I'm so stressed out, I need help coping?

Question

I'm really really stressed out and I need somehow release my stress and unwind...

Things that are making me stressed:

1. I spent all my money so I have none and I owe my parents $300 for having cavities filled
2. I'm cutting back on drugs a lot and its really difficult
3. School is coming to an end so exams are soon and I have to finish an online course and I dont know if I'll finish in time
4. I need a job but no where will hire me
5. My parents think I'm anorexic which is stressing me out because I'm not and I dont know how to deal with them
6. I got kicked out of Learning Assistance for the rest of the year today and I need that class to write my exams seperately
7. I skip classes chronically which is causing my marks to drop
8. I'm trying to lose weight before summer which is always difficult (especially when your family thinks your anorexic)

The thing thats causing me the most stress is these damn drugs and my addiction to them...

My parents dont know I do drugs...

Oh and I'm also quitting smoking right now too... Thats another major stress

Ok Ok, The Learning Assistance problem has been dealt with (even though I'm still kicked out) and I can write my exams seperately, so cross that off my list...

Answer 1

1. They are your parents. I’m sure they understand. If they saw that I’m sure they’d tell you to cross it off your list immediately.
2. Join a support group. On line, your local YMCA or church.
3. make a timeline and stick to it. Ask for an extension, even if you don’t get it. You wont die if you ask.
4. ask yourself why no one will hire you and change it.
5. Then don’t deal with it. Parents will always find something to worry about, don’t let that worry you. As long as your eating healthy I don’t see a problem.
6. Talk to someone. The teacher that kicked you out, an administrator whatever. Explain your situation and ask for a second chance.
7. Um…stop.
8. Don’t worry about that. You have more serious problems than that. If you’re really worried just eat right and exercise.

Go to your doctor . He will recommend places or people you can go to or see for help with that.

Answer 2

I would say Keep smoking cigarrettes only for now anyway, you cannot quit everything at once, you are putting way too much on yourself, you will never live up to your own expectations. don't worry about the $300 to your parents, they will wait, just tell them everything sucks now and you will pay them back with next years income tax return. Listen to their lecture (advise) and be nice, parents usually really only want to help. As for the drugs, stop at once and go get advice from Narcotics anonymous (they may not be your cup of tea), so get advice from everywhere else. Stay away from all former friends that use any type of illegal substance, and don't substitute drugs with alcohol. It is great that you are recognizing your own weakness. Bravo!!!! So there's your plan, quit drugs, keep smoking cigs, talk to parents, and move on. Sooner or later you will get hired if you have to work at McDonald's take any job to get a few bucks. You can do this, after all you got up the nerve to write this question right? Hang in there, and if you really want to help yourself, find a nice church not to radical and really enjoy the sermon, don't worry about impressing people, just go so you can get yours. As for the anorexia thing, just go to mom's and dad's and ask them for something to eat while your there, let them advise you and agree to considering their advice. Hope I have helped.

Answer 3

If you can stop doing the drugs, you will have solved a big share of your problems. You will have clarity, once you are sober for a while, and that alone will help you deal with life on its own terms. It's not something that happens overnight; you didn't get your habits all at once & you won't get rid of them all at once. Concentrate on getting well & staying in school; the job will come. Find someone you can have a sort of fellowship with so you don't feel you are the only one this is happening to.

Answer 4

Hon, you need to talk to your parents. Bite the bullet and just level with them. Believe me--I have been on both worlds. I was a troubled kid and my daughters went through their tough times. But they finally talked to me each in turn when the time came. And we WORKED IT OUT TOGETHER!! I know you don't think it is possible but just try--they want nothing more than to love and help you. Your young mind is going through so many growth changes and research shows that the teenage brain has a hard time with reason and judgment. Get past the fear, pride and shame and just tell them everything. You will work it out together. See a professional, call your local Mental Health Association and get a referal for a councelor and a Doctor. Tell your folks and then seek some outside professional help. If you just can't do that tell some adult you trust....But I know your parents are just dieing inside for wanting to help and you need to accept it with the love you have for them and that they have for you. You will be in my prayers--I know how you feel--I have been there and back.

Answer 5

Walk over to the nearest mirror and look at who you see and you will see who is really stressing you out.

If you can't see that you are the root of your stress, and you don't like this answer, then don't ask the question.

We are responsible for ourselves. YOU spent all your money. YOU are doing drugs. YOU are giving your parents the impression you are anorexic. YOU got kicked out of LA. YOU choose to skip classes. YOU are worrying about your weight. YOU choose to continue to do drugs. Who else out there is causing you to do this?

Your question already has the answer in it. Wake up and get with the program, or accept, like 90% of the rest of the world, that someone or something else is responsible for you.

Answer 6

1. Admit that you are powerless against your addiction.
2. Level with your parents.
3. Ask for incomplete for the semester so you can go to an inpatient drug addiction program.
4. Go to an inpatient drug addiction program.
5. While you are there, consider if you have an underlying brain disorder such as a mood or anxiety disorder that you are self medicating.
6. Get discharged and start 12 stepping. Meetings every day for a while.
7. Go back to school and put your life back together.

This will work if you work it. You can do it and you are worth it.

Answer 7

The most important step that we can take to reduce stress is to recognize that the way we are choosing to view the situation is what is causing the stress, not the situation itself. Thing happen, it's how we learn to accept these thing and make the best of them that elevates the stress we feel/create. This is a difficult concept to let go of. It is a great comfort to see the cause of our discomfort as being externally generated. It removes all responsibility from us. Strips us of all of our power and leaves us a hapless victim. What nonsense. love and blessings Don

Answer 8

How old are you!? You really sound like you need to be put in a remote place on a farm ware you have to get up at 6:00am every day... and you don't go to bed until about 9:00pm. You need to learn about this thing called "Life.." It's ware the world does not go around you, and its not about what people can do for you, its what you can do for yourself.. You need to learn some responsibility.. not that I should be talking.. because I don't have much myself.. but still... Really.. you need to find out what life is..

Answer 9

Quitting any drug is going to be hard. i know 2 people who are in rehab(one is in jail now) and its not helping them. They both have been in jail more than once and are on probation. You should wait to give up smoking until you are clean for a while because quitting smoking is hard enough without withdrawl. trust me i dont have the will bober to quit. Lose weight a differnt way by eating healither. im sure someone will hire you, i looked for more than 6 months until i found a job and i am VERY happy where im at. Try not to skip class because you will end up failing. GOOD LUCK i know this must suck right now but it will get better!

Answer 10

Drugs seem to be a key issue. Ask your parents to get you some help. Drug addiction is a very tough condition but with the appropriate help you can do it.