2007-05-16 16:05:13 · 20 answers · asked by bubbly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As far as most marriages are concerned .. watching Porn is disgusting ... and most will feel sick about the fact that their spouse or significant other is watching it in the home.
It is definitely NOT unreasonable to be upset and hate that your spouse is doing this. I would NOT be guilted into feeling "ok" about his addiction either ... especially if it violates your sensibilities (your moral code).
So ... go with your gut feel -- if you feel squeamish, are disgusted, feel violated, or any other negative feeling that your spouse is addicted to porn -- by all means .. COMMUNICATE that to your spouse in no uncertain terms -- and LET HIM KNOW how upset you are about his porn activity!
2007-05-16 16:16:40 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are not being unreasonable. You can't help the way that you feel about his actions. It's okay for you not to agree with his past times as long as you can separate the action from the person.
Why is it that you are so uncomfortable with your hubby watching porn? Answering that question will give you insight into the problem. Some people may feel that when a man watches porn, he is unsatisfied in his relationship;however, other people think of it as just entertainment. I can really relate to your question, because I went through the same situation. I had to understand that my disgust came from a feeling of uneasiness in the relationship. My relationship was rocky and anything would have made me feel really unsure.
2007-05-16 16:15:54 · answer #2 · answered by Blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Masturbation is healthful even in a relationship the place the couple is having a healthful volume of warm intercourse. myth and porn isn't a bad factor as long as he's no longer telling you would be able to desire to be like the girls in the video clips. easily in case you divorces this guy you will surprisingly plenty could desire to marry a guy that lives in the midst of no the place and has no touch with the exterior international in any respect. Or marry an Asexual male. this is the only way you will discover somebody that would not watch porn. easily do you no longer watch romantic video clips, study erotica or fantasize approximately warm adult adult males. it fairly is coming from a woman. Take the stick out.
2016-10-05 05:33:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your being very unreasonable. Its either the porn or sorry to say but another woman. So instead of hating it, learn to love it. Use this as a relationship builder by watching porn with him TOGETHER.
2007-05-16 16:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by I need help 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think your being unreasonable if he does it in moderation...It's not like he's ever gonna live that fantasy...Have you ever watched them with him? My husband has some videos and pics from the net and it doesn't bother me, boys will be boys...If it bothers you that much...let him know and try not to yell at him about it (I know easier said)... If all else fails have a girls night out and go to a Male Dance Review and see how he likes it....
2007-05-16 16:11:40 · answer #5 · answered by Jeweled Everywhere 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree, it's either going to be porn or another women. It is in a mans nature to propagate his seed to insure the survival of his DNA. Fortunately we as men have another form of release, porn. I also heard that rape and infidelity has dramatically decreased in the past 15 years and they are attributing it to easier excess ability to porn. We tend to differentiate our selves from the animal kingdom but the truth is we're no different than any other animal and we're hard wired for the propagation of our species.
You also have to remember this activity has been a favourite pass time for him long before you came along and your presence is as likely to change it as much as his presence is likely going to keep you from enjoying any of your favourite past times you had before you met him.
2007-05-16 17:15:53 · answer #6 · answered by apothis sharp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys like porn, I'm ashamed to say, and I can understand how that may make you feel, just realize that just because he's watching that he doesn't love you. If you really want to blow his mind try watching some with him and see how he reacts.
2007-05-16 16:13:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's probably a reason he watches porn. I'd suggest the next time he pops in a tape, you jump his bones. See what he does and adjust accordingly.
2007-05-16 16:07:48 · answer #8 · answered by Nick C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Strip naked and tell him to join you in bed. If he still watches the porn withhold your services from hom.
2007-05-16 16:21:14 · answer #9 · answered by barrister02061959 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no problem with my fiancee watching it.Men like to look at other women.As long as he is home with you and not out cheating.I don't see the problem.And I wouldn't allow him to watch it front of me though.
2007-05-16 16:09:28 · answer #10 · answered by Ms.Danielle 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋