Political battles are important and necessary. But the fight for gay marriage equality will ultimately be won only when our nanas and aunts and uncles and cousins and nieces and nephews see our marriages as the family-extending events that they are, don't you agree.
2007-05-17
05:16:17
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CHEESUS GROYST
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"Most gays have a strange relationship with weddings. We are stereotypically (and often in fact) connected with their planning and execution, as florists, designers, musicians, priests, and so on. But as guests we are typically outsiders. We gather to celebrate love in a world that doesn’t want to hear about ours.
We sit at tables with relatives and friends who may not know that we’re gay and may not like it if they do. We are warned not to “spoil things” by “making a scene.” So when the slow songs play, we dance with Nana. Like the guys on “Queer Eye,” we help plan others’ events and then retreat invisibly into the background. I’ve always found it rather cruel" John Corvino
2007-05-17
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update #1
If gays are allowed to marry, then people will start marrying dogs next, because dogs can give consent and sign a marriage license.
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2007-05-17 05:36:44
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answered by Anonymous
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Hi, I agree with you however, you are not being true to yourself if you choose to put yourself in situations where you are told not to make a scene. If you have found the love of your life celebrate and don't let anyone take that from you. Dance at the wedding if it causes a scene so be it. You are who you are they can either love you for the person you are or it is their loss. Don't make it a loss for you. Don't hide your love with your partner in order to gain love from someone else. That is disrespectful of the true love you have found. If the extended family can not or will not deal with it sit out the next event the only scene that will then be caused is the one where they have to explain why you are not there. True love is so hard to find now a days be thankful every moment that you found someone to share your life with rejoice in your love, yell it from the roof tops to the mountaintops. You have already accomplished what so many have not by finding it. No I am not gay. But I think gays should have the same rights that I do. D & G Gifts Etc
2007-05-17 12:27:43
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answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6
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Absolutely. I am straight and a licensed minister. I am also atheist but that is neither here nor there. My gay friend Jacob called me last week to ask me to marry him and the man of his dreams, who he proposed to the day before. I gave an enthusiastic, "When and where?"
Sadly, his mother did not have the same reaction and he won't get married without her there. It is so sad. I look at Jacob like a little brother and it breaks my heart his own mother can't let him be in love.
2007-05-17 12:38:17
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answered by deusexmichael 3
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No, I'm sorry but I don't agree. Gay marriages are not family extended events. Gay marriages are just what they are, gay marriages, not intended by God in no shape or form. Although God loves people regardless of their sexual preference, there is no making it right, even if people think it is. There are all types of people in this world, and everyone has his/her preferences. Being gay does not make you a bad person, it just puts you in a different catagory of what is acceptable behaviour, and gay marriages is another behaviour that goes against the grain of "normal". Even though in these days and times, more people are tolerating it, they are still not seeing it as a family extending event. Not being preachey, but God called it "vile effections" in Romans 1:26 (King James version). Even if some people don't believe in God or the Bible, it still exists and it still stands as the written word of God.
2007-05-17 14:48:01
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answered by daviskingskid 2
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I hope one day in the USA gay people who want to form loving relationships and have families will receive the same protections and legal benefits. It is what all families deserve. Mine is not any more special than yours.
A good question to ask people who do not want gay people to marry each other is, "Would you rather they marry straight people?"
2007-05-17 12:23:04
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answered by pixie_pagan 4
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Isnt it ironic that fundamentalists scream about how promisicous gay men are, but when they do want to enter a committed relationship the fundies scream about that, too! Love is not a christian value, its a human value! I do believe its moving towards acceptance, but not fast enough.
2007-05-17 12:31:56
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answered by in a handbasket 6
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The battle for gay marriage seems to be won were I live, in MA
2007-05-17 12:25:21
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answered by Heather 4
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Well...first of all you cannot be "family-extending" since you cannot procreate.
But beyond that...you may be right. Statistics show that younger people are more accepting of homosexuality. This is just society though and society has never been a good measure of what is right...only what is popular. Much like a box-office hit is not always a good movie!
2007-05-17 12:31:01
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answered by Misty 7
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Sorry, I don't agree. If gay marriage is allowed then plural marriage should be allowed too. After all, which is more "natural".
So if Gay marriage and Plural marriage is allowed and legal. That means one person could marry (for example) two guys and two ladies. Not to mention, each of them is would be married to other men and women. and so on.
This is what is meant by "Gay Marriage" undermines the traditional family. if it's a allowed, the holy matrimony of one wife and one husband; and them having their own children will become extinct and no longer exist.
Whats next? people will want to officially marry their dog or cat; maybe horse or sheep. Eventually house or business. this will go one and on. You might think that this ridiculous and you are right; just remember that not too long ago EVERYONE thought the gay was ridiculous.
If you want to be gay it's your choice; but by pushing this issue, you pushing your chosen lifestyle on everyone else.
2007-05-17 12:21:59
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answered by Coool 4
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This lifestyle is wrong. Just because you got an urge for the same sex doesn't make it right. Whats next? Beastiality? It's just a notch lower than what gays do. Marriage between two men. You aught to be ashamed of yourself. But not in todays world. You are beginning to be accepted. It's another indicator of how much closer to Hell this world has sunk.
2007-05-17 12:26:43
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answered by Jimguyy 5
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