there is this guy who works around where i work at. For the past two weeks i have been going to his job with an excuse that i have to buy something. Everytime i go in there he talks to me and is always asking me when are we going to go out? I gave him my number about 1 week and a half a go and he has not called but everytime i go in there he shows intrest in me and never charges me for what i get, and he keeps on questioning me when are we going out... now am looking for a point of view of a guy why hasent he called what is he waitng for? everythime i go in there he is always giving me complements and asking me when are we going to go out. unfourtanally i did not have time last weekend and this weekend am going out of town and he said that we should go out during the week that he will call me, Now i need a guys advice why is he doing that? whay hasent he called?
2007-05-17 04:38:08 · 27 answers · asked by Baby Girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Omg! I had the same thing happen to me a few years back. There was this guy . He worked at the video store..he was the manager. He'd flirt with me n constantly ask for my number and he'd walk with me all over the store and say lets go out...but he never called. And when i'd go back to the store (i'm a movie-a-holic) he'd still be all flirty...but wouldn't make a move. I still don't know what the hell was up to this day.....i eventually stopped going there cuz i didn't want him to think i was needy or stalkerish or something..... I dunno guys are dumb dude... I don't understand that whole...don't call when you say you will...unless they aren't interested in the first place....and just want to flirt to boost their ego. And in that case......why ask for the effing number then?? I'm always honest...if i'm flirting just to flirt i let them know it's not going past that. Some guys are spineless though...they don't have the balls to lay it on the line. HOWEVER..some guys are just jerks...they'll ask you for your number and say they'll call just to see how you'll react.....so when you go into work he sees your frustration. I'd say forget him. It sounds like he's playing games......and if he's ready...when he is he'll call. If not eff him. But don't let him see you sweat. And also...there are SO many other guys out there... don't settle for one that's bringing drama to the table b4 you even go out! It's propostrous!
...lol sorry for this novel
2007-05-17 08:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by Adri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he's "not that into you" or... he's shy... or he's not single.
A lot of the "nice guy" types are quite shy -- he can be a little bit bold in person but fall apart on the phone when it's actually time to make his move.
My suggestion: if you want something, go for it. No one will do it for you. Challenge him: "I gave you my number twice - why didn't you call?" Either that will give him the extra confidence he needs to call, or he will stop playing around with you.
But don't forget the possibility that he is not single. You want to know where he lives and who he lives with sooner rather than later. My suggestion: get his cell number and his home phone number and call him a few times at unexpected moments. Look for "can't talk right now" and hushed voice tones and crazy excuses to call you back later. If you sense something like this, tell him "I've just bought something for you and I was wondering if I could quickly drop it off on my way to the gym. What's your address?." (Don't go in, though.. just drop it off and leave -- for now.)
As they say in the computer manuals, "Rots of ruck"
2007-05-17 04:53:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because he likes you!! Guys are weird like that and he probably wants you to make a move to show him that you truly do like him. He doesn't want to appear too into you, so by not calling you, he's playing hard to get!!
Be confident and ask him out - go into his workplace and say "I'm free on (whatever day you're free) if you want to take me out". What have you got to lose?
Hope this helps!
2007-05-17 04:43:41 · answer #3 · answered by raspberryfluff 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this guy was really interesting in you he had already called you. The reason I tell you this is because if any girl walks in there the probability of him flirting is uh.. 100%yeap.. especially if he is handsome.. ignore his little comments or say something back.. like sarcasm... yeah, no wonder you called me yesterday..I saw your number on my color ID.. and that is if you are really interested in him... other than that obviously he comments u as soon as you walk in... let him think of you outside the job.. good luck.. another thing that you can do is tell one of your friends to go in there to test him to see if she gets commented as well as you do..
2007-05-17 04:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by ; ) 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is probably married or something. if he had free time during his personal hours of the day, he would have called you, but he is probably at home with the wife and kids, and the only time he has for you is in the shop when he is working. he is probably just hoping to bang you during his lunch break sometime next week,,, maybe i am wrong, thats just my hunch, the way my mind works...
2007-05-17 04:45:48 · answer #5 · answered by mayday3374 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like to me you have had too many excuses for not going out with him and he is afraid of you just hanging up on him or coming up with another excuse on the phone.
if you really like him, then take a chance, and go out during the week. you know, dinner and a movie. Personally, i would prefer some thing like McDonald's. and a funny movie. save the romance for later. get to know him first.
2007-05-17 04:45:30 · answer #6 · answered by FarmerCec 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He probably has a GF or something. He wants to flirt with you at work, but thats all hes able to do because hes most likely tied down outside of work.
2007-05-17 04:41:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My first instinct was he was nice to you because you went to his shop all the time. Then you mentioned he diesn't charge you. Then next time he asks about going out say 'when you call me'. If he is shy that will be the signal to him that you'll say yes.
2007-05-17 04:42:54 · answer #8 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you should get his number, and if he dont give it or is evasive then there is a reason. He probly is flirting with you so you can keep coming back to buy things. Test him , set up a date yourself and be there. If he stands you up then you know he was a loser after all.
2007-05-17 04:42:45 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Goldeluxe 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he's waiting for you to say "ok, how about this Wednesday for lunch or whatever. Be a bit more bold and next time he says lets go out, say ok let's plan a time right now and do it.
2007-05-17 04:41:53 · answer #10 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋