i am in love with a man accross the country. he and i are married. we do not want to cheat, but we both love each other. we have each others photos, and he calls me everyday, we are not kids, but mature adults, who are in a daze never meeting or touching each other. we have not discused meeting, because we live thousands of miles away. he is unhappy in his marraige, and i also, internet is also new for us. is it terrible for us to have a relationship like this, and sometimes have phone sex, because we need each other so much, please give us some clues on what to do. thank you
2007-05-16 20:08:49 · 14 answers · asked by smart girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Emotional affair.
What to do? You know good and well what to do!
Stop.......NOW!
Just ask yourself one question, how would you feel if you found out your husband was having this type of relationship with another woman?
Cheated, because he made a commitment to you.
How will his wife feel if she finds out?
2007-05-16 20:11:23 · answer #1 · answered by spam_free_he_he 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be if u want it to be.. see, the internet as a medium itself is not real.. its a virtual reality medium.. so what u see may not always be true.. all said n done, what u are having right now may not be classified as "real" but it can be if both of u think the same way and feel the same about each other.. the phone *** part is not new and it has been in existence for many years.. as happiness in marriage is not something everyone is blessed with.. so what u can do is, continue the same way for sometime and if u stil feel the same about each other, u can think about moving it to the next level or so.. meeting n all... but one word of advice: plz be careful bout who u talkin to as the net is ful of predators n u can never know who is behind a certain "mask"... just treat it as a piece of advice n nothin else!
cheers!
2007-05-17 03:17:02 · answer #2 · answered by santosh_musicman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a classic case of an emotional affair. Clearly there is something emotionally that your spouse is not offering you, so you are looking else-where for it. Can you love someone you've never met? I'm skeptical. Can you love the perception of a person you've never met? Can you love the emotional connection they offer you? Yes!
I think you need to take some time to think about what you're really doing here. Are you really willing to throw away your marriage for a glorified pen pal? I suggest you get some couples therapy to address what isn't working in your marriage. It seems like this internet fling is a symptom of some major marital problems.
I urge you to think about how your spouse would feel if he knew what you were up to. You are jeopardizing your relationship for some online companionship.
2007-05-17 03:16:19 · answer #3 · answered by megs1bq 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are marry and unhappy you should communicate with your spouse...this computer can be evil and the person you are in love with from a distance could be a murder. Stop this and get yourself together. Delete your information now. If your spouse found this out is it worth divorce. The internet--the mark of the beast. You are fooling yourself. Just because you are not happy at home find a reason to get it together. You are not satisfied so you turn to the computer and now he is calling you. What happen to the first love you had with your spouse. Pray to God.
2007-05-17 03:14:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are having fun. If it makes you happy then do it. If it is unfaithful in your mind then maybe you should find out what is making your married life unhappy and try and fix it.
Just be careful not to get caught, because your husband will feel betrayed. After that point he will only have doubts and you will be even more miserable.
So deal with what is causing your marriage to go down the poop shoot and fix it or get out of it.
2007-05-17 03:17:43 · answer #5 · answered by Rumin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's cheating. Yes it's wrong. If you give your mind, or your body to someone else, you are going against your vows. I wouldn't say you're a terrible person, but you aren't a good wife. If you 'need' internet guy, you don't need the real one.
The reason you feel guilty, is because you are cheating.
2007-05-17 03:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by Travis 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are too many thing about a person's personality that you can not find out online. You can have an emotional tie to this person, but there is no way you can truly love this person until you know more about how he is in person day to day.
2007-05-17 03:15:47 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why you want it to become real ?
You have been trapped emotionally.Its indeed difficult to come out of it.This type of relationship gives happiness to u & him only.Think about each other spouses & kids.( if you & he have any).You tend to go away more from them beause you emotional need is fullfilled by someone else.
think practically & try to make your present life possible.
2007-05-17 03:20:43 · answer #8 · answered by curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
live life honestly. that's what you can do. if your emotional affair is brought to light there is destruction in the future. if there is no chance you will ever see eachother then end it, painful as it may be. if you truly want to be with eachother, then make it happen. can you live like this forever? sooner or later one of you will get caught and this affair will end. please do what you know is right.
2007-05-17 03:17:39 · answer #9 · answered by mrs. lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have friends who got married after their online affair
2007-05-17 03:12:18 · answer #10 · answered by stormy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋