what should i do about the birth control?

Question

me and my boyfriend have been talking lately, and have kind of hinted about sex. when i mention birth control he kind of blows it off. i don't know whether he's really ready to talk about it, or if he thinks that i should do what i think feels right about the situation. my best friend thinks i should talk more, but when i try to, he doesn't seem interested. but, we've already decided we won't have sex until we're both protected and ready. do you think he's just too nervous to talk about it, or is it something i should decide for myself and not discuss it with him. how do i get him to talk or be serious about it?

Answer 1

Wait until you are married and have at least two children. You will get pregnant the first time for sure even if you use birth control. Be ready ! The links below are really good. Don't miss the first one !! Talk to your doctor !!!

Answer 2

He is too immature to be having sex if he is unwilling to talk about the responsibilities. Do yourself a favor and do not even consider it at this point.

Also, take your time. If you want to find your soul mate, and have a happy marriage for life, there is a plan that works, and most people miss it.

1. Do not get involved in romantic relationships of any kind. No "going steady" "going with", etc. That is practice for divorce. Every time you "break up with a guy" you ar practicing. Also as long as you are "going steady" you are potentially missing your soul mate.

2. Hang out and have fun with friends. This is where your soul mate will find you. Some people say that you can't marry your friends, and I say that thinking is why so many marriages end in divorce. If they are not your absolute best friend, HOW CAN YOU MARRY THEM???? You would want to spend more time with your best friend than them.

Anyway, while hanging out, (maybe in a year, maybe in 10) you will find someone who you are always wanting to be at the same event. You find yourself at the end of an event excited about the next event. You are almost there.

3. Take the opportunity to get to know them on a more personal level (still not romantically) and find out if you have similar values, morally, spiritually, politically, etc.

If you enjoy doing the same things, (discovered in 2) and have the same values (discovered in 3) you have found your soul mate. You will ALWAYS enjoy doing things together, and your conversations will always be stimulating and enjoyable...not arguments.


As for sex, it truly is no big deal...until you have sex with your soul mate. There is nothing in this world more fulfilling than sex with the most perfect person in the world for you. This kind of intimacy also eliminates any thought or desire to cheat. Sex with anyone else would suck by comparrison.

Answer 3

Well, some guys don't like to talk about that kind of stuff. Because birth control has a few other functions... other than birth control. Anything to do with a womans period kinda creaps most guys out... but if he can't even talk about condoms then I would either wait until he can, or find someone that is mature enough to discuss the different forms of birth control.

Answer 4

If he cannot talk about the best protection for you both, then obviously he's not ready to take that next step. Something my parents told me years ago sticks in my head....until I'm ready to be a parent, keep those legs closed!!! Now of course with today's birth control methods, the legs don't necessarily need to be closed, but wouldn't it be better safe than sorry? Talk to him, and tell him you are taking the best precaution for you (pills, patch, whatever) and you feel he should be informed and take his best protection as well (condom). Good luck!!

Answer 5

If he blows it off, I'd ditch the boyfriend. If you can't talk about it, he's too immature.

Note: you need to use TWO FORMS of birth control. Neither condoms nor birth control pills are 100% and you never know if he is sleeping around. Use both!

Answer 6

I think if he isn't ready to talk about it, then he isn't ready to have sex. Talking about sex can be uncomfortable, but it's important to talk about it. Most importantly about protecting yourself. Not only do you need to consider birth control, but also condoms. You need to do your best to protect not only against pregnancy but STD's as well. I wouldn't take the next step until he is comfotable talking about everything openly.

Answer 7

A good rule of thumb, is if you all can't talk about birth control openly, and not feel embarrassed, then you aren't ready. You might be ready for that next step, but, obviously, he's not.

Answer 8

If he doesn't want to talk about it right now then i would say he is not ready for sex, If he isn't man enough to talk to you about birth control then he is not ready to be man enough for sex.Just make sure that you too don't have se until you have both sat down and talk about what you are going to use.

Answer 9

He probably doesn't know much about it. If you wanted to get something you can always go to like a planned parenthood place and they can give you birthcontrol pills. Most guys dont want to talk about the birthcontrol until something goes wrong with it.. LOL.. So If you 2 are talking about it you can always jsut get on it just incase since it will take over a month before it will be accurate. Good Luck with him!

Answer 10

Birth control and protection against sexually transmitted disease is something you need to take responsibility for YOURSELF because it is yourself you are protecting. Never let anyone else assume that responsibility ... or shrug it off. Ever. As for your boyfriend, if he's not ready to discuss it, then perhaps he isn't mature enough to do it.