What drives a Man to Cheat on his wife?

Question

I'm just curious.

Thanks Violet Pearl, Everything you've stated is absolutely true, but only a part of the whole picture.

What about the husbands who are cared for, given attention to, and given full support to, from their faithful wives, who regardless of this fact, still cheat?

Answer 1

When their wives are nagging, dissatisfied, mean, critical, dismissive, belittling, disrespectful, and are constantly "too tired" for sex and expect their husband to "understand".

Answer 2

WEAKNESS. I feel that when someone gives your man a little more attention then anyone else, be it at the workplace or at a party with friends, the man turns into this weak slush excuse of a human. Women love to flirt, and when they laugh a little longer at the mans joke, or hang around him a little longer, or just become close work/friends, this is the start. The man can live in a loving home. His wife can be very happy and helpful, hardly complain, and always compliment him. This is never enough for the cheater. Trust me. I've been there. I did the happy home thing. I loved my husband no matter what. We never had a problem sexually. He actually spontaneously
got in the mood as he was heading out the door to go to work! He even suggested we have another baby during this time! Things were going great! Then the following morning when he was to come home from work, (he worked the night shift) he was late. Very late. What I got was a call from him telling me he wasn't coming home anymore.



I can tell you from experience. You dont have to be nagging, dissatisfied, mean, critical, dismissive, belittling, disrespectful, and are constantly "too tired" for sex and expect their husband to "understand".

Answer 3

Many things can come into play here. He could be a philander who is never content in being with just one person. He could be addicted to sex and the challenge of getting a woman. Nothing can drive a man to cheat it is a conscious choice and, it is never a mistake. There are always preventative measures before hand like saying no and walking away from temptation.It is never anyone Else's choice but the person who commits the act! There is always an opening somewhere before it begins to run not walk away.Some men use the excuse that men will be men.....but a real man that loves his wife will respect her and choose not to do it. When they cross that line everything changes even if he withholds the information from you. He only has to look at himself in the mirror to know that he is a liar and a cheat!! It will reflect his own character in him knowing who he really is. Besides if other people know about it ....it will always hang over his head with the fear that it might come out in some way. This in itself has somebody else holding power over him. Everything he does after that will not be right because he knows and always will that he abused someones trust. His guilt consciously or unconsciously may be rationalized to the point that he may reapeat it again.The only way he can ever be right is to admit his wrong doing to his wife in order that he means for it to never happen again. Best wishes sweetie.

Answer 4

Well in regards to Violet P... that is not always the case. Men always are thinking of sex whether they want to admit to it or not and sometimes the cheating is just that sex nothing more. But more times than not the cheater is looking for someone to connect with that the spouse isn't in tune with their spouses views. And sometimes- us wives - don't even realize that they have this need. My ex always said he was tired and I'd ask him of what and he would never say. Then after his affair he told me that he was tired of some of the things that I did and said. I never knew and he never told me. So a lot of the problem is communication on both parties and if their is no passion in the bedroom theirs no passion in the marriage. Some women after marriage limit the bedroom and let me tell you that doesn't work too well to keep his tiger in the cage. I'm sure that their is more versions of what makes a man cheat -- but the same can be said of the ladies too. Hope this helps your curiosity.

Answer 5

The question is more complex than it seems. Psychologists would say this happens when a spouse is unhappy with the marriage, and this is a classic way for people to get revenge. Both genders cheat, by the way.
Anthropologists can argue that monogamy is a relatively recent development, and that before 5,000 BC or so most societies were polygamous (early Jews were: Solomon had 300 wives and 700 concubines). Even now polygamy is the norm in Africa, common in the Muslim world, and still alive in other places. In other words, people aren't born monogamous, they're trained to be that way.
Highly successful men, Alpha males, who are rich, handsome and talented, are approached by large numbers of women. Ask any rock star. Even famous criminals attract women. There could be a genetic component to this - women's genes are driving them to couple with guys like this to produce successful offspring.

Answer 6

I feel that most men begin to become unfaithfull when their wives stop doing the things that they did to get him. If you used to dress up nice and sexy for me (every now and then) and now you just go Au Natural jeans and T-shirt ALL the time, Strike One!!! If you don't show a man appreciation, that's really bad. I'm not saying every little thing. Thanks for closing the bathroom door when you crapped , more like"I appreciate the way you help out around the house, or I appreciate the way you work hard for your family" Strike Two!!! Now of course the sexual aspect, not even really always having sex but being frisky with you, show me that your physically attracted to me verbally and physically. No sex for long periods of time is trash. Strike Three!!

Answer 7

Cheating men in a warm and caring relationship are probably pretty rare. Because the male has respect for his spouse. If a man cheats, he has probably been a slug all of his life. Basically a character flaw. But women have character flaws too. I would assume that women cheat too. Men, through history have made the rules and therefore, In my humble opinion, cheat more often.

Answer 8

He is a dog at heart and has a EGO problem. Society puts it out there . Wemen do the same its the thrill of the game to see if you still got it . Not realizing how the other will hurt. SELFISH and a state of MEISUM

Answer 9

simple and pain he wants to no one is forced into a position to cheat a man or woman can lay the question out there and if they take the bait hook line and sinker then its there fault for doing it never has nothing to do with the party that they are cheating on but they give them every excuse to make them think its there fault when they should just come clean and say it was because i wanted to

Answer 10

The man normally Drives.

Seriously, sometimes there is a breakdown in communication that can lead to it, but many times some men are just pre-destined to be cheaters.

Young women would be wise to recognize those traits in men BEFORE getting married. Sadly, it seems that a majority of girls are attracted to the very men that have those traits, marry them anyway and then wonder what they did wrong to "Drive" him to cheat.

Why do so many women have such low self-esteem?

Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 11

lets see the only thing that i might can think of that draws a men to cheat is that they cant handle being with one person. and it can also be there having trouble in there marriage and they want some comfort from another women and from there it can lead to some thing else. But you just cant say men cheat because there is women out there that do the same thing