My girlfriend and I have an "understanding" that I will propose by the time we close on our house together. The ring is being made and is not ready for the weekend I have planned to propose. Should I put it off or propose without a ring? If I should propose without one, please give ideas of how.
2007-05-17 04:09:59 · 13 answers · asked by Melissa H 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
wait till you can get the ring it means so much more. trust me.
2007-05-17 04:15:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
YOu could....... Do everything you have planned. Go buy a really gaudy, silly costume ring and put it in a beautiful box. Give it to her with a note that says this is the temporary ring until the "real thing" is done being made. If she has a good sense of humor, she'll laugh and probably even wear the ring.
If she doesn't have a good sense of humor, I would wait to propose. But you had better let her know why. Otherwise, she is likely to think you went back on a promise.
2007-05-17 04:27:58 · answer #2 · answered by teacherintheroom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From the girl's point of view...even if it sounds shallow...wait for the ring. A proposal without the ring would kind of leave an empty feeling.
If she seems to wondering if you are going to pop the question, say something like that are glad that the house is finally done and ready for things to settle down and be able to focus on the REALLY important things...and then give a bit of a hint of a smile about what is to come.
2007-05-17 06:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by Caitlin M 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Proposing, I would think would be the better part of the idea, remember thatt the ring is just the symbol of your commitment to her but your love that you share is garter than any thing else, what I would suggest that you do is to plan a wonderful day for her to establish your love, letting her know that the material things are not what matters most to her but your love and care that you have for her.
here is what you can do and follow as it states
get home early
Start to cook dinner after such
hit the shower
Fill the house with candles in the bed room the living room and the bathroom.
when she get in blind flod her to the dinner table where you will unflod her eyes and kiss her and and but her to be seated.
oh also buy something in the form of jewellery that youthink that she will love
while having dinner hand it to her while kneeling on one knee. explane your love to her, and propose to her with the gift and let her know that the ring is in making ok. lift her from the table and take her to the bed room, where you will let nature take it course from there. after that have a bobble bath if thats not posibble have a long shower together rember that the candles most be already let ok.. and from then on do what you would like to do, you could evem go to the late night movie together
2007-05-17 04:34:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I HATE that women all want a ring to get married! I didn't get married just to get a piece of jewelry. If you want to propose, then do it. It shouldn't matter if there's a ring or not. Frankly, I think you should only give it to her after she says 'yes', after the house is closed on. Then you know she's really in it for you. My mom is a paralegal, and she works in arbitration, and anytime an engagement goes off- for whatever reason- the woman keeps the ring, and it makes me furious. All these guys getting ripped off for thousands of dollars! You make sure she can't back out and THEN give it to her. My husband and I got engaged without one, it didn't take anything away from the moment. I got both of mine during the wedding ceremony. I didn't care, I was just happy to be marrying the man I loved. Now we are 6 1/2 years and one child later! Get down on one knee in front of your house with flowers. When she says yes, give her a key to the house... Give her the ring at the ceremony. Once you're married, carry her across the threshold.
2007-05-17 04:36:16 · answer #5 · answered by waitingwillfill 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've always thought of this question for myself. I would be pissed if my boyfriend proposed without the ring. I just see the ring as what seals the deal and makes the engagement official. Also how awkward would it be to say you're engaged and another person aks to see the ring, when there is not yet a ring.
2007-05-17 04:20:03 · answer #6 · answered by dingyblonde1987 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's like the old saying "actions speak louder than words." A proposal is just a verbal promise of marriage, but the ring represents a solid commitment of your intention to marry.
2007-05-17 11:54:54 · answer #7 · answered by collynn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a ring, propose with the ring.
If it would be financial situation or timing, then you could propose without the ring.
2007-05-17 04:14:54 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isnt it better with the ring? I mean is there a rush for this weekend for some reason? congrats for closing on the house. Wow you are ahead of the game!
2007-05-17 04:17:45 · answer #9 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's ok to propose without one, but then you have to go through the awkwardness of it. wouldnt it be awkward if you ask, will you marry me, without the ring? it's like a play without props. it's ok, but it's plain, and it's not romantic. just wait for the ring. the wait would be worth it anyway.
2007-05-17 04:15:05 · answer #10 · answered by I'm his Winona 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would be a little mad without a ring. I would wait to keep her on her toes.
2007-05-17 12:22:23 · answer #11 · answered by **0_o** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋