My friend owns a bar that i am at frequently. I have done tons of stuff for this person and have brought in alot of business. I asked for a partime or fill in type job and was told they didnt need anybody because the bartenders they have want to pick up hours if some one cant work. Then within a few days they hired some one as a fill in. What should i do?
2007-05-17 05:50:06 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
ummm nothing you can do - just stop going to that bar if you want
2007-05-17 05:53:13 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, the best thing to do would be to ask your friend what happened. If you guys have a good relationship, you would hope he would be honest with you. But in most cases, working for a friend is a bad idea in general. Your friend would have to treat you like an employee instead of a friend, and if any personal feelings got in the way, someone could get upset and the relationship could be ruined. It seems like you're already upset about it. Imagine if you worked for him and someone else got the hours or shifts you wanted. Would you still feel personally wronged by your friend? I'd recommend just staying a good friend for your buddy, helping out, and findng a part time job elsewhere.
2007-05-17 05:54:59 · answer #2 · answered by Zuzana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friends should never work for friends. Bad idea, 99% of the time. It usually ends the friendship at some point.
Aside from that, you call yourself this person's friend, saying how you have done all this stuff, but then you act like he owes you something over it. A real friend would not expect anything in return for helping out a friend. Be proud to have a friend with a good enough head for business to know better than to mix that business with friendship.
2007-05-17 06:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
most bartenders dont drink and have no connections with the bar.Thats the best way to hire them...with you they have a conflict of interest...if you were hired and didnt work out it may affect business...so why bother to get in that jam right? They want to be your friend...dont you agree? If you are hard headed enough to want to fill in then tell them you will work for nothing...if you work well in that capacity they may yet hire you
2007-05-17 05:56:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, this seems to really be "eating" at you. The first thing to do is approach your friends and explain to them just what you've said here. BUT, add that you just really want to know if it's lack of experience on your part, keeping business and friendship seperate, of if there is something else that caused this decision of their's. Be honest, but please, don't let it ruin a friendship! They are business owners and have to do what is best for their livelihood. Good luck and keep an open mind and let them explain for you!!
2007-05-17 06:27:02 · answer #5 · answered by MAGGIE MAE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe your friend just wants to keep you as a friend, being an employee of a good friend, or relative, could ruin the happiness in that. If you didn't get paid the amount you were suppose to, lets say, by accident. and you complained, your friend denies and really believes he paid you fully...you start an arguement, and maybe aren't friends much longer. I honestly, think he just wants to save your friendship and keep it as just friends, not employee (the way i talk sounds like you're wanting to date, sorry!)
I could be wrong, just talk to them...and why can't you say if it is a him or her? it's one person...
2007-05-17 05:58:58 · answer #6 · answered by ღ❤Crystal❤ღ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to your "friend" and nicely ask why. Say that you noticed they hired someone and that you feel a little offended that they told you they didn't need anyone. That it made you feel like a loser. You value his/her friendship to be honest but that they weren't honest with you.
Don't let it become an issue but I would at least put it out there,
2007-05-20 14:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by Pepper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband and I own a business, a friend of mine wanted the job as secretary when i was looking to fill the position but I hired someone else mainly because we are friends and I didn't want her to think she would get special treatment being my friend/employee. I didn't want to ruin a friendship, at first she was mad at me but she got over it.
2007-05-17 06:58:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing, maybe they don't think you would be a good fit. Especially if you party too much or are loud and obnoxious. My friend had the same thing happen to her and it is because she 26/woman and acts like a 17 year old boy because she really doesn't have her head on straight and everyone knows it.
2007-05-17 06:35:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess would be that he didn't want to ruin your friendship by having you work for him. That could get really messy if things didn't work out on the job. He should have had the guts to tell you though. I would suggest you tell him that it hurt your feelings, and if in the future he just doesn't want to do something for you, he just be up front with you.
2007-05-17 06:06:57 · answer #10 · answered by wendy08010 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
happens to me all the time.
there is nothing you can do. find a job yourself and be proud that you don't owe it to anybody.
since nobody has ever helped me finding a job, and i always look for it myself, i feel like i am a more "complete" person. i feel good about myself.
i have found jobs for so many friends! i hope some day God will remember me and will help me somehow :)
2007-05-17 06:18:02 · answer #11 · answered by Dusik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋