why is mums are overprotective. Any time im coming home late she`ll call me and ask where I am.Especially when it comes to me answering my phone she`ll be arsking who that on the phone.Even if it`s a boy i cant say that so i say it`s a my friend.She`s always on my case 24/7 I know she`s my mum and she loves me but i need my own space!!!!!!!!!!
2007-05-17 03:34:08 · 18 answers · asked by Fuqq Haters 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You don't say how old you are, but I'm thinking young teen. Moms are overprotective because that is part of our job. And with all the strange people and things going on in the world, we have to be. Talk to your mom and establish your "space" and what the rules are and work out a compromise on some of the things that are a bit unfair. As long as you play by the rules and don't give your mom additional reasons to worry about you, the more your space will expand and eventually, when you're old enough to be on your own, you'll be glad your Mom was there to love and teach you. And even when she's driving you crazy (because we do that), remember how lucky you are to have her there, cuz there's lots of kids that would give anything to have a Mom who really cares. Good luck!
2007-05-17 04:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by classic1957gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just a concerned parent--talk to her and tell her that you will make the right decisions so she should not worrry about you so much! Tell her you are growing up and you need a lil space from her in this regard and that you want her to trust you more! Today young people are bombarded with so many unhealthy things like drugs, sex at an early age--she is a good mom to care about you like that! If you are living at home, respect her boundaries on what time you should be home! That is one way to prove to her that you can be trusted! She loves you it sounds llike and does not want anything bad to happen to you--one day you will understand that more!
Talk to her about your "need for space" and talk to her lovingingly--use "I feel" statements to her--such as "I feel that you do not trust me when you are always calling me." Then reach some kind of agreement where you maybe could call her and let her know you are ok at various times so she does not worry--Using "I feel" statements can curb lots of arguments--because it is hard to argue with a person's feelings! Good luck!
2007-05-17 03:43:46 · answer #2 · answered by Deborah G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want your own space? Get a job, support yourself and move out of your mum's house! But as long as you are living there and enjoying the fruits of her and your dad's labor, it's HER house, you are HER child, and it's HER rules that you have to abide by. Overprotective huh? You are darn lucky you have a mom who is concerned for your wellbeing. A lot of kids don't have that.
2007-05-17 03:42:50 · answer #3 · answered by Beach Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do need your own space, depending how old you are. The reason why your mom is on your case is probably b/c she cares about you and worries about you. What you need to do is sit down and let her know how you feel. She is your mom and you should have communication with her. Let her know that she needs to trust you and its okay that she calls to check up on you, but she needs to lower the amount of times she calls. Good Luck
2007-05-17 03:41:04 · answer #4 · answered by mrz_lr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can barely understand that but I am a mom and I promise I will be like white on rice when it comes to my daughter. Our jobs are to protect our young, no matter how old they get!! Give your mother the respect she deserves and you need to understand her position. All you can do is sit and talk to her, explain that you feel smothered but you do love her. Set up a time to call and check in with her. PROVE to her you are responsible to handle yourself, do not just assume she knows you are. Good luck and remember respect because as easy as she can give...she can take away too!!!
2007-05-17 03:40:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she's just worried about it. It may be over the top, but really, I'm sure she has the best of intentions. why not sit her down, explain (in a very adult manner) how you feel and why you deserve more trust and respect. perhaps work out a deal such as- if I prove myself responsible by ___ for such a time, then will you allow me a little more room to breathe?
2007-05-17 03:39:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mum was your age once. She has already gone through what you are going through. Sit down and talk with her. Maybe she will share some of her experiences.
You may be surprised how much she will tell you if you just ask.
2007-05-17 03:43:13 · answer #7 · answered by nightwhispers5570 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If my mom still alive she will be like your mom.
You are lucky you still have your mom to take care of you and love you.At least you cannot make mistake because of her she looks like trying to protecting you.You can sincerely tell her that you also need your own space.
2007-05-17 03:57:17 · answer #8 · answered by amee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey DEAL with it...I do it to my 3 older sons..ages 14, 16, AND 19. Its in a mothers nature to want to make sure their kids are safe.
2007-05-17 03:59:57 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am sure that you are a teen. You dont have business, you are a kid. When you are 18, and you pay your own bills including that phone then you can have business. Until then you are a child and should have respect for your mother!
2007-05-17 03:40:17 · answer #10 · answered by buzyb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋