My Finacee and I were forced to move in with his Mother due to unforeseen financal curcumstances, she is wonderful usually, she treats me better sometimes that she does Jason, I love being around her we get along famously. BUT and you knew there was a one, lol. Jason and I don't have much time together on week nights, we both work full time and when you're in love there isn't ever enough time with him/her EVER, I am finding on the weekends she wants us all to go out and do things that Jason and I don't want to do, she drives crazy (I get car sick easy) and the things she is interested in bless her heart we aren't. I don't know how to tell her we don't want to go, we'd rather stay home and sleep in. How do I let her down easy without hurting her?
2007-05-17 02:57:10 · 10 answers · asked by Wisdom Warrior 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds to me like you and Jason aren't taking care of yourselves because you want to please his mom. I think she'll understand if you tell her you guys need some rest. You don't have to do everything she wants you to do because you are staying with her. You have to not feel guilty about your decision.
2007-05-17 03:04:24 · answer #1 · answered by valerie.young2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I know you would love to sleep in. First ask her politly if you could take one weekend a month off from going anywhere. Explain you need alone time,she has been in love and surely will understand. Second,honey enjoy every minute you can with your future mother-in-law. She has opened her home and heart to you,your respect for her must show through. Third the day will come that she will be gone,parents raised you all to be respectful and responsible,as they get older they become more dependent on seeing and spending some time with their children as adults. Fourth,she may just be trying to entertain you ,talk to her an strike up a deadl
2007-05-17 10:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by lynapow 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she's nice enough.
you could let her know that you've discovered you really need more rest on the weekends after working all week long. just tell her you've decided to sleep in from now on....
perhaps suggest making a friday or saturday nights out to dinner night with her. that might satisfy her? and of course, you could do things after you're up and awake one weekend day, if that's what you want?
sometimes we need to let people know how we are feeling. and if you need more rest, let her know. i'm sure she will understand...
take care!
2007-05-17 10:05:29 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just come right out and say that you love the fact that she wants to spend time with you guys but you're tired and you need a break.
Let her know that you'd be more than happy to block off one weekend a month to go and and "explore" with her, but no more than that.
She'll understand. Just try not to be harsh!
Good luck!
2007-05-17 10:01:12 · answer #4 · answered by am_marie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a family meeting with her, your b/f and you present and say that you and your b/f have decided to make a family time and that time will include her and you and b/f---ask if she has any suggestions on things you guys can do that she would enjoy doing---then when she asks to go places at other times--say, That's a good idea for family night"! She should get the hint and it will be done constructively and unthreatening!
2007-05-17 10:03:11 · answer #5 · answered by Deborah G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest. Tell her you guys are very tired after working all week and you both want to spend time together, she should understand she was young once and in love.
Good luck
2007-05-17 10:05:34 · answer #6 · answered by Gina D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Straight up.. Oh gosh, no we will pass on that...
And sometimes you have other errands to run..
So you can always say, sorry but I have errands, laundry and something else to do..
You guys do need your time alone as well so go out..
Do movies, beach but once in a blue do invite her to see if she too would like the beach.. If she isn't into that she too will pass on your trip...
2007-05-17 10:11:38 · answer #7 · answered by BettyBoopGirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest. Tell her that you think you will just take the opportunity to do some things you really wanted to do. She sounds like she will understand.
2007-05-17 10:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by MrsRusty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jason should sit down with her ,& tell her gently how he feels.
This way if it goes bad, she CAN'T blame U.
GOOD LUCK !!
lol
2007-05-17 10:03:34 · answer #9 · answered by Klingon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say you got something very special planed for you and your fiancee and you'll do something her tomorrow
2007-05-17 10:04:30 · answer #10 · answered by schoolsucks2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋