Is this normal?I am in my first year of college and i feel a baby would make me work even harder at school.I want a baby so badly i want to have someone to love and take care off.
2007-05-16 13:13:30 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I do babysit for my aunt son who is 1.5 yrs old but this makes me want a baby even more?
2007-05-16 13:16:27 · update #1
I totally went through that at 19 too. I wanted a baby sooo bad. I know exactly how you feel. I think these are normal feelings for lots of women. My advice, though, is to wait. At least until you're done with college. If you wait, then you can devote more time to your baby and not have school work interfering. Plus, you'll have the education to help you get a good job to help you take good care of your baby. If you can wait, it's best. Not forever, just a few more years. In the meantime...get a puppy. They need lots of love and affection, and believe me, they are quite demanding little creatures :))
Good luck!
2007-05-16 13:18:01 · answer #1 · answered by ღ†Rocker Wife†ღ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to have the urge to have a baby. I was your age when I started getting that urge. I'm now 23 with a 2 1/2 year old daughter. She is my entire world, and I would not go back in time and do anything differently. HOWEVER, that being said. A baby is more responsibility than you will ever be able to imagine until you actually have one. You'll think "i know babies are a lot of work, i wish people would stop telling me that!" then when you have one .. you'll think "wow, everyone was right, this is hard!" Having one now, while you are in school won't make you work harder in school .. it will just make it harder for you to continue school. I'm not saying it's impossible, just harder. Wait until you have found Mr. Right, enjoy the marriage WITHOUT KIDS for a few years, THEN you will know when the time is right. Enjoy being young without so many responsibilities. Once you have the responsibility of having a kid, you will have that responsibility for the rest of your life. The urges to have one are normal, so go find a friend that has a young one, and tell her you'll babysit whenever she needs you to! Trust me, not only will you get a temporary fill of baby love, but the mom will thank you forever for giving her a break!!
2007-05-16 21:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to want a baby. I'm 16 and I want a baby more than anything. However what you should NOT do is actually have a baby. You have your whole life ahead of you. A baby is not something you have to complete yourself, a baby is its own person that you want to raise right and put into the world. You're 19, not finished your education, and presumably not in a relationship. Not that the relationship is necessary, but the other two are if you want the best life for your child. Wait, get a good job, build up your life, and soon there will be enough room for a baby in it.
2007-05-16 20:19:09 · answer #3 · answered by Storaged 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love and take care of yourself first and foremost. Having a baby is the most incredible and wonderful experience. However having said that wait. Wait until you have finished school, until you no longer find it fun to stay out till 2 in the morning, until you no longer find the urge to sow some wild oats, when you can no longer justify (to yourself) spending money on wants instead of needs, when you realise that your mom was smart and in touch with reality, when you no longer want to be the center of anyones universe, and after all police officers start looking like teenagers (i was around 25 when this phenomenon occurred).
I waited until 28 and having since then talked to friends who have had children at 19, they have affirmed what I believed before I had kids, which is --I don't feel like I missed out on anything by having kids, I have infinitely more patience, I'm in a much more financially secure position, and so many more reasons.
2007-05-16 23:34:59 · answer #4 · answered by originaleve01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. usually it's a sign of lonliness and a general feeling of being unloved.
however, it only makes the problem worse.
i know a couple of people who got pregnant right out of high school, and they regret it. they spent most of their times trying to find ways not to be with their baby, and try to get their relatives to watch the baby all day while they take classes, work, etc.
The common thread I found is that most people don't understand how ungrateful and selfish babies are. Since they themselves are lonely, they hope that a baby will fill the gap. However, babies don't give a rat's butt about you or your feelings, therefore increasing the hole the parents feel.
If you are lonely, I think a better solution will be a cat or a dog.
2007-05-16 20:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal to want a baby, but you need to finish school before a baby. most people don't work harder once they have a baby, they get overwhelmed and quit. plus you need to pick a quality man to make a baby with, you will be tied to him for at least 18 years.
wait until you have graduated, then try to meet a nice guy worth marrying, once you have the job to support a baby and the emotional support from your boyfriend/husband and family then go for it. you have your whole life ahead of you there is no reason to act now. make a good like for a baby to come into first.
good luck
2007-05-16 21:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ ~Isabelle's mommy~ ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like that's the last thing you need. Not sure what is making you feel you want/need a baby in your life but to say you want someone to love and take care of tells me you're quite lonely and looking for love in all the wrong places.
Please go and talk with someone, family doctor, best friend...someone you trust.....you're only 19yrs old girl.....finish college and start living life..when the time is right...you will meet the right man, fall in love, get married and have a child. Something in your life is lacking..you need to figure out what that is......Try not to think of having a baby right now......It's definately not what you need at this time in your life. Best of luck*
2007-05-16 20:18:55 · answer #7 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal to want a baby..most woman do! Dont go out and act on that though! At least finish school because trust me a baby doesnt make you work harder at school...it takes your attention AWAY from school and to the baby! If you want something to love and take care of..get a puppy...its hard but NO WHERE NEAR as hard as a baby! Spoil the puppy and wait a few years to have a baby!
2007-05-16 20:17:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should do what you feel like, as long as you're able to. It will give you somebody to love and take care of alright, but consider that babies demand a lot of your time and energy, so they're obviously not just a novelty. If I were you, I'd wait until you've graduated college, because more likely than not -- you won't have time for college with a baby to take care of.
2007-05-16 20:21:31 · answer #9 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you dont. Trust me. Go through college find a good job and a good man, get married and THEN think about babies. Babies arent all fun and games you know there is SOOOOO much more to it than that. You will never get through college if you have a baby, I know that for a fact. Take your time, life is to short.
2007-05-16 23:15:29 · answer #10 · answered by Mommy to 2 A.n.g.e.l.s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋