My boyfriend of 2 yrs easily gets short tempered. I had been wanting to go to this event for a long time (he had been going to it all of his childhood), I thought it would be really special for the both of us to go, the whole time he just cussed and acted like he was ready to go when we had just gotten there. Later I told him that his actions made it no fun at all, when I mentioned that he said that he was sorry and that he was just acting selfish and stupid. But I notice that a lot of times he does this he always says the same excuse. Is this something that I have to look forward to for the rest of our relationship, or is he ever going to change. Outings that he takes me on (even though I am not that excited), I never complain and I make the best of it. Is he just being selfish? Is there anyone else out there that experiences this in their relationship??
2007-05-16 17:48:42 · 2 answers · asked by Advice25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes he is being selfish, and childish, and no he is never going to change. either get used to it, get over it, or get out of it. it is up to you.
2007-05-18 07:44:54 · answer #1 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O yea, in my relationships and in myself! Its really a matter of maturity be able to make the best of things as they say. So you've got a guy there who is having some big problems with his emotional development. The bad thing about emotional development in your case is that it doesn't go well without developing some scars, (without negative experiences being handled in mature way, or without having any, we lack a certain fortitude to know how trying is possible way of helping ourselves) and also a matter of his own ego which is lacking the right charateristis. In short, you've got yourself a boy there who isn't going to grow-up if he's go you around to baby him thru this. Now if you can get him to be more honest about what it is that is frustrating him with himself, or what makes him so anger at you, theres a chance to get him over this speed bump (grant if its the only one), and open up some better communication. You seem like a bright lady, if you can't get him to see it with you right there, then its going to take alot of homework on his own to finally see what your getting at. In other words, this might really be a helpless case, but I don't know you guys good enough to say, its up to your guyz dynamics, history, and love, if talking can't cure it, then you might have to make that choice thou.... good luck
2007-05-18 14:50:04 · answer #2 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋