I have 3 guys on the go,i'm sleeping with them all(i use protection). I also use a couple of them for money and they buy me nice things and take me on holiday. Am i bad?
2007-05-16 19:28:04 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok! you are not bad . The thing is that you probably have a lot of insecurities that bring you down and you use these boys to make you feel better. I understand how and why you are doing it because I do something similar to what you are doing. I really can't help you too much without knowing your past incidents that could cause your insecurities, your past relationships etc. But someone who can help you is a local therapist(don't freak out you are not crazy). The therapist will be able to tell you what events have caused the insecurities and how to get rid of them and love yourself. My friend get help, I did and it really helped me.
2007-05-17 16:45:50 · answer #1 · answered by Hella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't bad, but what you are choosing to do is bad.
My first thought is to wonder if you are hiding from something, some pain, because if you are stringing three guys along and using them, then you can not become emotionally close to any of them... why do you not deserve the real thing? Why can't you have real love?
Sex isn't love. Money isn't love. Love has no equal.
I would advise you to dump all three and spend some time trying to love and respect yourself.
While times are changing, every man, woman and child knows what labels we put on a woman who is doing what you are doing... why are you putting them on yourself?
Please don't blow this off... it is true... or you wouldn't have doubts enough to bother asking anyone the question in the first place.
Work on your own sense of worth, you will find that money isn't enough, sex isn't enough, only real love will do and until you get it, your honor will be of higher value to you than any man.
2007-05-17 02:42:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, because you wouldn't have asked this question if you didn't already suspect that it is true. Sleeping with three guys at once is *not* what makes you "bad" necessarily...everyone has different sexual tempos, and is willing to have intimate relationships with different numbers of people. Although the key here is whether they know about each other (I suspect not), and their expectations of the relationship...whether some or all of them think that this is a long-term thing, or know it is just a fling. Using them is not admirable, especially unattractive from a guy's point of view with self-confidence(I'm a guy). Lots of women are manipulative toward guys and use them, and to hear about yet another girl doing it is never impressive. You're not "bad", so much as you are rotten.
2007-05-17 02:35:09 · answer #3 · answered by riverstyx 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Greeny...umm I personally think you're sad. You seem proud to be a "user-bad girl." People like you are attention getters. You dont love your self enough to want more for yourself. And using people isnt cute. Enjoy the jewelry and money while it last cause the guys are using you for the sex. Sex always runs out cause once your all used up another chick will be awaiting. What comes around, goes back around. Careful cause if feelings are involved things could get ugly.
2007-05-17 02:35:11 · answer #4 · answered by mistista07 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you bad? Who really cares it is really up to you to consider that. It really does not matter what other people think. I know that there are people that will say that you are somekind of shank, but don't let those people get you down. If you have confidence in yourself and love yourself then that is all that matters. If being with 3 guys is what you want then I say you keep it up girl. Are you bad? Well, maybe but when your are bad I bet your are very good!!!!!!!!
2007-05-17 04:08:23 · answer #5 · answered by Tyler R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that it is because you are bad, generally people tend to go toward doing things that give them gratification, if these men are giving you things, and you are having consentual sex, then there shouldn't be a problem, unless you feel bad, or morally wrong, otherwise, use them kruffs for everything they have
2007-05-17 02:35:12 · answer #6 · answered by heynow 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wont say bad but its not nice using someone that might really care for you, keep in mind that what you are doing now will come back to you later, as you use them now someone will use you. Better change your ways it would say
2007-05-17 02:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...
You are asking so you must know that what you are doing is not the nicest thing...
If you can live with yourself than that is all that matters....
I personally would not do this to someone...three someones...
But like I said...we each have our own moral code and set of values...
The fact you are looking for someone to validate your behavior and say it is ok says it all...
Do you believe in Karma?
2007-05-17 02:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's not like you've murderd some one but come on 3 guys on the go and your using them for thier money what do you think
i bet your blonde
2007-05-17 02:32:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your are bad in a good way. I wonder if you feel guilty about this. I feel bad if i have someone that does nothing for me and wants something from me--what would you call that.
2007-05-17 02:42:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋