ok..i have a friend named kristen....she is 18, her bf is 22, and i am 19...her and i were recently on the phone, and we were talking about her boyfriends bday which is in about 2 weeks. he told her he wanted a 3some..i was like OIC...and shes like so will you have one with us? im like WHAT kristen...why me? she said i am her most outgoing friend and im always up for doing somehting crazy..and mike (her bf) thinks i am hot....i said well damn...i am a big risk taker, and yes im a crazy girl, but i dont think i could do that..esp with my close friend and her bf...i would feel so wierd around them if i did that...haha what does everyone think?? did i do the right thing? does it make me a bad friend?
2007-05-17 03:27:25 · 24 answers · asked by hot_jess76 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have to tell you....I as a guy would love it and I think I would feel a little strange around the third person but I think it would be worth a shot. You are only young once. When your older you can blame on being young! haha. One thing I would suggest....Make it about him and her. Not so much you. I would make sure to respect their relationship wile in the process. If she has never been involved in a 3some, you never know what she will do... She may be the one who cant handle it. Everytime she sees you talking to him, she will think something is going on between you to. So just be careful, Make sure you can handle the after effects, Be respectful and have fun. Gotta say, you must be a hottie. If you have a myspace, give me your myspace address.
2007-05-17 08:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by the need to know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should do it. First, she should check her relationship with this guy if he wants to have a threesome and with one of her friends at that! Second, while she might be okay with it now, it could definitely cause problems and mistrust between the two of you later. Third, the day when someone becomes a bad friend because she won't engage in an intimate act with her friend and her boyfriend is the day that pigs fly and the world truly goes to hell in the proverbial handbasket.
2007-05-17 03:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by Angela M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you willing to lose them as a friend? If so, go for it. The thing is, are they ready for this to end their relationship?
I honestly think this would end the friendship and/or their relationship. The boyfriend would focus more on you than her because you are new to him. His gf would get jealous of that, and she would want attention. Now, if you and her are doing things, then the boyfriend might get jealous. If you are not wanting to do it, then you did the right thing by telling her you don't think you could do it.
2007-05-17 03:42:43 · answer #3 · answered by George P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you are a risk taker, but you have your limits and standard. If you think sleeping w/ a bff's bf is wrong then you should stick to your standard. If i were you, i would never in 100000000 yrs do something like that, if i have a bf that would be considered cheating..no no noooo wayyy.
2007-05-17 03:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by pretty asian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's immoral and it will cause problems. I had two friends who done this same thing and in the end they are no longer friends. If she's a close friend then you shouldn't do it. He's not thinking of your frindship, all he's thinking about is getting his rocks off. You would probably feel bad about yourself afterwards if your having doubts now. Always follow your gut!!!!
2007-05-17 03:36:56 · answer #5 · answered by leslie anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Threesomes are lots of exciting, yet as i seem in any respect of the different solutions I see lots of jealousy and individuals who're basically prepared to do a threesome in the event that they at the instant are not "emotionally related" to the individuals in touch. for my section i've got faith that each physique people ought to study to head beyond the ego; in different words permit bypass of the ego. as quickly as you have achieved that, there's no such ingredient as jealousy. in case you're in a suited, loving courting, you already know it. you do not want any "protection" (greater like limits on freedom) to coach it. i think of a threesome is a suited ingredient. 2 or 3 ladies and a guy...lots of exciting and fervour can take place there. i'm uncertain approximately 2 men and a woman..i've got not experienced it earlier. i may be prepared to purpose nevertheless ; ]
2016-11-23 20:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesnt make you a bad friend. Your conscience is telling you that this is risky behaviour and you should listen to your conscience. Its a sign of growing up. There would be the potential for you to lose your friend over this if you go through with the threeseome. It doesnt always go well.
2007-05-17 03:32:28 · answer #7 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong with a threesome just not with close friends. you both are so young you may not be able to handle the consequences.if her boyfriend thinks your hot and want to see you when she is not around what will happen then.my advice is have the three some get it over with and out of your system but not with friends.
2007-05-17 03:48:33 · answer #8 · answered by ezpass2hell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i think you made the right choice...if you do it things wont be the same between the 3 of you or for that matter you and your friend, and then some stupid **** could happen and what if her bf ends up wanting you or wanting that 3 some all the time!! all i know is it never ends up good!! so GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-05-17 03:35:29 · answer #9 · answered by Girl K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with what you're feeling. It could make things very awkward after that. You would be risking your friendship with Kristen. It's best not to go there!
2007-05-17 03:34:23 · answer #10 · answered by Diamond Diva 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋