I'm 14, 8 months ago I went through a bad phase. Bad crowd, I got disrespectful, fough ta alot w/ my lil bro. I regretted and apologized sincerely, but I got a harsh punsihment and for some months especially my mom like tortured me emotionally, showing she didn't trust me though I had apologized and showed that had been just a bad phase, They didn't act like parents, showed they didn't love me. I got very sad and depressed, even has suicide thoughts. Fortunately some people , especially my grandma helped me, showed trust and understood me. My grandma invited me to live/ her. My parents didn't agree, want to rebuild our relationship, but we insisted so much and my grandma has business w/ my dad, so they ended up agreeing, though very grudgingly. I'm excited, In July I'll star a new life w/ someone who loves me, living w/ my partents became a pain, sad and hurtful memories. I intend to stay w/ her until I have a job. Is this a good decision?
2007-05-17 04:21:48 · 6 answers · asked by Mariah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Are you leaving your parents house to live with your grandma because she lets you get away with more?
Your parents are probably only trying to prevent you from becoming a bad adult. Fighting and acting out of control is behavior that deserves punishment, so do not fault your parents for that.
Trust is built, not just given after an apology. You have to show your parents you are the child they can turst by your actions as action always speak louder than words!
You are 14 and need to be focused on your future. Ask yourself this...
Do I want to be successful?
Do I want to live a good life?
If you answer Yes to those questions, than you need to go to school and find your way through this life without being out of control!! I had my "bad" teenage years and I regret how I treated my parents and I can never take it back!
2007-05-17 04:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a good decision if YOU feel it is.. of course!
meanwhile perhaps you could built a better relationship with your parents. sometmes separating ourselves from our "problems" helps.
don't run away from them, rather take the time you need to sort things out. you could let your parents know, in time, how you're feeling.
someday you might want to ask them to sit down and listen... and let them know how you feel or felt ... "i felt sad, depressed and had suicidal thoughts". "I felt as if i were never forgiven for my mistakes, even when i tried to prove i had changed".... and whatever you felt.
if you do decide to talk with your parents and let them know how you feel, you could also ask them what you think you could all do to make your relationship better. and tell them this is what you want -- a loving family relationship.
every family has isues and problems. we will never escape those, but telling people how we feel and being sincere about making amends does help sometimes.
i hope you get some good answers here, and that things in your life improve soonest. hugs.
2007-05-17 04:29:13 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah that is a good decision even though you are young, you dont want to be in that type of enviroment especially if its bringing you down. having a new start and living with someone who loves you will be a good thing for you, but just remember even though you are living with your grandma dont take advantage of the good things that you have got. hope everything goes well!
2007-05-17 04:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a good decision if it is what you want. although i am only three years older than you i know how it feels to go through a phase. just keep your head up and do what you think is best. its your life and your decision. i just hope you made the right one! good luck!
2007-05-17 04:26:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes is a good idea because your grandma believes in you, dont let her and your self down. keep your head up,think positive everything else is old.
2007-05-17 04:26:10 · answer #5 · answered by danielj 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yea if your happy, then you should! she loves you and she obviously wants to be there for you.
you parents do love you, but just don't want to show it. they proberly are just angry. don't freat, just get on with yor new life.
.................LoVe_LiFe_To_ThE_fUlL!!..................
2007-05-17 04:31:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋