I don't know why but when I have sex I don't feel anything, no stimulation.....at all it just feels like someone is going in and out in and out. Whats wrong with me??
2007-05-17 07:34:28 · 40 answers · asked by xvxforgottenxvx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get to know your body better before you start having sex. If you don't know your body, you're not knowledgeable and mature enough to be having sex.
You only have feeling within the first few inches of the vagina. This is why size really doesn't matter. After 2-3inches, you can't feel it anyways. Try masturbating with an ice cube to see this fact in action. Once an ice cube is inserted so far into the vagina, you can no longer feel its coldness. This is due to a lack of nerve receptors within the depths of your womanhood.
Because of this, a staggering amount of women can not orgasm on penetration alone. (I think it is like 80-90% of women who cannot; I am not sure on the exact number.)
There is nothing wrong with you. You are completely normal and like the majority of women in the world. Try adding clitoral stimulation during intercourse to help you orgasm during the act.
2007-05-17 07:42:07 · answer #1 · answered by .jess 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There could be multiple reasons. First of all, do you care for the other person or is it just casual sex. Having sex with someone you care about triggers the stimulation more as well as foreplay. Doing a lot of foreplay increases the amount of stimulation you gain while having sex. Another factor could be that you are just not horny or interested in the person you are having sex with. Try making it exciting by using handcuffs or anything kinky, I'm sure you will both get a rise out of it.
2007-05-17 07:40:16 · answer #2 · answered by mdz 1234 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Nothing is wrong with you! This is very common in women. Having intercourse doesn't particularly stimulate the clitoris. This is why many women prefer oral sex over intercourse.
Masturbation does NOT cause loss of sensation in your clitoris. It's actually the opposite. It increases blood flow therefore increasing sensitivity.
Hormones do play a role in it as well. I didn't have a good orgasm until age 34.
Many antidepressant can decrease sex drive.
...........And (some) men are stupid and actually prove this by the answers they post.
2007-05-17 07:40:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should ask him to spend more time doing foreplay. He could suck on your breasts, lick you between the legs, (clitoral stimulation is the most effective way to orgasm) Not everybody can orgasm, you need to stop thinking about trying to orgasm. It will come naturally. Maybe you're not enjoying the sex, he's not doing it right, maybe you had alcohol before sex?alcohol numbs your sense receptors.Just try to let it go, set yourself free, stop thinking about the orgasm and just enjoy the sex, at a level where your soul connects.good luck
2007-05-17 07:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by Goldilocks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's common for women to be unable to orgasm from penetration only. The key is for your partner to stimulate the clitoris. Now, if you have zero sensation when your partner stimulates the clit, then you might want to see a doctor. It could be you are over-masturbating which desensitizes that area. If you do not masturbate, then I suggest you do so occassionally. It teaches you what it takes to make you orgasm. Afterall, if you can't make yourself come....how can you expect someone else to?
2007-05-17 07:43:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ever want some help just let me know......sorry, that question was just dying for some sarcasm. My sister-pin-law had the same problem and the doctor said she was bipolar. If you look it up you can check if there is anything else that matches along with it as far as symptoms and if there is anything you can do to help yourself without wasting money with doctors and hospitals. Again, sorry if the sarcasm was lame.
2007-05-17 07:53:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing at all hun. There are only a very limited number of women who can orgasm vaginally alone. Most need clitoral stimulation to climax. Try stimulating that and maybe you'll have better luck!
2007-05-17 07:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by LifeIsPeachy 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Are you on birth control pills? If so, read all the side effects. Seriously, it sounds stupid, but some of those pills actually do make you have a decrease in sexual desire. If you speak with your doctor about it, they may just start you on a different kind of pill. Also, some other medications could have the same effect. Especially if they control your hormones. So, same thing, if you are on any medication, check the side effects.... you may be surprised.
2007-05-17 07:45:56 · answer #8 · answered by ticktock 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi
we women are peculiar creatures.. lol
how about getting your boyfriend to rub some suitable oil into and around your sensitive areas before penetration.. play with each other and have some fun and then by the time he does enter you, you will really really want him - then he'll come and you'll lie there going.. hey, what about me? .. huh?.. ;-) just kidding,
that doesn't happen till you are married.
seriously though, men are visually sexual creatures and women are stimulated more by the brain - so get him to talk dirty to you - or lovingly, or whatever is your thing.. whilst having sex.
good luck
2007-05-17 07:43:24 · answer #9 · answered by emma m 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have the same problem. You need Clitoris stimulation, the outer area of your vagina need's the most attention, tell your man to play more near that area, and/or you can rub the outside area while he's having sex with you.
2007-05-17 07:37:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋