Are Pastor's kids the worse?

Question

Do you know anybody and their dad is a pastor? Are they bad? Are they really good? Is anyone here a Pastor's Kid?

If you are a "PK" are your parents proud of you? or do they tell you that your a sinner and will go to hell?

My dad is a Paster, and sometimes i hate it. I hate being defined by what my dad's job is. It makes me want to rebel even more! Allthough I respect my dad and know why he does what he does. Its very hard sometimes, thats why I think i will get out of state when im older and move out.

Oh and by the way do you guys think that a Pastor's ability to lead and guide his children reflects on him being a good pastor/teacher?

Answer 1

Took fourteen years of bourbon to get it out of my system.

Answer 2

My dad was a hellfire and brimstone preacher, so I've been a PK (Preacher's kid).

You know why these kids have such a hard time? Because they live in glass houses. The pressure is on them because if they act less than perfect, it can create problems for their father's job. They are constantly criticized for each and every mistake they make (much worse than the average teen) and total strangers will judge them. Kind of like being a celebrity teen or a politician's child, but on a local scale. Oe example: I had a job on Wednesday nights and had no time to eat before going to church on Wednesday nights and if I had homework to do, I could not attend. The youth group leader chastised me publicly for not setting a decent example to the others in the youth group. Another time I could not buy a certain dress for high school graduation because my dad would have been criticized for allowing me to wear such revealing clothing (it was a sundress with spaghetti straps).

So, the kids either become very rebellious or conform. As for me, I had my moments when I gave my parents their problems, but ultimately after I got that out of my system, I decided I wanted to be a christian because I love God and am very blessed to be his child.

Answer 3

It's a combination of being spoiled by all of the special treatment and attention given to preacher's kids combined often with big resentments about expectations that many of them have, and like all kids, many don't respect the blessings they have been given. On top of that, there are plenty that think the religion is total crap and really resent many parishioners whom they see as feeble minded idiots that take up all of their parents time demanding that they use what these kids see as a "superpower that the parent delusionally thinks they have."

In the modern church I think preachers are given too many excuses for this behavior, and that's made it worse. It's gotten really out of hand in the last few years as society in general seems to have adopted a "who in hell are you to expect anything from my kids," attitude. I knew these preacher daughter's that were just ridiculous. They were pretty and they really hated much of the congregation and felt like they could get away with anything, because usually they could. They were some of the most hateful girls I've ever known. Some of their exploits: One of them called the police on this homeless man that talked to her outside the church, and convinced them that he sort of like was molesting her when he talked to her, over her clothes. He went off in the paddy wagon, and I told her, I saw that whole thing, he never touched you, you're gonna go to hell for that. She just smiled. Her older sister once told me she was getting pressured into sex by a boyfriend, just because she didn't want the boyfriend and I to get along. The reality was he hadn't done any of it, but it caused a big fight, and made me look like a chump for trying to help her, which is what they were aiming for. Another time she made fun of this homeschooled girl until she cried, telling her everyone thought she was retarded. Whenever I'd talk to girls she'd go up them afterwards in secret and tell them I was some kind of womanizer/molester. Finally, she told me she was having big sex with her boyfriend, all over, everyday. Then she got pregnant, her father went ape$h !+, and the church shut down a couple of years later, after he started going on tangents in the middle of sermons about what slut she was.

That was just ridiculous. It was like her parents raised her to be a grade A b!+ch hoping that it would keep the boys away, but all it did was attract grade A az$holes to her, that treated her like sh! +, because that's how she treated everyone else. Her sisters were az$hole too, there was the judger, the slanderer, the little miss always right--who had her own morality that she thought was better than the Christian morality at the church, an that people who really believed the bible were just bigots. Yet she still went on missionary trips so she could see the world! After a while, anyway you cut the cards, by preacher kid standards or regular kid standards, those girls were some of the biggest muther fvckers ever, and there was no excuse for it.

Often the modern church makes the preacher into a superstar and he/she is very narcissistic and entitled and acts like someone with Narcissistic Personality disorder. Then their kids turn out like the parent and add expectations to that, which narcissists hate, you get a formula for a lot of hateful behavior and narcissistic rage.

You can say that's too harsh, but it's not. Here is a good analogy: Jesus talked about the pharisees that like to devour widows homes, like the best seats of honor at tables around town and for a show made lengthy prayers and tied up heavy burdens on people, which they would not help lift. Jesus Christ also talked about how these people would be punished "most severely," for the lives they had lived. Well, let's be honest, many Christian preachers fit the description of the Pharisee exactly, and I doubt the Pharisee's children acted too well either. And again, you may think that's too harsh, but it's not. It also isn't the only story in the Bible about that kind of behavior. The story of Eli details the way, as priest, that he allowed his sons to abuse other Jews in the temple and how God killed them over it. The Bible warns that not many should be pastors because pastors will be judged more harshly. Yet because of the fact that preaching is a nice job, often with a nice paycheck, and even stardom or at least "pillar of the community," status, many have seemed not to take this seriously. And the Bible is crystal clear about how they'll wish they had when they are judged.

Answer 4

my pastor's daughter is amazing. All his kids are so genuine and friendly. I think pastor's kids are under a lot of pressure and a lot of the time they either crack under that pressure and rebel, or become better people for it. All the PK's I know are awesome! But of course you're parents job doesn't define you...everyone has their own choices to make

Answer 5

My first girlfriend was a PK. It didn't really occur to me that being the child of two pastors could mess you up, and she was certainly far from the last crazy girl I dated.

And I guess I would have grown up a PK if my father hadn't decided he wasn't exactly a Christian while he was in seminary.

Answer 6

I mean it can have it's benefits if you really want to go into the ministry or something, but if not, i'm sure it must be hard sometimes. Yes, I think a pastor should be an example to his congregation in how he loves and treats his family, if not, he should think of getting another job.

Answer 7

A Baptist Minister used to live next door to me. He had one daughter and one son.

The daughter was the nicest girl you could ever meet. Truly a Christian and all around nice person.

His son, unfortunately, started hanging out with a bad crowd, started doing drugs, stole (or tried to) a role of carpet, and I mean one of those huge reams of carpet with just one friend. He didn't realize how heavy it was, several hundred pounds and got caught in the act. He's now serving time in prison. So I guess it doesn't matter who your parents are…

Answer 8

No more than any other children they are just under the microscope more.

Answer 9

that's a fallacy anyway you look at it.