The local Minnonites have a sign in their yard that says, "He that divorceth his wife and marryeth another commiteth adultery". Do you think that's true?
2007-05-17 08:08:07 · 30 answers · asked by Graciela, RIRS 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I'm on my first marriage and don't want a divorce. I was just curious.
2007-05-17 08:14:54 · update #1
It depends on where you want to remarry, and where you were previously married.
The Catholic church does not recognize non-church / non Christian rites weddings, i.e. city hall, quickies in Vegas, etc. do not count. Thus,
Previous marriage was in city hall + divorce + remarrying in city hall = not adultery, but still considered as a sin because it's premarital sex / sex outside of marriage.
Previous marriage was in city hall + divorce + remarrying in church = not adultery (My sister, who had never married previously, was given the ok by the church to marry my current brother-in-law even though he was a divorcee. His previous marriage didn't count because he was married at city hall, not in church or Christian rites.)
Previous marriage was in church / Christian rites + divorce + remarrying in church = You are required to get an annullment of your first marriage in order to remarry. (I think J Lo got an annullment for her first marriage, so that she could remarry in church.)
Previous marriage was in church / Christian rites + divorce +
remarrying in city hall = considered adultery, unless you get an annullment of the previous marriage. But even if you do get an annullment, the city hall marriage will not be recognized by the church. The relationship would be considered as a sin because you're having sex with someone to whom the church does not recognize as your husband.
2007-05-17 09:02:32 · answer #1 · answered by coffeegirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thanks for the info on the sign. I never knew that Mennonites didn't recognize divorce, but it makes sense, given the limited knowledge I have about that religion, which, I guess, is also a way of life.
For Catholics it would depend upon the kind of divorce, whether or not the church had approved it for some doctrinal reason, (or politically expedient one, but that's another story). If the Church approved the divorce you would have a waiver that you were never really married and then you could remarry without it being adultery. However if the church did not approve the divorce; in the eyes of the church you would still be married, even if you obtained a legal, civil divorce.
Most of the mainstream protestant churches do not take a religious stance on divorce and recognize a civil divorce as qualifying one to remarry without sin.
Of course, all of this is only germane if one is willing to grant any group the right to pass judgment on the way one conducts ones life. I never have been. (Well, obviously some groups pass judgment with power granted to them, like juries, but those are usually criminal affairs and then one loses the right to complain.)
2007-05-17 08:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by LodiTX 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some do. I know Catholics will only allow it, if the Pope gives them an annulment. But those are hard to come by, and can only be awarded to one party .. so it all depends who gets there first, the ex-wife or the ex-husband.....
Other than that, you can remarry publically (by the government) but not in the church. And then the church would not recognize it as a valid marriage, and it would still be adultery.
2007-05-17 08:13:43 · answer #3 · answered by Sapere Aude 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
On scriptural grounds it says that you are to be bound to each other while both are alive, and are only allowed divorce if adultery occurs on either end. Adultery is considered to be in both of the flesh and of the mind. I have not found it anywhere in my bible (The New World Translation).
2007-05-17 08:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by Big Daddy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jesus said in Matthew 19:9, "Whoever shall put away (divorce) his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultary: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery." Hebrews 13:8 says Jesus is the same yesturday, today, and forever. John 1 and 1 John 1 tell us that Jesus is the Word of God and is God. So since Jesus said this, it is true no matter how much we would that it was changed.
2007-05-17 08:13:23 · answer #5 · answered by Scott 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is biblical. With the exception Jesus gave of someone whose spouse cheats on them. That person is allowed to remarry without it being adultery.
God hates divorce. Jesus clarified that the reason Moses gave the people permission to divorce was because their hearts were hard. It was not His original intent.
2007-05-17 08:14:48 · answer #6 · answered by BaseballGrrl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people are divorced for reasons not allowed by Jesus.
"Whoever shall put away (divorce) his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultary: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery."
People can accept or reject His teaching. It's eveyones choice.
I don't want find out on Judgment Day that I followed a lie. So, I trust the Words of Jesus.
2007-05-17 08:17:30 · answer #7 · answered by JayDee 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some Christians feel that way but most believe if adultery has taken place, then there can be a divorce...and then they remarry.
No I don't think that is true, But I have respect for Mennonites.
2007-05-17 08:15:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, there are actually pretty clear rules in scripture if you take the time out to read them. Of course, with different religions you'll have different books. I am non-denominational but, I read the King James Version of the bible. I suggest getting one with an index and having a look. I think the bible is very personal, meaning, different people read it and get different meanings from it. So try it! You'll be surprised what you'll find out.
2007-05-17 10:57:48 · answer #9 · answered by Jeanie N 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the mennonites are a bit off, Matthew 19:9 says
"I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery."
2007-05-17 08:14:31 · answer #10 · answered by Ovaltine Jenkins 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋