Why do some guys disrespect a girls descision to break up with her and continue to persue her even though he knows she isn't ready, and even after breaking up still trys to push her around, untill she agree's to be his girlfriend again? You know I know someone like this, a "Godfearing man" a man who is so wonderfull to her(my friend) and her family, but to everyone else he is king and he know everything, and will be disrespectfull to anyone who gets close to her, but oh is he good he hides it well! Can you tell I'm a little bit annoyed! She isn't ready, everyone sees that, but she is being a pushover and allowing him to be a jerk(calling it true love even though he was always touching her even after they broke up, to me thats not true love is sickning), hes a jerk to the rest of her friends. We her friends have tried to help her, but it was no use. She doesn't see the true jerk behind the mask. Why do people play these games!! It drives me crazy!!
2007-05-16 12:26:30 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im not sure if you are asking a question or venting. Either way you're right to want to look out for her. I've had the same thing happen to some of my friends. It's very difficult when the family doesn't see it because she may be affraid to dissapoint them. If her father is like that then it may be all she knows. Then she will probably never know what a true relationship is all about. Atleast you can show her what true friendship is. Sounds like that's what she needs from you. You just don't want to make her feel stuck in the middle or torn between how you feel and how her family feels. It's her decission. It does hurt to see a friend in a bad situation like that and not know how to pull them out. Especially if they don't know they're in one. All I can tell you is to show her what a good relationship is by example. Talk to her about what you find good personally in a relationship without letting on that she's in a bad one. If your parents have a good relationship then talk about what your father does for your mother. Or if you're in one, ask her for advice on something simple like "Do you think I should give her roses or daisies?" Then go to something more simmilar to her relationship like "Do you think if I want to be more affectionate with my girlfriend and she doesn't she should do it to please me?" Are you with me? Go about it like it's your relationship you're concerned with. Sometime you have to see it happen to someone else before you see it's happening to you. And obviously she sees something is wrong if she keeps breaking up with him, so she's not tottaly blind to it. There may be some hope. Just don't give up and turn your back, true friends don't give up on each other. She's lucky to have a friend like you.
2007-05-16 13:37:41 · answer #1 · answered by polar bear 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you ask alot of questions. as far as continuing to pursue her... thats more than likely coming from a guy who has low self esteem, most bullies do. he also does not have her best interests in mind since he doesn't listen, nor it seems care, about her needs. also, men that try to alienate the women they go out with, generally do it out of the fear they have of losing the woman or having her think less of him due to what other people might say about him to her, another case of low self esteem. and as far as not seeing the jerk behind the mask, it's because she doesn't want to. a big fear that most people have is to lose something or someone that we've had in our life because we often fear there will be a hole left in our heart and we won't be able to fill it.
2007-05-16 19:58:34 · answer #2 · answered by S.D.Dave 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a jerk
i'd move or go on an extended vacation
2007-05-16 19:30:39 · answer #3 · answered by Lil Lawson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wonder why many women can't get enough of those kind of guys.
2007-05-17 01:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by robert p 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋