I decided that my husband & I will skip the ceremony and just attend the wedding. How rude do ya'll think that is? Mind you, this is a guy friend of mine whom I speak to rarely & I plan on bringing a nice gift. I just can't spend an entire day out of town with animals at home and school work to attend to.
2007-05-17 05:54:21 · 24 answers · asked by sterlingshell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I meant the reception, not wedding. Thanks for mentioning that.
2007-05-17 06:02:46 · update #1
It is not rude at all. Many people just go to the reception and not the ceremony.
2007-05-17 05:59:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Not rude at all. Many couples only expect close family to show up to the ceremony when they schedule it like that. What is rude is to expect everyone to get all dressed up, hire a babysitter, then ask them to go kill 3 hours somewhere while you take pictures. This is why many couples are having the ceremony and reception in the same place these days or doing the pictures before the ceremony and going right to the hall from there.
2007-05-17 14:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by bountifiles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think if you can only attend one event then go to the wedding and skip the reception. your animals should be able to be alone for a while its not like it's 4 or 5 hour drive home. You could take your school work and work on it between the wedding and reception. Otherwise i would just send a gift and a note that you won't be able to attend.
2007-05-18 01:15:28 · answer #3 · answered by bubbles 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow I'm kinda shocked that they would expect anyone to wait around for over 3 hours. That is the rude part in all this. They must not have any out of town guests--or they have something planned for that time. A friend's wedding had a tour of the city--it was a destination wedding--the guys went golfing I believe but I can't remember what the women had scheduled. Everyone thought it was weird. A lot of people only went to one or the other.
It is perfectly normal and acceptable to only go to 1 or the other. I had some friends of mine who came to the wedding but not the reception due to personal problems with some other guests. They didn't want to cause a scene so they just avoided the reception. I don't think the bride and groom will be offended in the slightest. I doubt its only you who is wondering what to do for over 3 hours of just twiddling thumbs.
Definitely go to one or the other and just in your RSVP convey what you intend. That way if the caterer needs a rather exact count, the bride will know. If you go to the reception and not the wedding, just RSVP yes--the couple won't know. But if you go to the wedding and not the reception--just convey You'll be glad to attend the wedding but due to the circumstances, will be unable to attend the festivities that evening. It isn't rude at all--thats why they invented RSVP cards--to have a way to not be rude and tell a Bride and Groom you aren't coming. Your friend didn't invite you to make you feel obligated--you were invited to inform you of this exciting day in the bride/groom's life.
Don't fret about it. A bride and groom understand that Their Wedding Day--the big huge event that it is--isn't a national holiday nor a huge all consuming day for anyone else. The couple will be glad you came to either part.
2007-05-17 13:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Receptions are the fun part of a wedding. However if you are not able to attend because of other obligations, let him know in advance so he will not plan on food and drink for you. It is perfectly fine to go to only to the wedding ceremony.
2007-05-17 13:30:52 · answer #5 · answered by Tea C 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that is rude at all...
They have one huge time gap between the ceremony and reception.
Er, ceremony and wedding is the same thing, so which are you meaning to skip? I think it is rude to go to the reception instead of the ceremony. I don't think it is rude to go to the ceremony instead of the reception, just let the bride and groom know so they can tally for the caterer correctly.
2007-05-17 13:00:32 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's rude. It's not like you're close. Lots of times people are invited to ONLY the reception or cocktail hour and not the wedding.
FYI: My fiance says that where he's from in France, pretty much any one you can think of is invited for the aperatif hour before the reception. He says this list can include your butcher, your baker, your candlestick maker...j/k...or your post man if you're friendly. It's a chance for everyone who knows the couple to wish them well.
2007-05-17 13:01:22 · answer #7 · answered by Flamekat 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a little rude to attend the reception and not the ceremony. It is entirely possible that no one will notice.
2007-05-17 14:22:47 · answer #8 · answered by Adoptive Father 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That is rude . Very rude if you do not attend the ceremony then why do you think it would be okay to attend the reception ? I dont think if you are going to the ceremony it would be okay to go to the reception . dont attend at all and send a gift .
2007-05-17 14:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
That is an appropriate way to handle it since you live that far away and dont know him that much. Besides he wont even know if you are at the wedding or not, but would be more likely to see your attendance at the reception.
2007-05-17 14:19:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋