you problem you need to let them know you want more then just giggle buddies. I see you describe yourself as "ok". maybe you should lower your standards and better your average. I am sure there are some lonely fat chicks all curled up next to a bag of doritos and a diet coke in the dorm wondering why you never want to go out with them. So my advice my friend is GO HOGGIN! Thats right H-O-G-G-I-N! Find some desperate fat chunk of lovable , gravy bleeding, chocolate cake eating young lady and show her off to your FRIENDS. Meanwhile after the party is over you will be knee deep in well you know. And dont forge the rear entry big girls love it. I know I have been in your position and I have learned now I dont have to date fatties. Enjoy!

Answer 7

hi um what you are experiencing right now was experienced by me when i was your age well i am 25 now. when i reached the university level i thought i may never find the right guy who would by himself ask me out . anyways the time came and this guy came and approached me to get married but first i sad do you think i will get marriage at this age .. well he then gave me time to thing. i thought about it and i don't know why i sad yes. i had never gone out with a guy but i don't know y i trusted him .. we met each other quite oftenly and when he went back home and i stayed in uni we both cried because we loved each other soooooooooo much. after so many obstacles knowing each other five years we got married and now i have a baby daughter,... soo the point is that you dont worry god has made you your the other half so the time will come to you .. just dont loose hope because by jughing your character you just explained you are definatley a nice guy.. and another thing we both were virgins so i was glad with this.

Answer 8

nicely, in the experience that your no longer that kind of individual, you should no longer stress your self to be. do no longer learn your self to others. you're a splendidly commonly used individual and you should no longer get all frightened up via fact of that. no longer hooking up with ladies or being social would not propose which you're are no longer commonly used. you're no longer likely the only 19 3 hundred and sixty 5 days old that don't flow to events plenty and would not have a girl buddy in the international. whilst i advance into youthful, my mothers and fathers continuously advised me, "have not got intercourse till you're married" or "No intercourse till you're 30!" Being a virgin over 19 isn't against the regulation. do no longer depress your self via evaluating to different adult adult males and telling your self which you're no longer commonly used. Virgin over 19 is awesum! :)

Answer 9

Maybe you need to start hanging out with more guy's some girls feel threatened when I guy has so many girl friends and so they would rather just be friends then to worry about maybe having you run around on them, not saying you would but someone that doesn't know you very well may have there doubts.

Answer 10

Since none of us here know you, then obviously we have no idea, but let me try to list some common reasons:

1) You are too predictable (not spontaneous enough); i.e.; you are boring.

2) You act too needy or too desperate. Don't make it so obvious that you like a girl at first (keep her guessing and be unpredictable).

3) You don't show your sense of humor, nor make enough jokes (too boring).

4) You always play it safe and refuse to take risks (too boring).

5) You are too "nice" -- i.e.: you are too afraid to stand up for yourself to girls, or you do much for them & never say "no" (they don't respect you).

6) You act nerdy, or otherwise display poor social skills (boring again).

Try hanging out with guys who are good with girls, and watch what they do (mannerisms, the way that they stand, tone of voice, jokes they make, etc.).

Answer 11

Keep doing what your doing, if you think it it will be. So Today stop thinking you have bad luck with women. As someone said before it shows. My best friend goes though the same thing your going though. But he ***** up when we give him advise and he tries to improve it. /sigh... Back to you though! Be yourself don't put yourself down stay positive! The right one will come around, you may just not have noticed her watching you yet!