So I have this boyfriend, that I met about a year and a half ago. I love him so much, and we're planning our future together, but there is this one problem: Sometimes I feel like he has no ambition. He's confessed to me that he loves photography, and would want to make a career out of it, and I really want him to apply to art schools to get more training. He says he wants to as well, but he hasn't taken any steps in the last few months, not even researching schools!
All I want is for him to find his dream job, and live it, or at least try, but maybe I'm being too hard on him, I know he doesn't have the funds to go to art school, and maybe he's afraid of failure... But sometimes it makes me question whether I can be with someone like him. Anyone? Am I being horrible?
2007-05-16 13:58:00 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're not a horrible girlfriend. Every relationship has its doubts. Since you say you're planning your future together, it's probably a time when you'll be thinking hard and second-guessing a lot of things.
Maybe you could try gently urging him to make some decisions?
2007-05-16 14:02:57 · answer #1 · answered by TerrorOfTheThames 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not being horrible. Some times it is hard for us to plan a future with someone who can not be accountable for there own future. Maybe you should try just leaving a school catalogue around or some student financing options where he can see them, this may encourage him to look further into. Remember his future is your future and therefore you have a right to participate in it.
2007-05-16 14:04:00 · answer #2 · answered by Mandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are being horrible... you can't plan a future with someone who can't plan a future for themselves. I feel this way about my boyfriend sometimes too.. but we are young so i can't worry. I get the impression you are older and it makes sense to think about these things. Money shouldn't be an issue if you love someone.. but i think ambition is very important!
2007-05-16 14:01:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not only do u want him 2 get want his career choice but u want 2 ensure that he can and will be able to care 4 a family ( if u guyz get married aand plan 2 hav kids) and if u don't have but can take care of himself and u (being the breadwinner)
2007-05-16 14:39:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not being horrible, you want him to succeed. That's not bad. And a lot of people have feelings like that when they see no future (no matter what kind of future).
2007-05-16 14:01:53 · answer #5 · answered by Pacific11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-10 03:15:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and shallow too. Yuo are basing whether you love him on the fact if he is finacially stable or not... and that is just so... shallow. It's like what a golddigger does, stays in it for the money only. Whether he can get to schoo land make money shouldn't be whether you love him or not, you should love him for who he is.
2007-05-16 14:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by Brian 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you are not horrible you are just trying to help him nothing else. Think about the good things.
2007-05-16 14:04:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not --- there could be many reasons he has not started --- perhaps talk to him tell him how you feel --- if you cant talk about this now what about the future???
dont try to change him --- he just needs to find a passion --- best wishes to you both (you make your own luck)
2007-05-16 14:02:16 · answer #9 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i dont think your a horrible person, i am in the same situation, bu tim married to mine. but he's coming around he's going to go to school now. when i talked about it he didnt do anything, when i left it alone he came around so give it a chance.
2007-05-16 14:05:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋