How does gay marriage hurt marriage as a whole?

Question

I think that if you feel that gay marriage will destroy marriage perhaps you have some gay in you (or want to) otherwise, why would you fear that gay people get the right to marry. Maybe you feel you are not straight enough to stay with your wife when you can get a young stud, or maybe you feel your wife would be happier with a woman... is that it?

Answer 1

Allowing gay marriage doesn't hurt the sanctity of marriage...divorce does.

The one way to bring down the divorce rate in the nation...criminalize divorce.

You made your bed...now you lie in it.

Answer 2

It doesn't . The Church can do what they will regarding whether or not they will recognize or accept gay marriage but the simple fact of the matter is that marriage is a function of the State not the Church.
It is the State that grants marriage licenses without which a marriage performed in a house of worship is not legal.
When gay marriage does become legal it will be because a gay couple asked the State that under the equal protection clause of the 14th Amendment , what is the States basis for denying them a marriage license and all the right and privileges that automatically go with that license including the recognition of the validity of their marriage by other states ? The only logical answer the State can actually give that couple is that there is no reason and thus the license will have to granted.
There are few if any conditions on heterosexual marriage. In essence the State acts as the ultimate romantic and grants anybody that wants one a license and allows the couple to succeed on their own merits.
Look at what is not required for a marriage license
There is no requirement to be fertile and to bear children
There are no parenting classses required or relationship classes
There is no educational requirement
There is no employment requirement
There is no housing requirement
One or both parties can have substance abuse issues and as long as they are not actually stoned when they say "I do " their marriage is legal
There is no " free of STD's " requirement
There isn't even a requirement for the couple to be in love
The only things that the State asks of the couple are that they be of some ridiculous minimum age, that they pay a minor processing fee and that their genitals are distinctly different and that is it.
So actually the State doesn't have a case for violating the 14th Amendment.
Is there anybody that honestly believes that a pair of 18 year old heterosexual high school drop outs with substance abuse issues have a better chance at a successful marriage than a pair of 35 year old homosexuals with advanced degrees ?
So if the State grants the license to the kids that are going nowhere fast they have to grant the license to the older couple who are going somewhere even faster .
Ultimatley good marriages are good for society and bad marriages create a burden on society. So the State should encourage and promote good marriages and the sexual orientaion of the couples should really be a non-issue.

Answer 3

I'm gay and 53 and I don't feel that it has anything to do with what everyone thinks that is does. It is about bringing out the inequality that this country's society has made gays and by fighting for this right then they/we win all the way around.

Civil Unions and contractual agreements could cover all the desires to be with our loved ones in cases of an emergency. Yes, I am sure that getting spousal rights and health insurance through your employer's job might help, but even that isn't a major incentive. Since 1999 I have been disabled and although I don't have extra money after all the bills, all my medical and medicinal bills are covered, which brings us right back around to my first statement. Gays want equal rights, there is no bloody reason why they shouldn't have them, so what is the big deal?

The United Nations has had a Declaration of Human Rights action that was put forth to all the Nations within the U.N. in 1948. This declaration simply put states that all people are human beings and all human being should have equal rights. Picture a world where everyone had the same rights, because you can't discriminate against someone who is a human! Long story short, this declaration has been sitting in the U.N.'s archives since 1948 and has never been adopted by the body, which also means the United States. A human being cannot be more defined, where a gender or a race can. We could all be equal!

But this country needs someone to hate so that our people are distracted from all the things that our leaders want to distract us from. Don't get me started on the Bush administration, religious right and the over use of the buzz word "terrorism."

Answer 4

I view my own marriage as a commitment to love and honor my wife; to be the best husband I can be for her. If someone else wants to make that same commitment to thier own partner, I'm all for it. What sex each member is, is well beside the point. If a man loves another man who loves him back... why shouldn't they have the right to marry? What's harmful about it? And is it any more/less so if a woman marries another woman?

I think it prudent to point out that traditional man-woman marriages have a nearly fifty percent failure rate. So please tell me how "solid" most "straight" relationships are.

If God blesses a man and a woman to be bound together in Holy Matramony... why so many divorces? Just another one of the inconvienient facts that so many zealots have to pretend doesn't exist. Otherwise their argument falls apart. Time to open that blessed book and thump on a few pages.

By the way... how many counts are on the books of domestic violence? Quite a few... but there doesn't seem to be all that many from gay couples. Hmmm.... But wait! Gotta pretend it doesn't exist that way! *Thump! Thump!* Says here...

Actually, the message I'm reading is that once again a system of beleif that CLAIMS to be centered on a God of love is being used to justify hatred on yet another group of people. I'm not even gay, but I'm finding it easier everyday to stay away from organized religion.

Answer 5

Many people don't approve of gay marriage because a traditional marriage weds a man and a woman, not two men. I'm not on any sides here, I could care less. Just some gay queers I don't know. No sweat off my back. People feel that gay marriages ruin the true meaning of a marriage, a straight marriage, the natural marriage that consists of a man and a woman. The kind of marriage that has been the only way for many centuries now.
Who cares? Maybe those guys who oppose gay marriage really are that insecure. Not my problem. Not yours either, I'm sure.

Answer 6

There is no such thing as gay marriage, God has to ordain a marriage for it to be a true marriage. If man passes a law to legalize gay marriage it doesn't matter because God's law is superior to mans. The truth hurts some people while it sets others free.

Answer 7

There is a bit of philosophy that one has to understand before that particular concern is going to make sense.

There is a school of thought that believes in the existence of "Universals"... that is, there are concepts that are not physical or material in nature, but are still real and unchanging. Some examples of universals are as follows: Good, Evil, Love, Human Rights, Redness, the number 4, Science, the laws of logic, Marriage.

Each of these are non-material, but are thought to exist universally. That is, if they exist, then their meaning is true across time and culture. By simply redefining it, you do not therefore change something that is truly "out there", but you may well tamper with society's knowledge of what that thing actually is.

The *institution* of marriage, or society's understanding of what it is, is under great threat by the distortion of gay marriage. Likewise, terms such as "love" has lost their meaning in recent decades because people have expanded the term to mean just about any kind of affection, even adulterous kinds, when we know in our hearts that such actions can't be love, because they're just not lovING behaviors. We rightly consider them to be violations of what Love really is.... as the spouse that is cheated on will say, "Love would have brought you home last night." Redefining it to suit people's sexual tastes destroys society's bond to what Love actually is.

Answer 8

The marriage covenant, by which a man and a woman form with each other an intimate communion of life and love, has been founded and endowed with its own special laws by the Creator. By its very nature it is ordered to the good of the couple, as well as to the generation and education of children.

Answer 9

Anyone who thinks gay marriage will hurt marriage as a whole is just afraid that the gay people will be way happier in their marriages than they are. Because to be totally honest, marriage right now stinks. The divorce rate in the USA is like 50%. I say let the gay people marry and let them be happy.

Answer 10

I disagree that people who dont like gay marriages may be gay. They may be extremely prejudice and take religion a little too far - they always say it was adam and eve not adam n steve or madam and eve - which is bull crap and the stupidest excuse i've heard for prejudice. Religion can not be used as a justification against a group of people. (hold on, yes it can - and it is used a whole lot!)

And adam and eve never existed anyways.

I dont see whats wrong with allowing gay marriages? Love does not know gender.

For whoever said its un natural - Howcome so many animals are gay then? It's only because of religion that people see it as "un natural"

Answer 11

Marriage is a Holy Union.

To accent an abomination as a Holy Union Mocks God.

The State did not make marriage, nor does it have any authority to dictate its tenets.

If they make laws like this, civil rights activists will soon sue Churches to marry people just like they sue schools to force them to teach our children that sodomy is something other than deviant sexual behavior.