Why Cant Men Just Understand the Concept of Just Being Friends?

Question

I have had to deal with is online as well as in real life. I am getting to the point where I am very straightforward and blunt in letting them know that I only want a friendship. Nevertheless, they still try to pursue me romantically. On the internet, these men must be perverted or have mental issues because they can't seem to comprehend what No means. To them, everything is about sex and dirty talk, and I am not into that stuff at all. What's going on?

No, I am not a tease. I make my intentions clear. I am not looking for a relationship, so there is no need to try to push things. I think men are just dumb a s s e s.

I think I am just going to stick to gay men, lol. By the way, I make my intentions crystal clear. I gues their brains just have not evolved. This is in real life as well as the internet.

Answer 1

Don't give up, you will find one that is not and who is willing to be just friends. Some guys want friends with benefits.

I am like you. I was straightforward and told them from the get go that I wanted only friendship and if they wanted more they better tell me so I can move on. If they wanted more they were not going to get it as I was not ready for it. I was not in for the friends with benefits thing either.

A lot of men let their "second brain" rule, unfortunately.

I didn't date for 2 years, just wanted friends. I was friends with a guy and we have decided recently to date. I am ready now as I was not then. We are doing well and still plan on not having sex until and if we get married. It is so much better to be friends and if things happen later, that would be fine. Until your ready for more than friendship, you hang in there. There are decent men who do like to be just friends. I would probably stay off the internet as most of them are looking for more than just friends.

I was on a site and actually found my friends husband advertising himself. He didn't say he was married, but he was looking for a fling or physical relationship. I had to tell my friend. I would have wanted to know if I were her. They are still together and it was not the first time he was cheating on her. You have to be careful as most of them are not telling the full truth.

Stay true to you and have faith. There are plenty of good guys who are honest and true friends.

Answer 2

So you're basing your whole contribution to life, you're whole reason for having been born and you're whole ability to satisfy a woman on your ability to produce sperm and/or have an erection. Kind of lame. If that's all you feel you were born to do, have an erection, then you never did have a purpose in life. Some of us feel that sex and producing offspring is only a secondary, almost a side line, of life. We go and try to improve the quality of life for as many others (not just people either) as possible. We get into trying to improve this world or, at the very least, try to help not allow it to degenerate too much further. We get out of the "poor poor pitiful me" state and take our energy and intelligence to people and places that can use us--Habitat of the Humanities, Save the Children, Save the Planet, volunteer to help scrub oil-covered marine animals when needed, do walkathons/marathons to raise money for good causes, just get out and do things. Because each of us is only a very very (veryveryvery) small part of this world and although we may be kind of insiginificant in the big picture, we can still make a difference. Make friends and do the things you always wanted to do. If you enjoy children, go out and meet a woman with children who need a daddy--just because they aren't your genes, kids need love and will often love you back so you feel they are your kids. And as far as pleasing a woman--most of a woman's sexual pleasure can be achieved via foreplay (and sometimes using adult sexual devices). Many men who are not impotent haven't got a clue how to please a woman and have never pleased a woman (and a lot of men don't give a care about anyone else's pleasure but their own--and they all have women) so your impotency is not a good excuse for not having a relationship, or many relationships. You just have to explain at the time things start to get sexual about your accident; a woman who has no heart or soul will not want you and good riddance (because that's so shallow). But a lot of good women won't let impotency stand in the way. The human body has many erogenous places that can bring pleasure. And as you get older, sex becomes less and less important and companionship, mutual respect and concern and caring, an exchange of ideas, etc. become more prominently what attracts. And until you find that special woman, wouldn't it be fun to present to the women a challenge ala Some Like It Hot and let them see if any can get a "rise" out of you--even if that doesn't happen, you'd still have a lot of stimulation and maybe even a learn a thing or two about yourself. So stop feeling sorry for yourself and quit blaming impotency for your sad life. You've allowed yourself to wallow in self pity long enough.

Answer 3

Honey.........and no I'm not a man or a boy I'm a girl....theres something wrong with all men and boys now days I have to put up with the same thing in my class when the teachers not looking the stupid boys pretend to hump a desk and the boys are only 13 -15 years old and there already doing that kind of stuff if you can't handle it just stop hanging out with them if u ask me I'd say be frriends with a gay guy there sweet they listen and other than a diamond there a girls best friend if you give them a chance.

Answer 4

uhmmm... I think what you're having a problem with is already a part of a man's nature.. as you have probably observed, men, mostly, are carefree and just want to enjoy as much as they can.. Some of them are not into serious relationships, some dont give a damn to anybody, and they often get themselves into trouble.. well, i think those are their ways of living the most out of their lives.. Women also have their own ways and probably, men dont understand some of them. as we all know, men always appear as the tough, strong, and robust ones and they're justifying it through their actions, however, it could be misinterpreted by someone. about the sex issues and dirty talk, nowadays, that's already a part of men's craving.. If possible, they want to have it everyday maybe bcoz of the pleasure it brings to them.. like what i said, all they want is enjoyment.. even at the expense of others.. that's what they are.. most of them crave for anything that brings pleasure... only a few can be considered the good and decent ones

Answer 5

Men have a very hard time understand that a woman doesn't have to have sex in a relationship and that you are being coy when you say "no", as it actually means "coax me".

To get you into the mood, they talk dirty to arouse you. And it does work, but what gets aroused is your anger.

Men learn (in some cases, too late) that if you play the sex card immediately, you miss out on a whole lot of the personality of the woman.

Answer 6

To quote the great Dallas Lynn, men "don't want to bend your "friends" over a table and f*** them". Just because these men don't make their intentions clear doesn't mean they don't understand the concept of "Just being friends". To men, there is no such thing. Sorry if this gets up your hopes of anything platonic with the XY chromosome, but that's just the way it is.

Answer 7

Because these men think with their other head. Not all though. Don't take it personally they can't help it. Plus enjoy it while it lasts because once a woman is considered "old" they will stop hitting on her completely.
They might also be confused by this statement you have in your profile : "I am also very sarcastic, so don't take me too serious" So they might think that when you say you want to be friends that you're joking.
Don't forget you can always ignore the once that annoy you. Good luck to you!

Answer 8

Its possible its your personality, its very open and caring. Guys can misinterprit that as love. Try and take a walk in our shoes for once, females who give out mixed signals or toss and turn between friends and lovers arnt easy to deal with.

Just think of your own speach through a guys point of view. If you do it in an unbias manner I think you will find that you are leading em on, may not be full blown *********.

Answer 9

Most guys ARE pretty much into that stuff. Even people who are established friends will crack stupid jokes about the subject, and the internet just facilitates that. And um, I think that you saying "no" only makes the chase more worthwhile to them, sorry...but there's not a lot else you can do. Just carry a taser if it ever gets out of hand.

Answer 10

Men get feedback from the signals you send out. You must be sending out signals that you are available and looking. You have to deal with yourself on the inside and really believe that you only want friends. Then don't be coy and don't flirt or tease them. Just keep things on a friendly basis and stick to your guns. Remember you call the shots.