Hey, recently I found out my boyfriend may have cheated on me. He says he didn't and it's really messing with my head because I dont' know if he did it or not. Things don't seem to add up anywhere and now I feel like he doesn't love me the same. I'm extremely paranoid and I can't stop crying. I've had bottled up emotions though since my last relationship was a very bad one. My boyfriend cheated on me a lot so I am extremely sensitive to this kind of pain. I keep wanting to call my boyfriend now, and I keep texing him and trying to be with him all the time now cause I feel like the only time I have any sort of sanity is when I'm with him. I never used to be like this and the reason I loved him so much was because I never thought I could be in this situation with him because I was in it so often in may last relationship. how do I get my sanity back!? please help! I don't know how to snap out of this crazy black hole that I am in.
2007-05-16 18:17:07 · 10 answers · asked by dreamangel_141414 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all hun u need to calm down a bit and rationalize your thoughts... ok think of what u just stated your previous relationship ended with cheating and this emotionally scarred you.. its very easy to lose track of your self. we are creatures of habit and your first suspicion you are going to start subliminaly comparing your current relationship to your past one .. you cant do this u will eat yourself alive .. and if u keep the clingyness u might push him away .. so u need to just talk pay attention to the signs and dont over examine the situation .. i dont want u to ruin a good thing before it begins .. and dont let the rumors have any effect until u find out for yourself.. hope this helped
2007-05-16 18:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by Trey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be the only way to snap out of this situation is for you to find out if he really did cheated on you or not? But may be you'll never find out. I'd say try not to think about it for now. How can you be happy together if all the time you are worrying whether he is cheating on you or not. However, if you're sure that he really did cheated on you then move on. He's not worth to think about.
2007-05-16 18:57:57 · answer #2 · answered by Hellokitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard on the radio the other day that a smile will affect someone more than any words could. For instance if you are in line at a grocery store and have one item and you are behind a person with a cart full and can catch their eye, give them a smile. You may be surprised where it gets you. Yes, guys also go crazy for smiles. Best of luck!
2016-04-01 05:30:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your boyfriend,it means you trust him..Dont believe everything people say..some people are just jelous..Dont be upset Until you know for sure he cheated on you.If it turns out to be true then obviously he doesnt care about you..and you shouldnt care either..I told my boyfriend "The day you cheat on me..is the day your not worh nothing 2 me anymore!"..Cause if he really loves you HE WOULD NOT CHEAT!..dont worry about it right now..either way if he did or if he didnt..you cant let a guy break your heart anymore you went through it once,dont go through it again.
2007-05-16 18:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by iLoveMyCiviK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chic if you feel that he has cheated, he probably has. A woman always knows when something like that is going on... its just something that we can tell. You should just dump him and then keep your self busy so you don't have time to sit and dwell on him. Like go hang out with your friends, believe me you will be over him alot quicker than you think. Then after its all over with you can sit back and ask yourself.... did i even really love him or was it that i was used to him being there.... Ive been there and done that... my answer was i didn't love him i was just used to him being there... i survived and you will too. God bless and good luck
2007-05-16 18:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by brat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel insecure you should just let it all go and spend time getting to know yourself better. You do not need a man to justify who you are and how you should feel. And if it looks like a dog, smells like a dog, and feels like dog well sorry to say but it is a dog. Remember :"The only person that can make you happy is you"!!!!
2007-05-16 18:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by lcubit00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ever talk to your boy about your feelings?
The more you keep it bottled up, the more paranoid your gonna get.
So you should have a talk with him.
2007-05-16 18:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by Lilkryptonite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to break up and be on your own for a while. be independent and clear your head. you will think much better and then maybe things will work out for you and ur bf but concentrate on you..fix YOUR problems...
2007-05-16 18:22:04 · answer #8 · answered by girlygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happened to my girl but i didnt cheat my girl went nuts calm down and talk face to face or choose yo men better you could do better
2007-05-16 18:22:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
beat him up. trust me u wil be preventing major damage to urself, or take karate lessons
2007-05-16 18:20:12 · answer #10 · answered by ask n u shall receive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋