I am planning to throw a bridal shower and it seems that the best option will be to do in a restaurant or some kind of catering hall facility. Should I be paying for everyone's food + decoration+ invitations , etc?
2007-05-16 15:00:14 · 16 answers · asked by Renata S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There is no other bridesmaids, i am the only
2007-05-16 15:08:35 · update #1
Since you are the maid of honor it falls to you to take care of the bridal shower. Since there are no other bridesmaids, do you and the bride have mutual friends who might be willing to help you? You shouldn't go to the expense of a restaurant, have the shower at your house, or the bride's mother's home, etc. Just have some finger foods, cake and punch or other beverages. The decorations, invitations, prizes and any party favors are not that expensive and you can get nice things for prizes at your local bargain store like Dollar General.
2007-05-16 16:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are the host and you should do what you think is right. Just because other people have thrown guest pay parties, does not make it acceptable and you do not need to follow them. You should host a shower you can afford. In your living room or community center with light snacks, cake and coffee. Serving a full meal to everyone is not necessary. Also, I would be bothered by the brides insinuation that this is all so you have more money to spend on (what sounds like) an over the top bachelorette party. She should be grateful for whatever party you plan, it is not about the party it is about the people there. Sorry to say mean things about this bride, but she sounds entitled and frankly, she needs to butt out and let you plan the shower you can afford, your way, with the good manners your mother taught you.
2016-05-20 15:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bride's family should pay for the bridal shower. If they're financially strapped, ask the groom to help. Don't ask for money donations from party guests. But you could ask the guests to share some of the planning. Also, if the bridal shower's not going to be a surprise, discuss it with the bride. Maybe she'd be willing to help put the plans together, and finance the meal.
2007-05-16 15:15:14 · answer #3 · answered by ezpaced 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most of the ones I've been to have actually been thrown by a family friend of the bride, but I guess it can fall under the MOH's duties as well. If you're worried about the cost, keep it simple. I've never been to a bridal shower that had anything more than cake, punch, and a few nibblies.
2007-05-16 15:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by Flamekat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoever's hosting pays, which is generally the bridesmaids. That's going to be a hefty bill if you're the only one. But if you held it in a hall and asked the bride's mother and family member's to help out with food it would probably be more manageable than paying a restaurant tab.
2007-05-17 04:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by Vita 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoever hosts the shower usually pays for it. In this case, where you are the sole host, maybe you shouldn't do it in a commercial location. All of the best showers I have been to are in someone's home, usually the MOB or MOG - friends and family help with making the food and desserts, then all you need is punch or drinks, some decorations, and a few games. Simple and easy, with lots of fun for everyone.
2007-05-17 01:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whomever volunteers to host it, pays for it. That's what being a host means: Paying, plannning, and extending invitations.
Even though you are the only Maid, you might ask another close friend of the bride if she (or even HE, if a co-ed shower) would like to co-host with you, to share some of the responsibility and cost. But not a family, member or future in law of the bride- it's bad manners for showers to be hosted by family.
2007-05-16 15:38:43 · answer #7 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to get a "group" to give the shower and one person to be the hostess those in the group throwing the shower pay for it all. You can't very well invite people to a wedding shower and then expect them to pay for it all, that is just plain tacky. So if you plan on doing it all yourself you'll have to foot the bill for it all yourself.
2007-05-16 15:04:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you are the only bridesmaid maybe you want to act here family to pitch in on giving a bridal shower.
2007-05-16 15:34:18 · answer #9 · answered by techgirl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As far as i know (from personal experience as both a maid of honour and a bride-to-be) the maid of honor pays for the whole shower. Of course sometimes mothers offer to chip in, as do other bridesmaids, but if they don't, its usually the maid of honours responsibility.
2007-05-16 15:03:52 · answer #10 · answered by katskradle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋