how can i get my 2 yr old to sleep in his own big boy bed?

Question

my son Xavier is going to be 2 yrs old in July when i put his big boy bed together he was so excited to sleep in it..........so i let him. The first 2 weeks went very good he slept ALL night with no problem now he wont sleep he sleeps for like 2-3 hours then crawls in bed with me and my fiancee. I am 25 wks pregnant and its very uncomfortable im losing sleep and so is he. what can i do?

Answer 1

tie him 2 his bed.LOL read 2 him til he falls asleep.

Answer 2

Don't be offended but some people will give you rude answers becasue you are co-sleeping, But I am giving you kudos. It takes a lot more patience and determination to co-sleep.
After you put your son to bed, either you or your fiancee should try staying in the room with him all night. In a rocking chair or something That way when he stirs he will awaken see you there and maybe go back to sleep. Try this for a night or two. If he is still crawling in bed with you, after he falls back asleep and his limbs are limp, move him back to his own bed. Falling asleep and waking in the same place, will help him find a routine. He also could be waking because he is going through a growth spurt and is hungry. You could try feeding him some oatmeal before bed.

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Answer 3

I have a 4 year old and had the same problem.. The only thing that worked was to keep putting him in bed every time he got out. I would rub his back or tell him how proud I was of him for being a big boy. After a while it was less and less that he crawled in bed with us. I would take turns, you and your fiancee, putting him back in bed. My sons stayed in bed with us till he was 3, the longer you wait the harder it is. Just be persistant and hopefully by the time the new baby comes he will be in his own bed.. good luck!!!

Answer 4

I read an article recently about the same problem and they suggested buying a sleep mat or sleeping bag to put next to your bed in case they sneak in during the night. Sleeping close makes them feel better but a sleep mat isn't as comfy as their own bed (or yours) so they eventually go back to their own beds. It is hard but you could also walk him back to bed every time he gets up. I am much too lazy for stuff like that in the middle of the night so I would have a hard time being consistent. I am about to move my son into his big boy bed and this is the exact thing I am worried about so I wish you so much luck. Congrats on the new baby!!!

Answer 5

Okay, this is an easy fix. Try a night light. They are inexpensive and make it easier for you son to sleep by himself. If he still refuses, move him big boy bed into your bedroom, if there is room. If he is still refusing, ask for reasoning from him. Yes, I know that sounds crazy and most parents can't understand their children at that age but if he can try to talk let him.

I know when my daughters started sleeping in their own room, they were completely thrilled! They wanted to have their own pillows, sheets and blankets for their beds! What I'm saying is get him interested in making his big boy bed more him. I'm not suggesting spending a great deal of money on making his room look like a Winston race track complete with spectators but I am saying that you should try asking him, what would you like on your big boy bed? After that, if he feels comfortable with sleeping there then everything should be okay. If that doesn't work, try purchasing him a mommy bear. They are relatively cheap and you can purchase them at Walmart.

Answer 6

I have a three year old son that I had the SAME problem with. The way I got him to sleep in his room was in steps. He started off in his own bed on the other side of my room. Then, after he got really comfortable with sleeping in his OWN bed and not mine, I moved him into his own room. I told him that he was "such a big boy with his own bed and own room". He did not really take it well at first. What finally made it easier was setting up a solid consistent routine for bedtime. My son knows that when it is bed time, we go up to his bedroom, read him one book, say prayers, get hugs and go to our own bedroom. At first, we had to leave his bathroom light on, but now, he sleeps in the dark with his door open. Good luck and really the key is consistency. If you slip up and let him sleep with you, you have to try 10x harder the next week.

Answer 7

I haev the EXACT same problem with my son. So what i ddi was since he is OBSESSED with Dinosaurs i spent tthe few extra bucks on a dino bed sheet set. Now when he tries to climb into bed with me, I'll go into his room adn say that I get to sleep with the really cool dinos. Then he starts sayign NO NONO ME ME ME!!!! then i will lay himn back down in his bed, and sure enough he'll there till morning. Every once in a while he'll still come to bed with me on rainy nights and stuff, not everynight anymore though. I too am 38 weeks pregnant, so it can be VERY stressful!!!!! But find something he LIKES that cannot be taken to your room and make a "game" saying how you get it now. See what happens, you never know.

Answer 8

I would tell him tha you are pregnant. Ask him why he wakes up? Give him a "dream cacher" One of those indian dream things. When the string turns yellowish brown get a new one. But warn him that if he brakes the string that the dream trapped there will come back. If that is not the case then oh well. Mabey he just likes you and your fiancee. Or mabey he wants to protect the baby in your belly. If so, then tell him that the baby will be fine. I am 35 with 4 boys of my own. They are 13, 13,14,and 18.They did the same when they where little too!

Answer 9

GO to it slowly..at bedtime when he gets in the bed read him a story and sit for 15 minutes then tell him you;ll be back later..next night same thing...he might have a tizzy fit 'but it wont get better if he continues to sleep in the bedroom..just going there nightly and sit 5to 10 min and tell him he;s a big boy now ;and must sleep in a big bed now....after about a week he should be getting used to it...my son did the same thing and at 3 he went back in his bedroom don;t wait that long as the longer the harder.......good luck always,,,,,,,,,,,,

Answer 10

You should ask him what the problem is, he might have encountered something where he is afraid to be in his room by himself. Maybe he had a nightmare or something that has caused a deviation from his normal behavior. You should take him back to bed when he goes to your room. Or you can get your fiancee to do it. If you can get him back now, you will save time later from trying to get him back after you have your baby.

Answer 11

Why did you allow him to sleep with you to begin with? You should have gotten out of bed and taken him back to his bed the very first time he crawled into bed with you. That's what you are going to have to do now. Over and over and over and over and you'll probably have to go through far more nights of no sleep because he will throw fits, screm and cry and beg. When it would have been so much easier to NOT allow it to happen in the first place.