i fight with my bf everyday...is that healthy???

Question

idk what it is but me and my boyfriend seem to get into a big fight(walking away and ***** calling is involved)
and it gets annoying..plus i get confused in the middle of it...i love him and ive been with him for 3 years..but i hate fighting all the time...idk what to do.

Answer 1

Some fight to make up, other fight because one wants out and is hoping the other will do the deed.

You have to decide what your situation is. Does he want out and is willing to fight until you give up? or is are your make ups so nice that fighting is fun for him?

Best bet is to confront him and ask why you fight so much...this alone may end up in a fight but try to keep it a conversation.

Answer 2

I don't believe fighting with your boyfriend is healthy, as it destroys trust, offends,you will tear down each other with your words, you need to step back and write down where the relationship is going, it only gets worse if nothing is being acheived by it, it will take away the love and respect for each other. Ask yourself am I willing to put my future in him if no change than your wasting your time, black and white,love is patient, love is kind, always looking to the best of you, love is never insulting, so I would say to close do really know what true love really is? You need to take a stand and know that you are more valueable than that.

Answer 3

Hey my boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 1/2 years and we fight constantly too! I'm a such a passive person, and I've just come to realize he's not, he needs to express himself by yelling, screaming, getting heated, and then calming down. I think that if you can identify if either you are the heated one or he is, that will be easier to understand why you fight. If it's you that is the angry one, then just relax and be happy he is there, I see people lose others everyday that they love and never live their lives together to the fullest, so no matter what I make the effort to always put in 100% of my love into him at all times, and I know he is angry and he needs to express himself by fighting instead of talking it out. Hopefully this helped and you can identify if you guys can work through the problems by appreciating one another, or if you guys just fight and that's it!

Answer 4

Couples who fight are perfectly normal. Coupes who fight everyday might have bigger problems. What are you necessarily fighting about? Is it a serious issue? Think about it. If the two of you are fighting about something that doesn't even matter..then you're just fighting for the sake of fighting, and sadly...you might not belong together. While it seems like you work things out seeing as you've been together for three years, it might be time to talk to him about disagreements between the two of you before a new fight starts.

Answer 5

Split up and go your separate ways for a month. If you are happy without each other then you should stay split up. If you miss each other and think you can get over your fighting all the time, go back together.
Evidently there are no children involved as yet so you need to find out if you need to split up for your own peace of mind as well as for the sake of any children that might come along.

Answer 6

if you are fighting everyday, name calling and all that NO ITS NOT HEALTHY. Seriously, you guys should take a break, see how you feel about eachother in a month or two. If you guys were really in love and meant to be you would not be fighting all the time, not to say I don't fight with my husband, but its not an everyday thing. Take a break and time will tell......

Answer 7

I think in any NORMAL relationship there is always fighting. My girlfriend and I love each other to bits and we fight a lot and it always starts over something small. Talk to him about, ask why he thinks you're both always fighting.

Another solution is take some time apart or not to see each other as much. When you do this, you realise how much you value your relationship and how much you miss each other.

I hope everything works out.

Answer 8

if your at a point where you are fighting every day it may be time to consider if its really worth trying to work it out. sit down with him and say that you have noticed how much you two have been fighting and that it is starting to wear on you. if its worth saving you will find a way to work it out. but personally, i dont see this ending well. i think the best thing may be to end it, then give it some time, and find a guy who wouldnt even dream of calling you names, even ten years into your relationship!

Answer 9

True love has no conditions, judgments, should or shouldn't, that love emerges into the oneness you are to reflect from one another, Love is what we are created from. Where there is fight, there is no agreement, then how can there be unconditional love? Society created love as being a condition that changes, and is emotional, this is why I have a life coach, I had to learn to love me first, peace in search for truth.

Answer 10

only you can decide that. im not about to sit here and tell what to do like i some knida pro,but what i can tell you is that i know exactly how you feel and what you are talkin about. seriously you need to chill out a lil bit, try not to argue by listening and having self control. dont automatically blow up when he says something to you.but at the same time it could also be him, i mean talk to him as much as you can about it and if he refuses to listen to you then write him a letter or even e-mail him sayin everything you need to say and how you feel bout all this!! see what happens.gurl i was in the same situation u are in, and i started writing my boyfreind e mails and letters, and i have to admit that we talk alot more now and our relationship is alot alot better!!