me and my girl broke up because i lied, i still care for her deeply. and she cares for me. its just she scared to give me that last chance to prove i will not lie once more, shes scared of being hurt for the third time. my buddys think i should for get her and meet someone else. but i just cant cause i care for her with all my heart and i know theres no excuse for lieing, and i dont know why i did it. her graduation is this friday. i got her a very nice gift for her back when we were togeather, should i give it to her or not my buddys agin say just get my money back, i want her back and im not just going to give up on her.
2007-05-17 04:47:35 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you want her to know you are sorry and that you care, give her the present and go to her graduation. Even if she says not to. Don't just tell her your sorry, show her. Good luck
2007-05-17 04:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up if you feel that strong about her, and definitely don't listen to your buddies. Your buddies don't make you feel the way she does, and if you buddies are single themselves, they just want you to get over her so you can get back to running and playing the field with them. if you really like her and want her back, I think you should definitely give her the gift, congratulate her on graduation, and sincerely apologize to her for what you did wrong, tell her what you told us, it is no excuse for you lying and if she gives you another chance, you have to really show her by your actions. She is scared and doesn't trust you, you've lied to her not once but twice before. Usually when you apologize for something you did you don't turn around and do the same thing again. You have to try putting yourself in her position and imagine how you would feel if she did to you what you did to her. You both still care for each other, so there is always hope. If she doesn't want to hear what you talking about, then when you are ready you might want to tak your buddies advice and move on. All the best.
2007-05-17 05:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by TRUTH HURTZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truely care about her then let her go. If you keep hurting her and she keeps coming back to you then you will learn that you can walk all over her anytime and she will take you back.
I understand you truly care about her but hurting her time and time again shows just the opposite.
Maybe the love you have for her is masked by something else, like just feeling sorry for her that you hurt her!!
If you bought her the gift, give it to her!! Tell her that you bought it before and she can do with it what she chooses!!
If I'm wrong and you won't hurt her again, you need to get rid of whatever is making you lie to her because as a female the more you get your heart broke, the more your insecurities show and the less of a person the girl will become.
You have to make her feel everyday that she is the luckiest person in the world to have you and vise versa!!
#1 stop listening to your buddies. I have a feeling that they are either single and miserable or with someone and miserable, they want to pull you down to their level and that could be the cause of all your problems!!!
Sorry to go off on a tangent but just remember if you want your girl to be with you for the long haul, your buddies can't do what she can do for you which is: nurture, care, make babies, or take care of you when your sick...
Good luck!!!!
2007-05-17 04:56:47 · answer #3 · answered by Kay Ray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have it hard, because once you lose the trust of a person that loves you it's hard to get in back, but it can be done. Just know that is takes time, and if you have time you better give it to her as well as the gift. Let her know that you get the gift before you two split, and that you still care about her and wish that you never did what you did and it won't happen again, and you are willing to give her as much time and space that she will need to make decision. And also tell her that you dropped some of those friends that haven't been in love yet. This way she will no that you are for real. Just be hornest with her. Good Luck.
2007-05-17 04:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by Lovely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget your buddies, they don't know how you feel about this girl. If i was you i would go apologize to her and tell her how i feel about her and give her the gift. Tell her you are sorry for lying and that you promise not to lie to her ever again. Ask for a second chance and tell her she wont be sorry for givin you a second chance, cause you would do anything in the world for her and you would all kinds of ways to keep her happy.
2007-05-17 04:56:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say give her the gift cuz thats what u bought it 4 right. maybe she'll see that ur being honest & open about still caring 4 her. I think if u hang in there she'll give u 1 more chance. just don't fudge it up this time.
2007-05-17 04:57:48 · answer #6 · answered by Tati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have someone else give it to her, put your name on it. If she gives it back then go get your $ back. If she keeps it, it may be a sign that she still cares. You may be able to work it out but if this has happened twice before she will need lots of space to figure out if it's worth taking another chance.
2007-05-17 05:12:08 · answer #7 · answered by neta s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give her the gift. You still love her right??? Well you already got her the gift so just do it. Follow your heart . You still want her try to change and get her back.
2007-05-17 04:54:05 · answer #8 · answered by Only1 Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really depends what you lied about.
If it really hurt her then gifts can just make her feel worse and mess more with her emotions than you have already. on the otherhand this could be what shows her you care.
But i think if you honestly really care about her this much you should tell her that be honest about how you feel.
If she doesn't feel the same back then move on with your life , but if she believes you then it could work out.
2007-05-17 04:55:25 · answer #9 · answered by Tbone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong in giving her the gift. But if you really care for her, you need to give her some time and space. If it was meant to be then she will find her way back to yo
2007-05-17 04:52:08 · answer #10 · answered by plumprump26 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋