what should i do about my parents?

Question

me and my family are fighting so much i cant talk it anymore all they say is that i'm one big skrew up and that im worthless im a honor roll student and i am struggling to live with my parents i cant talk to them about ne thing now they wont even talk to me they spoil my sister to no return and the messed up part is that she has a worrrent out for her arrest and is a major pot head...i just dont know what to do and i have no onw to talk to any advise?

Answer 1

I'm guessing your sister probably sucks up to your parents much more than you do. The reason why your parents think you're worthless is because you probably don't show an ounce of concern for them whatsoever. You've probably scolded them pretty harshly in the past too. Not to say this is your fault.

You have two options, move out like you've already planned or start treating your family members with respect, no matter how 'wrong' they are.

Answer 2

It could be that they are very stressed when it comes to your sister and are trying to make up for whatever reason she is doing these things by being nice to her.

They probably are afraid you will turn out the same and so are starting to get tough on you which i would say is a bit too late for that.

I suggest that you get them when they are a bit relaxed and in a good mood and go and tell them you would like to talk to them,set a foundation for yourself by telling them you dont want to fight or argue you would just like to explain somethings to them,then they will be all ears.

Then start to tell them how you are feeling and that you dont mind the attention they give your sister you just dont understand how you have become the bad guy and tell them you just want to understand.

Its just a matter of bringing it to their attention, they probably dont realise they are doing this.

If you cant approach them or talk to them why not write them both a letter and leave it on their bed or somewhere they will find it and then go to your room or out somewhere while they read it.

I wish you all the best and i know how it feels to be going through this when you are the good child.

I find also that if you are not able to get through to them then just let it be and you continue doing your best and what you always do, eventually they will come around.

Take Care

Answer 3

Wow. This hits a little close to home.
There is nothing you can do to change your parents behavoir...sadly.
I would suggest family counseling, that would probably help the most.
I am so sorry, I know what it's like to be in that kind of situation. It's very hard. You are not a screw up. Just keep your chin up, in a few years you can get out and live a normal life. :)

Answer 4

you sound like a very together girl, who is doing her best.

i'm really sorry to hear about all of this.

i think that, sometimes, parents tend to "feel sorry for" their kids who have issues. instead of babying her, your parents need to deal with your sister's problems... not reward her for them.

of course, you cant change this situation.

you could ask your parents to sit down and LISTEN to you.. you can calmly tell them just a few things about how you're feeling (I feel worthless, i feel neglected, i feel badly when i'm called names). They need to hear this.

You don't have to say anything about your sister, or point fingers at your parents for their 'mistakes'... letting them know how you feel, will probably make them think....

Even though it's not your fault, you could end by asking them what they think you can do to make things better. Tell them you're feeling low.

Maybe your parents don't realize how they are acting? Hopefully, if you decide to talk with them, things will begin to change.

hugs to you... i hope you get some good answers here.

Answer 5

tell them to be nice or when they are old you will put them in a bad old person community