Ok well let me just come right out and say it..I stoped believeing in god because my life sucks............And I've been having lots of evil things as of late............I've wanted to commit suicide...I've lusted after the flesh.........I've done nothing to please god whatsoever and I hate my life so much that I just want it to end but if there is a god then I want to live....but ok here's the problem that I have......I have a cuz who is a atheist and a friend who is a buddist and....Also I've been stalking this who isn't even my friend anymore but she likes girls and guys and thats wrong and agaisnt the bible...So I've been purseing this girl and I might wind up in jail.
So here's my question
If I want to come back to god can I leave certain people out?
Like my cuz or like my friend who is a buddist because I think that there influnce on me casts a evil presance on me? so is it good to exculde certain people from god? to help me get closer to god and believe in him again?
2007-05-17 04:25:07 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Should I have good wholesome christian friends only? Would that make my life better? And should I never talk and assocate with the wicked?
2007-05-17 04:26:16 · update #1
People are people regardless of their religion, you either like them or you don't. This christian website may help www.royalwoodupc.org
2007-05-17 08:18:17 · answer #1 · answered by judles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any "friend" who has a negative influence is not a friend at all. And that has nothing to do with religion. That's a life issue. If you feel your life would be better without these "friends", then yes, find yourself a new group of people to hang with.
By the way, just because you are a Christian, doesn't mean that you only have to associate with Christians. There are a lot of positive people in this world who would really like to have friends to talk to who are not Christian. Friendship should not be based only on religious purposes.
As well, quit your stalking habit. It's kind of freaky.
As for your religious choice, that is something personal you are going to have to figure out for yourself. If you say your life was better before, then you have your answer--return to your belief. God doesn't send anyone to hell for "testing the waters." He wants you to figure out for yourself that he is real, not just because someone told you he was or told you to believe ".....just because."
2007-05-17 05:06:20 · answer #2 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there. I'm 18 and i've been a christian for less than a year. Before I got saved I was out partying and drinking, and don't get me wrong I still have the occasional slip up. A year ago I NEVER EVER would have thought I would have become a christian. EVER.
But that just shows how the Lord can grace you. Like yourself I have to associate with people who act against God. I sit on a table with 2 atheists, and two of my aunts are lesbians. I thought this meant I could never associate with them again! But this isn't true. Christianity isn't about who we exclude it's about who we embrace! The Lord loves us all, athiests, murderers. ALL of us. And when we sin (like murder, cheat etc) it doesn't make the Lord reject us it causes him great pain. That's why we ask for forgiveness.
You're life sucks because you're not living in the spirit of Christ. When we're not living by Christ we're living by satan. No wonder you're in distress!
Stop stalking this girl. Realise she's just another person. Try talking to the Lord, outloud. I know it feels strange, I still want to cringe sometimes when I do it but that's just satan trying to stop us communing with God. He'll guide you.
2007-05-17 04:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I think that you're making this entirely black or white. Even Jesus was friends with those who were sinners, because as He said, the healthy don't need a doctor, it's the sick that need one.
So, instead of totally eliminating these people from your life, eliminate them as influences on your life. Leadership is all about influence, and if these people are having such a bad influence on your life, they are leading you in a negative direction.
To get closer to God again, I recommend coming back to him in prayer and just admit what you've done wrong. You know what your heart really yearns for....so talk to God about it. Tell him what's been going on, and ask Him to change your heart. Good luck and I'll be praying for you :)
2007-05-17 04:34:27 · answer #4 · answered by starsk8r8190 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Come back to God...He has not abandoned you and never will, regardless of the trials you have gone through. He will go with you THROUGH any obstacle if you place your trust in Him. The choice is yours...
"Life is what we make it - always has been, always will be" - Grandma Moses
Can you leave certain people out? Only to a certain extent. We are to love everyone as Jesus did - including our enemies; HOWEVER, Christians are IN the world, not OF the world. Read 1 Corinthians 13 to understand what it truly means to walk in love. It is a CHOICE. Therefore you should surround yourself with Christian friends until your faith is strong enough (you are spiritually mature enough) to stand up against Satan's tactics to lure you away from God. We are to be the salt and the light for others - our lives should be a testimony to the Lord. We are to be TRANSFORMED, not CONFORMED to this world.
2007-05-17 04:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, please don't kill yourself. That would be giving Satan exactly what he wants. God has better plans ahead for you, you can trust in that.
As for excluding certain people from your life, I would say that you may have to do that for awhile. Not permanently - God wants us to be salt and light to non-believers - but everybody understands that sometimes you have to be by yourself for awhile. In this case, it's just you and God and godly Christian friends. This is not saying that your friends or cuz are evil in themselves - just that they are into some wrong things, and it would be better for you to be separate.
Please pay no attention to the atheist(s) on the thread who (naturally) decide to use this as an excuse to bash their warped idea of Christianity. They may be very intelligent people, but their thoughts have no weight in this area. How can those who are fleshly understand the spiritual?
You do not have to be nasty in doing this, of course - just tell them that you're very busy, and you'd really like to get back together with them (which is true), but that you can't do it right now.
Then, definitely surround yourself with other Christians, both in person and virtually. You need that support network, just as an alcoholic or drug addict needs it. Please feel free to contact me directly and I will try and help any way I can.
2007-05-17 04:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by Gary B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Satan tempts us in many ways, there will always be things that just aren't right.
Our life is honestly what we make of it because of Free Will.
We all associate with people who believe one way or another, but that does not mean we have to follow the pack.
Stalking someone ya don't even like is just silly.
You don't have to leave any one out unless they are the reason you have begun to question your faith.
Talk to your local Clergy and they can explain better than anyone on the Internet.
Good luck and God bless
2007-05-17 04:36:45 · answer #7 · answered by sweetokms 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe make one Christian friend and see what that's like. You may need to make some changes in your lifestyle which will change the people who want to spend time with you.
God values everyone. New believers bring more people to God than the old-timers because those people can see a change in your life and you already know and care about them. But if you were an alcoholic you might need to stop hanging out with your drinking buddies for awhile, and if you want to change your beliefs and lifestyle you may need to seek out others who can mentor you.
If you're serious, pray and listen.
2007-05-17 04:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by rcpeabody1 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You need to pray pray pray. Ask God to come into your heart and take control of your life. It won't be easy! You will still have free will to do what you choose - you will have to make a concious decision to do the right thing when you get into tempting situations.
God would not want you to exclude those people from your life. When God was on earth, he didn't hand out with believers...he hung out with prostitutes and theives. Why? Because they needed to know the Lord.
2007-05-17 04:42:33 · answer #9 · answered by LG 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you really are suicidal you should get some help. Then, I must ask , have you accepted Christ as the payment for sin- this is the first thing that you must do to please God. God will draw near to you, if you draw near to Him. Give your life to Christ- do not try to do something for God without this first step. Surround yourself with other Christians, they will help you in your growth- about leaving your other friends- if they are causing you to stumble you should flee,however remember that Jesus spent time with unbelievers and sinners - however He was not tempted to sin along with them, so make sure your life is right with God , and then share your faith with unsaved relatives and friends. To even ask this question, you have to know that God is calling you. He calls us out of darkness, into His marvelous light.
2007-05-17 04:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a relationship with God, then ask for it, believe in him, pray about it and then you surround yourself with people who live for God, but you do not exclude other people, you should treat the people who do not believe in God like they are the same as you because they are one of God's children, and you will be a good influence to them when they see the way you live for God and how you still love them even if they live in sin or they do not believe as you do!
2007-05-17 04:34:43 · answer #11 · answered by Dancing Girl 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋