Being over 35(not much) I have had 2 very long realtionships, Why cant I find the one I want??? P.S. giving it up ain't working!!!
2007-05-16 17:17:59 · 16 answers · asked by niki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you believe what you said then it will happen. I was over 35 when I met my wonderful husband and I know we will be together until one of us dies, hopefully not for many, many years. Anyone can make a relationship work but it does take two for that to happen so choose wisely and go for it. God bless.
2007-05-16 17:22:39 · answer #1 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try Christian Carter's dating advice website, Catch Him and Keep Him. It has some of the best advice I've ever seen about what men are thinking and how to get into a relationship with a decent one. And no. I've met a ton of nice men over 35, some of the best selection and nicest men in my life. They've been through it at least a little bit and they are more affectionate (if they're not players -- but they show up fairly easily). Good luck.
2007-05-17 00:25:30 · answer #2 · answered by skier_80302 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no it's not over. I'm turning 45 next month and I feel about as sexy as I ever have. For women I think 35 is a great age. I see a lot of women in thier even late 30's that i find completely attractive. Just go for your own age bracket. And don't pay attention to people saying guys go for younger girls. We do, but if we're serious about a relationship we know a youing girl will not work for us. Good luck.
2007-05-17 00:23:34 · answer #3 · answered by I Told You SO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By having two very long relationships in your life already, it sounds like you had more than your fair share. But, in truth, my answer to your original question is an emphatic hell no! Not finding the one you want? Hmmm, that reminds me of a song that has lyrics that end with, "love the one you're with."
The only way you lose your chances for finding a loving and lasting relationship is to give up and not try anymore. (Even then, love can find you still -- in the strangest places). Best of luck to you!
2007-05-17 00:28:13 · answer #4 · answered by Andy K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Untill you get to about 60-65 you can do anything you want that a 25 year old can e.t.c My dad just met a really good women he is 55 she is 60! They are happy and you can meet people no matter age, their is always someone looking for a partner and who is the one you can share your life with the problem is you have to meet people, and socialise to find them alot.
What are your hobbies and interests? Do you have friends or family that know anyone who wants a relationship e.t.c?
2007-05-17 00:25:15 · answer #5 · answered by mecicoplajjer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get one more chance. You gots to be patient and honest with yaself. If you fell off a little bit just realize guys aint gonna put you at the top of thier list unless they value other things that you may have to offer. If a woman is fine and pretty she can be 95 and still get any may she wants. Oh yeah if you believe in God you might want to halla at him on this one.
2007-05-17 00:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by Radio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will be 36 this month and I have had 3 very long relationships...and I am still looking too! I hope our chances are still good! Maybe we are too picky? I just don't want to settle...but I really didn't think it would take this long to find Mr. Right....good luck!
2007-05-17 00:23:40 · answer #7 · answered by favoritesisi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Panic, insecurity, and a very needy approach to dating is going to sink your lasting relationships long before anything age related comes into play.
You probably want to hear something like "look hot", or "go to the right clubs", or "get used to it".
I would say "find yourself". Wow that sounds hippie. Get a solid idea of who you are - get something that leads to a sense of security and confidence. Thats going to lead you to life decisions and visions that arent dangerous. Dangerous is I will take any comers. Safe is I deeply understand who I am, and I know how to deeply understand someone else, and am into exploring you to see if who we are can work together and enrich the next 50 years of our lives. If not, I can still be enriched by learning about you, and by making a new friend.
"Giving it up" is a teenage response. Teenagers are the sexual infants of the adult world. They can barely drool. A solution that works for a teen like "giving it up" shouldnt work for you as a functional, relatively solid adult. If it did, you should run. You arent looking for the kind of person who is stunned by someone like you "giving it up", seriously thats beneath you. Thats way beneath you.
Here is a hint on humanity. Human beings are creatures deeply hungry for joy but surrounded by a world of sorrow. God bless children for their genuine expressions - my niece will literally run to be rejoiced in. Adults hunger for that too. Im not talking false praise, or hero worship. What Im pointing you to is a bridge that you can cross and meet someone who will connect to you in a profound way - joy. Find what truly deeply fills your soul. If you are luck it will also fill the heart and souls of others. Do that thing with everything you have inside of you. Enter the world of it.. and you will find others like yourself in that world. They rejoice in what you rejoice in. They delight in what you delight in. They are, typically, creatures with whom you can have a shared joy.
So what if you read this and the "shared joy" "filled heart" sounds cloying and unreal. I submit that if you dont have it, and you hunger for it, then your heart thinks it could be real, whether or not your head agrees. Given the opportunity I'd fill my heart over filling my head.. a filled head leads to pride, arrogance, and a general inability to communicate with most of humanity. Feed your heart first.. its where the life in you comes from.
My two cents.
2007-05-17 00:45:57 · answer #8 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck No! try to find someone that you can have fun with as much as possible. 35 is still fairly young. you've still got the rest of your life ahead of you and so does so many other people.
2007-05-17 00:21:43 · answer #9 · answered by D.C. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm over 40, actually 42 and I never feel that I'm loosing my chances for a lasting relationship, maybe your are so intransigent...
2007-05-17 00:23:40 · answer #10 · answered by Ali E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋