would u feel insulted if u seen your husband playin with his woody down south..?

Question

im laughing as im writing this, cuz i'd laugh if i read it..


but this morning, i seen him doin it, it was obvious with the blanket popin up & down. he doesnt know i seen! now,..all i can do is think about it cuz i feel insulted. he couldve told me to do sumthin!!


hes gained alot of weight & doesnt want to have sex cuz the belly gets in the way..ive tried to do other things but i feel like im forcing him. im a sex-aholic, i want it everyday, a couple x's a day..lol..


im not bad looking! im sexually fustrated & it affects my moods i swear! this is why people have affairs! i know it!..But i dont want to do that to him..i dont even know how to act around him, or even when he calls.. im sort of upset about it too..any advice?

thanks for your answers, i thought it was only me...

thanks for your answers, i thought it was only me...its good to know theres other people out there

should i tell him i seen him? i dont want him to get depressed or ashamed about it...

Answer 1

just take it from him. tell him to lay on his back and you ride him with your back facing him, the belly will not get in the way. bd

Answer 2

Like everyone else has said FORCE it out of him.. If you catch him again, just take control, do it for him or oral... My ex or I would kinda bump the other at night and we'd sex it up some.. waking to sex is also great! As most guys will and do having morning wood. Be offended that he didn't ask.. eh if he thought you where sleep naaa. If he knew you where awake a little yeah. lol the mood thing! wow i thought it was just my ex.. but yeah, you can kinda tell if a women needs a spanking! >.> more to the point lol... My ex asked me one day what would I do if i thought she was becoming over weight. I told her i would get a gym member ship for both of us & be like it's something we can do togehter. I'd use the same thing with him, also Indoor gyms with indoor pools are nice as well. Best of luck!

Answer 3

WOW!!! I have to say that if I saw it I would have also been insulted due to the fact that I could pleasure much better. but what to do, the worst thing is to not talk about it. Communication is the key to every relationship. Regardless of the argument which I am sure there will be, it needs to be addressed. After all is said, and made known how you feel, don't degrade what he has done, just let him know. The worst arguments are the ones that people say things they don't mean. I am sure he will realize that its him and he needs to stop feeling down about himself. You cant fix what you don't know. So let him know!!!

Answer 4

First off... just as you have needs that you have expressed so does he. Women aren't the only ones that want to feel sexy to have sex. Ask yourself this... Have you touched yourself without his help? If you have then you need to realize there is no reason to be angry. You two need to have a real heart to heart. You have to tell him the truth about what you feel. How you want him so bad and how his insecurities are making you feel undesireable. He needs you to hear him out too. So your needs need to be met and so do his. Plan a quiet dinner for two at home or at a private place.

Answer 5

You should be pleasing your husband more, sis?

That's why he has a pot belly and a woody all the time. If you're a "sex a holic" then obviously, you're having a lube job done by a different mechanic.

Your husband is missing out on all the fun. Poor guy.

Answer 6

I think that men just like doing that to themselves ,period.....
also its alot easier to just get your self off rather than to have to please someone else........men can be lazy..........lol

I wouldn't be offended because I think he would do this even if you were the most beautiful woman on the world(and to him,you might just be that)I don't think it has anything to do with you.........it's about him.........

and as you said ,he feels bad about himself...........but he still needs that release,so its easier for him to just take care of it himself........

also he may have figured that you were sleeping and he didn't want to wake u.....

i do understand how you feel though because I had the same thing happen,i was sleeping and i woke up to him moaning and i could see him moving,if you know what I mean.....
I shot up and was like,what the heck?!?!?!?!!??!
of course he denied it,and I was half asleep still,so I just went back to sleep.........but I have never forgot it..........and to be honest it does upset me........

But just keep the things I said above in mind................

Answer 7

Yeah, I'd feel bad - talk to your husband and see if you can work out something. Maybe you need to go see a doctor about needing sex twice a day! That's not normal or good for you....

Answer 8

Bum rush his *** and get it on with him. If you are forward enough and remind him that the belly isnt a problem, the more you do it the more he will feel comfortable. Dont take no for an answer.

Answer 9

well have ya heard of lorraine bobbett??lmao!!! seriously yes i would be insulted..you need to confront him and tell him you love him as he is or whatever..and let him know you wnat sex..gaining weight has apparently effected his ego..but if you continue positive influence to him that you find him sexy whether hes gained weight or thin ..then he may start to feel better about himself..if his belly gets in the way try differant positions ok??theres several ways ya know and adds spice to the sex life

Answer 10

yeah that is really funny,... just tell him that just because his "belly" gets in the way doesnt mean that you cant have sex. its very common,... i walked in on my 60year old uncle the other day,.. he cant walk anymore so he is in a wheelchair,.. and when he wants something he normaly yells. when he yelled from knowing that normally means that he needs something,.. i walked him and there he is with it all hangin out playing with himself!! yeah its not pretty,..

just talk to him,.. he should understand