Some male input?

Question

(I'm trying to write something and would like some male input.)

The situation:

As a teenager (15-16), you meet a girl who is your first love, and whom you believe to be your true love. You are together for about a year when she dies tragically- a death you believe to be your fault.

The question:

Could you ever get over her? How long would it take before she stops dominating your thoughts? A month, six months, a year? Never?

Keep in mind you honestly loved her, and she you, but as I said, you also felt guilty for her death.

Thanks in advance.

(I've asked this before, but I'd like a few more responses if possible.)

FYI to all those who seem to be under the impression I was talking about myself- I'M NOT. If you can't tell by my name and avatar, I am very much a girl... not to mention I was writing something- which is why I was asking for response to the above, not how should deal with such the situation.

But thanks for the input anyway.

Answer 1

I doubt one could ever get over it. You can come to terms with it. But it might take a very long time and considerable support from friends/family. Everyone is different.


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Answer 2

Time is a great healer. Whatever be your intensity towards the deceased, gradually the present takes over the past. True! the thought occasionally may pop up, will give you a little pain and will go off when you think about the present. It has to be so, my dear! If not for you, you should learn to live with the tragedies in life!

Answer 3

If you really felt that way for her you will forever remember her, little things will bring back memories in an instant, nothing wrong with that, just be strong and keep on living make a great life as that's what she would want for you. As far as feeling guilty that's a normal thing that survivors of loved ones feel, I hope that you really aren't responsible though.

Answer 4

I believe a person could move on with their lifes, but they would never be able to completely get over that. The thoughts of what they could have done differently would linger forever.

Answer 5

The length of time will vary depending on the individuals emotions, their friends, the emotional support that they get, whether they find someone else that that like quickly, etc. Its hard to predict.

Answer 6

relies upon on what area you performed in her lack of existence. in case you've been driving a automobile dangerously with her and also you ended up crashing then this may be your fault. you may want to by no potential be in a position to really get over what you've performed, it does no longer dominate your innovations for some thing of your existence even though it would want to continuously be contained in the decrease back of your innovations. If she became on her thanks to fulfill you or some thing and tragically died on her way then this does no longer be your fault yet you may want to experience as if you're at fault. you may want to be in a position eliminate the guilt in this mission because in case you began to imagine logically then you might want to recognize that you had no area to play in her lack of existence. it unquestionably relies upon no matter if her lack of existence became unquestionably your fault, if certain then you is not likely in a position to get over it.

Answer 7

Wow sorry for your loss but you will never forget.As time goes on the pain becomes easy er but you will never completely forget

Answer 8

if you honestly loved her then you will always think about her. that is such a dramatic situation that would be even to hard to not think about.

Answer 9

The pain of a loss IS TEMPORARY.MAY I SUGGEST GRIEF COUNSELING IT WORKS.U will ALWAYS remember,
the memories WILL become positively,good ones.

Answer 10

hello
YOU NEED TO TALK THIS OVER WITH HELP.
so this can be properly addressed.
other wise it will linger on like some stray disease.
best