name one thing u could do to improve how u r as a PARENT?

Question

IVE GOT 4 KIDS, ID LOVE TO SPEND MORE ONE ON ONE TIME WITH THEM, but its so hard to spread myself around,

and id love to yell less in the mornings , they r a bit slow in the morning

Answer 1

first,I always remember what hurt me as child.I always remember that children look at the world through the eyes of a child and won't see what these experienced eyes see.I also realize I am just their teacher and guide and one day they will want to see for them selves what the world is made of.As children they hang onto every word you say as teens they start to pull away from you and your words that they use to relish become rubbish.Yet you will hang in there and continue to teach> There will come a day when they will walk in your shoes and then and only then will they appreciate all you gave them in spirit for the material things you give them will have long passed on along with the joy they had given,but what you put into their minds and hearts will forever be there.If you yell too much then stop for they will learn what they live and give that to their kids and you know that's not some thing you want your grand kids to experience.If you know mornings are hard change the atmosphere for they will remember the mornings and you can actually make them a pleasure or a pain.

Answer 2

I would say maybe sit down one evening with the kids and work out a fun routine to get ready for school in the morning maybe give an incentive to get them going faster.

Tell them if they are ready early enough and on time then you will stop by someplace they like on the way for a few min or something like that.

Also a good idea might be to spend time with each one while another is doing something else.

Like when one is doing the homework another doing a chore another getting ready for bed etc then fit in at least 5 to 10 min or a bit more if you can with each one. Even that little bit of time makes a big difference.

I hope this helps.

Answer 3

Well I come from a family of four children and I can tell you many things my mom could have done to be a better mother haha!
Don't pressure the oldest to help you too much. I spent most of my childhood diapering, clothing, washing, preparing... it was like I was a second mother and it has scared me away from having my own children (at least for now LOL)
Its SO hard to do but maybe get yourself to get up early, around 5 am, and start some of the daily chores so when its time to get the kids up you don't feel too flustered because you have so much to do.
I find doing mundane things as a family can still be fun, like preparing breakfast (if you cook breakfast).
Kids are so difficult to wake in the morning (school age ones), so your morning routine is going to take some getting used to if you decide to get up earlier.
Board games or bowling are easy ways to spend time with them all at the same time, if you dont have enough one on one time.

Answer 4

Definitely just to take more time for them. Try moving all of the clocks in the house up just 15 minutes and then you will know that you really have a few extra minutes in the morning which will allow you to feel more in control. When you get that upset in the morning it tends to ruin your whole day. Slowing it down a bit will probably even help your kids in school. Good Luck!

Answer 5

If there is one thing I would change, it would be to be better organized. I'm a single mom to an infant (first-timer too) and find myself scattered some days trying to get it together. I doubt myself, get stressed, tired and irritable. Then I feel guilty because I don't think I am being as patient and tolerant as I should be...not to mention missing out on the imporant , little things...like how much joy she brings to me. I don't want to miss a thing and tend to sometimes see her as work instead of the beautiful little daughter of mine that she is. I try to spend as much time as possible just holding, hugging, kissing and playing with her, so that I can keep how wonderful she is in the forefront of my mind.

So...either get more organized or totally accept the fact that this is just the way it is! I realize no one is perfect and there is simply no possible way I can cover everything all of the time. I am working on it!

Phew! Aren't you glad you asked :)

Answer 6

Spend more quality time with them. It always seems so rush, rush, rush all of the time. I am divorced and raising 2 alone. There never seems to be enough hours in the day. On Mother's Day, they each wrote me a letter about how much they loved me and their favorite thing to do is play with me. They are ages 6 and 8.

Answer 7

My little whirlwind is very slow on a morning, I can hand on heart say that mornings are the most stressful part of the day!

In answer to your question there's loads of things I would like to do to be a parent but to name one thing I would have to say I'd like to be more patient

Answer 8

I would like to be more consistent. I say no and then after a half hour of pleeeeasee mommy! i give in. She is 11 and has this high pitched voice that cuts through me. My husband is the gustapo, he can say no to anything and everything. so i feel bad and go behind his back and let her do it anyway. So i would also like to improve on that.

Answer 9

The one thing I need to improve on is having more PATIENCE with my kids. Especially during homework and reading time.

Answer 10

i saw a show about a family with several kids. they suggested you make a schedule with each child's "mommy" time on it and you share this with "daddy" time. it could all be in a couple days just different times of the day. depending on their age you could allow them to pick their favorite place for "family day". such as the park, the movies, grandma....etc.
one thing that i could improve on is my patience. as children age we expect more from them. forgetting that they are still children. we should give our children time to grow up. let them be little. let them sleep in the middle. lol