What's the best way to deal w/a spoiled 2 yr old?

Answer 1

Don't give in to tantrums, and try to make it clear what you mean.
Do not offer a choice where there isn't one (Don't say "Do you want a nap?" when you mean "Now it's time for a nap") but try to help the child learn how to appropriately channel his newfound independence. Give choices when possible (The red shirt or the blue shirt? Peas or corn?).
Kids at this age are struggling to find where the line is, and you need to show them that you are there to keep them safe from themself and their surroundings, but you also need to let them have choices so they can learn about the world and learn to make decisions.

Answer 2

Two year olds are independent, fun-loving little creatures. They think they are adults and when in control of adults they are right and you are the child. Just remember you are supposed to be in control. If you are not it's time for a time out. You can put your child in a time out place, chair, corner, etc. Do not expect them to sit there for more than 2 minutes. That is about the length of their attention span. You can increase the time out as the child gets older, but discipline must remain consistent for the same type of behavior, ie: removing child from dangerous situations without scaring them, leaving store and stating firmly why you left the store ( this should not require further discipline but will probably require repeated removals until it becomes apparent that you will not tolerate tantrums in the store), tantrums at nap time,maybe it's time to cut out nap or plan a later bedtime. Your discipline must be consistent for each behavior you wish to change. Time out for tantrums, removal from items or places they cannot touch or go, removal from store for tantrums (if they quiet when you tell them we are going home because they are bothering other shoppers, you can say "oh, you're being much better, now we can finish shopping) This won't happen the first couple of times as they are sure you will give in. Just remember all parents go through spoiled children, and somehow we all survive. Just don't wait to instill discipline, spoiled 6 year olds and spoiled 16 year olds can think of a lot worse things to say or so than a 2 year old.

Answer 3

The first thing to do is stop spoiling the child. Don't take the screaming, demanding and temper tantrums personally, the child is to young to mean it as a personal slight, the behavior is purely designed to gain the desired item or reaction. Don't give an undesirable behavior a desirable outcome and the behavior will cease. If screaming doesn't get you a cookie, you won't scream, you'll try something else. If the only way to get a cookie is to ask politely, then you will do it, involuntarily at first, but you will do it. In order to get rid of bratty behavior, the best thing to do is make sure it doesn't work. At two, kids can learn self-discipline but you cannot expect good impulse control. Even well-behaved two-year-olds are prone to tantrums, crying, and attemts to manipulate their parents. The important thing is remembering whose in charge and why. Good luck, discipline with respect and love and things will work out.

Answer 4

Is she really spoiled, or just in the "terrible twos?" Lots of two-year-olds are badly behaved, and it doesn't necessarily mean they are spoiled. Two-year-olds are still learning to talk, and they get frustrated when they cannot communicate as well as they'd like to. They also have no concept of property ownership, so they pretty much think "everything is mine!" Those are some of the things that lead to tantrums. You might want to consider leaving your child home when you go on shopping trips, because they can be very overwhelming for a child that age who does not understand why he can't have everything in sight. If he or she is throwing tantrums at home, use the "Supernanny" trick of having a "naughty chair," a place where your child can sit to get back in control of him/herself. Be consistent with use of this chair. And take heart - it does get better when they get older!

Answer 5

While it is ultimately up to you how spoiled you will allow the child to be, the best way to deal with them is to be CONSISTENT. Having gone through this twice I can tell you that you can institute new rules(they will not like initially) but if you are just consistent with the rules and consequences if they don't follow them, the behavior will change in about a week.

Answer 6

YOu have to be consistent with this child.. YOu can't give in when they have a fit.... I had a roommate that let her children walk all over her.. When her children were with me, they knew we would have fun, but what I said was it... No back talking to me, no questioning me, and when I say to do something, you better do it or there will be consciouses. IT wasn't easy at first, but the got the hint after a few times.

We played hard, and they were good kids for me, until mom got home, then they want back to the way "THEY TRAINED THEIR MOTHER", so spoiled children are only children that train their parents to allow their bad behavor.

Answer 7

There is much to be said for a parent who will not give in to the whiny, screaming, stomping, violent(biting kicking scratching) demands of this miniature person. It is soooo important to not let your child run you, especially now, because it should save you problems when they become older. When a child knows WHO is in charge, they can be an absolute JOY to have in public at least 95% of the time.(We ALL have our bad days, right? Kids should be allowed bad days, too, sometimes. They're people, too.)
Kids, especially two year olds, are much more perceptive than what we tend to give them credit for. Tell this screamer, "Mommy/Daddy/ Nana/Granddad doesn't like you very much when you are like this. You need to dry it up. When you can be nice, I will listen to you." Or"____[authority figure] said 'NO' and that is the answer. You can yell all that you want. The answer is still going to be 'NO'. You are not going to break me."(this worked on my FIFTEEN MONTH OLD, so you cannot tell me that a child doesn't understand speech. He doesn't talk much, but he listens alot!)

Answer 8

Dont give into what they want all the time. When they whine and cry and make a scene (like at the store or something) leave. Explain to them that they cant get everything they want and you're not putting up with hearing them beg you for it. Be stern and stick to your guns.

Good luck

Answer 9

You are the parent. Set boundaries and say NO.

Kids thrive on boundaries. They need it. It makes them feel safe. Many parents feel bad but they should think the opposite.

Be CONSISTANT with what you say and she will snap out fairly quickly. DONT give in ever - this is teaching her to manipulate you. Kids that ages are smart and they know how to do it! lol

Answer 10

i'm in the same position at home, where my niece does not get disciplined at all so she rules the roost if you know what i mean. but when i'm there she listens.

the only advise i can give is be firm and consistant but at the same time show her love and effection. but once you say something you need to stick to it or she will win all over again.