We just found out that we're having a girl, due in September.
Our last child was a son, born 2 years ago. I had a LOT of complications with him, so we're praying that everything goes well with this one.
1) Should we register?
I've asked this before, but I want to know what etiquette would say. Since it's a difference gender, do we go ahead and register at an actual store?
2) During the first week of her birth, we want our family of four to have a week to ourselves without having anyone there to interefere with our bonding/adjusting.
How should we explain this to family who will be moaning and groaning about this?
How should we handle drop-bys?
We know it's strict, but we REALLY want to give our small family a head start. We'd be happy to let people come over after that first week though.
2007-05-16 13:15:31 · 6 answers · asked by FaZizzle 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
1) In our family, we only have 1 baby shower. And since your son is only 2, it hasn't been that long since your last shower, you should still have the basics - crib, swing, stroller, etc. It's a different gender, but you can always buy clothes at garage sales.
2) Send out a birth announcement & announce that guest are welcome to come visit after a certain date. Either don't answer your door for drop bys or tell them it's not a good time. Let people know in advance (before the baby is born) that you plan on spending some alone time for the first week so they know to expect it & may be more likely to comply. I think this request is very resonable.
2007-05-16 13:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by tanner 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey FaZizzle! Congratulations on your baby girl!!!
You should register wherever you want to.
When my son was born I put a note on the door (he was a high risk preemie) that said, "I am very sorry for the inconvenience to you, but we are not accepting visits at this time. We appreciate that you care and we understand you want to see us and the baby. It is just not possible at this time." It was a respectful way to let people know we meant what we said and were going to enforce our wishes, respectfully.
This is the only first week you will ever have with your baby. It is not out of the question for you to handle it the way you want to! Just remember that some people may get offended. That is there problem. Don't try to accomodate everyone else, you will drive yourself nuts! You may want to start telling everyone right now of your plans so that it is not such a big surprise to them when the baby gets here.
Best of luck to you! Nana
2007-05-16 20:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you want to register go for it.
since you want to have your family bonding time together, you'll just have to be straight forward and up front with the rest of your family and friends asking that they respect your wishes.....after the first week they can come by to visit but pls call first, don't just drop by at anytime~
It will be soooooooooo hard on your family NOT to be able to see the baby once it's born. I don't think that's being too fair..I understand not coming by the house until a week later and calling first not just showing up, but everyone who loves you wants to see the child when it's first born in the hospital*~ But again......tis up to you and your spouse* Best wishes*
2007-05-16 20:23:10 · answer #3 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can register. When someone asks what you want, let them know where you are registered. You can send out e-mail announcements to your friends and family with the baby's picture, name, measurements, etc. and simply ask that they wait a week to come visit "to give Mom and baby a chance to rest and to reduce the risk of baby getting sick". They should understand.
2007-05-16 20:21:27 · answer #4 · answered by mssandrar03 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well as for wanting a week to your selves that is a good thing and friends and family will be disappointed but is what u want and will need to rest to get a routine going.so maybe u could send everyone a note explaining what your wishes are and tell them you hope they under stand and respect your wishes.good luck
2007-05-16 20:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by angie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By all means tell them this, what you just told us; I believe you did just fine, you didn't mince words you were sweet and polite. That's what I wanted each time I had all five of mine and I got it by cracky. It is not strict; it's right.
Just tell them and for those that moan and groan stand your ground. They'll soon get the idea.
2007-05-16 20:32:46 · answer #6 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋