All the places I have worked I have been promoted quickly. Just through hard work, or getting thrown in at the deep end and then doing ok. My boyfriend told me today that I shouldn't get promoted that quickly, that obviously I wouldn't know what I was doing.
I gave him examples of what it is that I do, and he says that it would be better done by someone trained to do it. I haven't done it wrong though, everyone at my workplace is happy that I do a good job. I have moved around, actually with my boyfriend and he says this reflects badly on me, but I never have problems finding work.
I dont understand, today he gave me interview type questions. like 'what experience have you had with xxx' and being negartive because I left my last job. I dont even answer as good as I would in an interview because he is my boyfriend. If I answer something badly though, he'll go, 'see that reflects badly on you in an interview'.
Everything I say, he assumes I'll get it wrong.
2007-05-17 04:26:20 · 15 answers · asked by sleepyme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hes jealous you're successful and hes not, tell him to get over himself. Hes probably not getting promoted as quickly in his career so to make himself feel better be wants to believe that it is a fluke that you are getting promoted and you don't deserve it when you do.
2007-05-17 04:29:43 · answer #1 · answered by Julz 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should be proud that you do GREAT work! Don't let him get you stressed out about going to an interview, or worry about not working as hard so you dont get promoted.
Your employer gives you a promotion because they think that you are capeable of handling the position. And i know that changing jobs regularly can reflect poorly on a resume, but the fact that it doesnt take you long to advance in a company shows that you are a hard worker.
2007-05-17 11:33:35 · answer #2 · answered by imthecheesynacho 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are Not over reacting! It appears that boyfriend is very jealous of your ability, likeability and success. I think that his ego is suffering because a; you have no probs finding jobs b; you are promoted quickly whereas hes maybe not & c: you probably earn more than him. It also sounds as if hes resenting this & (im sorry if this annoys you) that hes abusing you psychologically. He also seems to have somewhat succeeded,you seem to love him very much but its time to stand up to him and sort out this issue its him that has the problem and not you! Maybe if this can be resolved then your relationship may deepen and if not pet then.... You are a smart intelligant person who Will go far in life REMEMBER THAT!!! i hope it works out xxx
2007-05-17 11:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by pixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the risk of sounding cliche, communication is important in a relationship. Have you told him how his behavior upsets you? Be honest to yourself and be honest to him. Tell him, this is my job and there are other people more qualified than me but I am the one who has the job.
The employer put you in the position you have because they saw something that your boyfriend is apparently overlooking. What is he trying to get at anyway? You already have the job right? Did you complain to him that it was difficult? If he is coming to you and saying you are unqualified for your new job without provocation, then there is something else wrong. He is telling you something about himself. Ask him straight out, why can't you be happy with me? If he can't give a straight answer back, then he's dodging the real issue. Lastly, if he can't communicate with you why he is interrogating you in a way that you can understand, then I would suggest one of three things.
1. Get relationship counseling and work on communication.
2. Endure his petty ways but ignore the suffering he places on you.
3. End the relationship.
I hope it works out for the best for both of you.
2007-05-17 11:43:20 · answer #4 · answered by mitsukago 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Congrats on the quick promotion. Those who learn fast and have goals to get somewhere within a company can accomplish that. Maybe he just feels a little hummm how can I put it... Intimidated by you and your fast growing within the company. I know in the past I have gotten a little jealous my boyfriend lost more weight then I did ( I know silly and off topic) but because I was angry that he did better then I did. I picked at everything little thing he did. I accused him of cheating and using diet pills.. I couldn’t handle the fact that he was actually better then me in that one little thing. Maybe he feels the same way who knows. Just keep doing what you’re doing because your doing something right and being promoted means you put quite the impression on the management that got you there quickly. I wish you the best of luck!!!
Hope this helps a little. ;)
2007-05-17 11:34:57 · answer #5 · answered by princess00719 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for starters he is jealous. he disencourages you. obviously you have been given promotions because of hardwork and determination and that is great. hardwork is training. how would he know what questions to ask you in an interview about your job if he hasn't done that job himself?
moving doenst reflect badly on you at interviews. and if that is what he really thought and really cared about he would get you settled in one place for a good length of time. i really think all this boils down to is him being jealous. its ridiculous. if he gonna be jealous of your hardwork and promotions what other little things in life will he get jealous about? and when it comes ot the bigger things how much bigger will his jealousy be and what will his reactions be then.
he is purely selfish, controling, and again JEALOUS. there is nothing worse than a jealous mate. dump him and move on. if he really cared abotu you he would encourage you and could careless how you got the promotion. he would happy for you and take you out to celebrate in some way.
2007-05-17 11:39:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are partners that do get jealous over their mate advancing in a job faster than them. It sounds to me like this is the case here. Don't worry that your boyfriend doesn't agree with you being promoted. If your boss is happy with your work, continue doing the job. Your boss is the only one that needs to approve of your work.
2007-05-17 11:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by ET 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he someone with alot of pride?
He could be jealous of the promotion you have. Or he feel inferior to your success. My boyfriend used to be clever and want to advise me with problems. But the problem with him is he never work before. he never has to worry about money. He can only advise based on common sense knowledge.
I suggest you ask yourself if he is in a position to advise you if you are getting promote too quickly.
My conclusion with my boyfriend is, he has not grown up and is in no position to discuss such issues with me therefore whatever he tell me is not relevant.
2007-05-17 11:33:03 · answer #8 · answered by bluekoala35 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's Jealous! Im assuming you make more money then he does and he doesn't like that. Alot of guys have a hard time with women who have a job with any power. Dont let him get to you.. you do your thing girl and keep showing him up! W00t for YOU!!! :D
2007-05-17 11:32:21 · answer #9 · answered by 04/12/2008 :) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he jealous or just a pessimistic person? Our partners are typically people who support and encourage us, not who tell us how unqualified we are and try to say or do things to show our weaknesses, rather than enhance our strengths.
He's being an azz either way. I'd drop the subject with him...let him know if he's not going to support you, then you'd rather leave the issue alone. He's not doing anything to help y'alls relationship by trying to bring you down.
2007-05-17 11:30:42 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋