i really want to join the Navy, my life is going no where and i want something in my life that really means something to me. I want to join, but my boyfriend who ive been seeing for 5 years is not for it. He said he would break up with me if i joined because he wants to start his life and i will be away...
so does anyone know
how the Navy effects relationships?
what i should do?
how long would i be away?
2007-05-17 06:37:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I would not let a man run my life. If you want to join the Navy I would go for it. You boyfriend should stick with you through thick and thin I am sure you stood by him. You will in boot camp for i believe i could be wrong 6 weeks then you will be sent to do studies which at that time you can bring you boyfriend to where you are stationed you would have to rent you a place you could not stay in the barracks. You will prob. get sent to Pensacola Florida thats where most of the training takes place
2007-05-17 06:48:45 · answer #1 · answered by lauralambeth76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life is going nowhere, and your boyfriend wants to keep it that way? Wow, some boyfriend, you really got a winner there, hehe.
First off, its your life, not his, so if you want to join, do it for yourself. If he can't handle it, then let him go.
To answer your questions, the military itself does affect relationships, simply because you are away from them for long periods of time. First, you have to go to boot camp, right there is 2 months away from him. You can write and calls are limited, but you won't get to see him for 2 months, plus, you might be in a different state. Another thing, you will be stationed someplace else. This is for about a year to 4 years, but it could be in a different state or even different country. So, he would have a choice, stay where he is, or move to be near you. Then, there are the deployments, you could be gone for 6 months, and if he does move to where you are, he won't be able to go with you on your deployment. So, he will be in a new place for 6 months and no know what to do.
Now, the benefit, your rent would be paid, you would make money, and even make more when you deployed. Its a guarenteed paycheck.
As far as how long you would be away, I assume you are talking away from home, and that depends on how long you enlist for. Shoot, you might love it and stay for 20, so who knows.
Now, if you really want to do this, contact a recruiter and ask him or her all the questions you want. Simply because, I know you have a lot more than just that. I know leaving your man is hard, however you need to do what is right for you.
You said you been seeing him for 5 years? Are you and he getting married? Has he proposed? If not, he won't. If you decide to join and then he does it, then he is only doing it to try to make you stay.
If he does want to break up with you, there is more fish in the ocean, and you could end up meeting a Navy guy who you would have a lot in common with, and he and you could move around together, and leave this boyfriend behind. especially if he doesn't want you to make a positive change in life.
2007-05-17 07:01:32 · answer #2 · answered by George P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be away for months at a time depending on where you are stationed, your deployment, and the job you are doing etc. If a relationship is strong it should have no real negative affect. Perhaps you have heard the old saying "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." ? If your BF really loves you he shouldn't hold you back from your goals out of his own selfishness. I'm guessing you are young? Maybe too young to even be in a serious commitment relationship. I highly recommend the Navy, it is a great way to get life experience. Although I am biased toward the Navy, you might consider the Coast Guard as well.
P.S. As much as I hate to admit it....the Air Force is not a bad choice either.
2007-05-17 07:11:14 · answer #3 · answered by Lt_Cmdr_USN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I spent four years in the navy and lost an engagement partially due to the distance. I know this may not be what you want to hear, but it was the best thing i could have done for myself. If you are trying to improve yourself, and your boyfriend doesn't want that for you, it's time to go.
Trust. Pending on what rate you choose, it can be the best decision you can make for youself.
As far as being away, boot camp is about ten weeks long. Assuming you two were still together, he could come see you on liberty weekend in Great Lakes, IL. After that, you would have your A School, which depending on what rate you choose, could have you in a number of places thoughout the country, and for different times.
If you do decide to go, I offer you this small piece of advice. Make sure your recruiter gives you AS MUCH MONEY AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE FOR SCHOOL!!! Between the GI Bill and other options, you can get schooling paid for and progress yourself even more as a person. If you have any more questions feel free to email me:
drumgod02@yahoo.com
2007-05-17 06:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The navy is hard on relationships. When you are not overseas, you will be stationed somewhere far from home and if you want to see your bf, he will have to move where you are.
For women it is better, because there are many more men than women and you will have plenty of attention from men. At the same time they will resent you and call you degrading sexist names (this is just how it is).
Generally deployments last 3-6 months and you are back home for 9 months, but there are no guaruntees and the navy will use you for what they need you for.
Good Luck.
2007-05-17 07:27:43 · answer #5 · answered by Dr.Cyclops 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Navy can make relationships very hard, as you are apart for long periods of time. But you can definitely make it work. Boot camp I believe is six weeks now, (it was 9 when my hubby went in '03), then you may have an "A School" and other schools after that, which can last many months in total. Deployments vary depending what kind of ship you're on. But do not base you decision just on what your boyfriend thinks. Its a big decision that you need to make yourself. Good luck.
2007-05-17 07:13:32 · answer #6 · answered by adhafera23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the navy. It was a very beneficial expierence in my life in a few differnt ways. If you want to know, I would recommend when you take your ASVAB placement test, you get what you want! The minimum time is undesignated at three year commitment. You can secure orders at negociation before you enlist. I would recommend you do so. As far as your boyfriend, based upon what he told you, he isnt worth not doing what you want, apparently he has made it clear to you he is doing his own thing with or without you.
2007-05-17 07:32:10 · answer #7 · answered by Mickey Bing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER EVER base a decision as important as militarys ervice onthe whims of some mere boyfriend.
you join becuase YOU want to join. You don't not join just because your BF doesn't want you to. if he is unwilling to support you in this life changing decision, then he isn't much of a BF and you can do way better.
relationships are all about encouraging each other to grow and to fulfill their dreams.
he is is unwilling to wait for you, then so be it. then he really didn't care for you all that much inthe first place.
If a relationship is meant to be NOTHING..not even military service, will get in the way.
2007-05-17 06:49:51 · answer #8 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you're gonna join make sure you know exactly what you want out of it and get a guaranteed job or trade of your choice, unless you wanna wash dishes for the next few years. As for your b-friend....... who cares, people come people go and the only person that knows whats best for you is you and always will be you.
2007-05-17 06:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by spiderneck_24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump that asshole if a man can't support your dreams how can he ask you to support his . Go Navy Lady .
2007-05-17 06:41:19 · answer #10 · answered by knightrunner13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋